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    Firstly, if he just wants to talk about himself and doesn't listen to me.
    Secondly, if he is late and doesn't apologise.
    Thirdly, if he chooses the place, food, and it's more like me joining him rather than goin on a date where we both decide. Also, mentioning ex's because if he's still thinking about them why is he on a date with me. Also, if he comes dressed in his usual casual clothes, I mean it could suggest he didn't really bother trying to look good or put any effort in. PHONE! The amount of times I'm talking to myself when the other person is glued on his phone...
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    (Original post by Quantex)
    Forgetting to take their wedding ring off is a bit of a killer.
    Ouch
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    (Original post by Mustard-man)
    When I (as a man) have pay for more than 2 rounds of drinks without her even at least offering to buy one.
    I, as a girl, will always, out of principle offer to at least pay for my drinks/meal/fare (or whatever). I have money and am perfectly capable of buying things. If the guy insists on paying for my share (or whatever) than fair enough, I won't push the matter further.

    Turn offs? Probably being on his phone for more than necessary. Like fair enough checking the time if he's got to be somewhere for a certain time (but if you have a date you probably shouldn't. Just saying). Uh, also, not being presentable??? Like how difficult is it to put on a clean shirt and brush your hair??? Excuse me?
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    (Original post by AperfectBalance)
    I have a girlfriend so yeah
    Then first dates are most certainly not for you xD
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    (Original post by RainbowMan)
    I'll have you know that I was severely hurt when I read that you don't date right-wing guys. We can be lovely you know.
    Awww, here's a plaster :p: (You'll have to get somebody else to kiss it better though ) Seriously... I'm old and married, so why does it bother you who I would or would not date?

    As to your point, I always say that the measure of a person is how they treat people beneath them, who are annoying/unlovely/very different. Not how lovely they are to their families, friends and romantic partners However nice a person was around me, I would not be able to raise children with a man who holds views about other humans that I see as deeply immoral, incorrect and harmful.

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    How old
    Too lazy to look at profiles? :naughty::p:

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    Because we'll get carded and banned.
    #FreeTheColours #FreeTheEggPlant
    Do you have some kind of memory condition? :lolwut: People have explained to you more than once that this isn't true. What is it you get out of insisting that it is? :confused:
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    (Original post by Craghyrax)
    Awww, here's a plaster :p: (You'll have to get somebody else to kiss it better though ) Seriously... I'm old and married, so why does it bother you who I would or would not date?

    As to your point, I always say that the measure of a person is how they treat people beneath them, who are annoying/unlovely/very different. Not how lovely they are to their families, friends and romantic partners However nice a person was around me, I would not be able to raise children with a man who holds views about other humans that I see as deeply immoral, incorrect and harmful.
    First of all, older girls are bae. Second of all, you're not old at all. Third ... of all?, you're my dream girl, personality wise (I don't know what you look like but I bet you're hot AF).

    I was hurt but I feel better with the plaster now. Thx..

    So you think all right-wingers have "views about other humans" that you "see as deeply immoral, incorrect and harmful."?

    E.g. I'm a liberal politically but I can co-exist with socialists and social democrats just fine. That's because there's a range of reasonable political ideologies and social democracy falls within it. Nazism or fascism and Stalinism are not on that spectrum and I'm pretty sure I couldn't co-exist with a Nazi or a Stalinist.

    Do you think all right-wingers fall outside of reasonable politics?

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    (Original post by AperfectBalance)
    -Smoking is a instant leave for me vaping too
    -Veggie/Vegan
    - big political difference
    - Peircing anything but earrings is a instant no.
    - Expects me to pay for everything because I am a man
    - No career prospects is a instant no
    - I dont like lots of makeup, I prefer none.
    - Overly feminine and immature
    - Obsessed with Beauty and clothes and handbags ect.
    Yet you're unable to realize you use "an" before the vowel.

    I wonder what your career prospects are you uneducated, ugly guy.
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    (Original post by physichemistry)
    Yet you're unable to realize you use "an" before the vowel.

    I wonder what your career prospects are you uneducated, ugly guy.
    Oh no I made a mistake while being on strong painkillers. well I guess my career is over
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    (Original post by UWS)
    What are things that people do on a first date that just make you get totally put off?

    Got any stories to share?

    Now I haven't been on a date myself (cue violins playing), but I'd say the following would put me off..

    - Being late
    - Texting and ignoring me

    Discuss.
    Him: Shall we talk about my ex?

    Me: *talking to self* I am here you know!
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    (Original post by AperfectBalance)
    Oh no I made a mistake while being on strong painkillers. well I guess my career is over
    Who on earth blames their lack of intelligence on painkillers.
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    (Original post by physichemistry)
    Who on earth blames their lack of intelligence on painkillers.
    I am on morphine so yeah it is a pretty sensible thing to say I am not in my best mental state
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    (Original post by Boreism)
    Him: Shall we talk about my ex?

    Me: *talking to self* I am here you know!
    Has that actually happened :rofl:
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    If they don`t have good manners and etiquette, and if they don`t put effort into looking pretty for that date, and if they smack their lips it`s something that I can`t stand, it makes me feel like moving to a cave where I can listen to music in peace ~~
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Has that actually happened :rofl:
    Not literally, but he did actually talk about his ex though...more than he should as it made feel a little isolated.
    I wouldn't have mind if it was 10 minutes into the date but if it is throughout the whole date then that tells me he's not over her. But that is my personal opinion. :p:
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    (Original post by AperfectBalance)
    -Smoking is a instant leave for me vaping too
    -Veggie/Vegan
    - big political difference
    - Peircing anything but earrings is a instant no.
    - Expects me to pay for everything because I am a man
    - No career prospects is a instant no
    - I dont like lots of makeup, I prefer none.
    - Overly feminine and immature
    - Obsessed with Beauty and clothes and handbags ect.
    I'm a vegetarian, but I don't expect anyone else to stop eating meat. They have to have JUST the right amount of make up then? Well, good luck with that.

    How old are you?
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    (Original post by YaliaV)
    I'm a vegetarian, but I don't expect anyone else to stop eating meat. They have to have JUST the right amount of make up then? Well, good luck with that.

    How old are you?
    Whatwhatwhatwhat?!
    I'm not the only Vegetarian here?!?!?!?!
    Result!!!!!
    I'm 17.
    Don't give a F**K what people like to eat.
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    (Original post by YaliaV)
    I'm a vegetarian, but I don't expect anyone else to stop eating meat. They have to have JUST the right amount of make up then? Well, good luck with that.

    How old are you?
    I dont mind vegitarians and I respect that you dont expect anyone else to stop good on you. But for me cooking is a passion of mine and I enjoy cooking for other people and meat is one of my things I couldnt live with out. So being a vegitarian that was in a relationship would be hard on me and them.

    As for makeup I prefer none or just a little makeup but as long as you are not caked in it and look really false. there is not a fine line I just dont like people that wear a ton of makeup.

    I am 16 and I have a girlfriend that ticks all of those boxes
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