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    Also having a full beard without at least trimming it down. I don't want to kiss a cactus thank you. :nah:
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    (Original post by Craghyrax)
    - Lack of depth.. anybody whose not analytical and doesn't have any interest in talking things through thoroughly
    I can never stand lack of depth too :yy::yy::yy::yy::yy:
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    (Original post by Corbynista)
    Hair growth is natural, cutting hair isn't. My beard is nice and soft not like a cactus...
    Well that's good, but I'm speaking from personal preference here.
    I've had conversations with my friends about guys (as girls do :rolleyes:) and most of them say the same thing about the beard thing; becoming like kissing a cactus...so it's not just me. :lol::tongue:
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    (Original post by RainbowMan)
    First of all, older girls are bae. Second of all, you're not old at all. Third ... of all?, you're my dream girl, personality wise (I don't know what you look like but I bet you're hot AF).

    I was hurt but I feel better with the plaster now. Thx..
    Trolling aside, thanks for the compliment :p: If you know how old I am, you probably also know what I look like as I have a profile pic?
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    So you think all right-wingers have "views about other humans" that you "see as deeply immoral, incorrect and harmful."?
    I think a categorical statement is unwise given how many different definitions people might have in mind for 'right wing'... I would certainly be open to changing my mind about a person, depending on what their particular views were and why they hold them. But the answer I gave was about instant turnoffs, and if this were a situation like online dating, those who mentioned right wing affiliation would certainly end up on the reject pile. If I met somebody via shared networks, that might be different over time. But it would still factor in when it came to first impressions. My default heuristic for accounting for right wing views is that the person is either ignorant or evil My Dad is a very smart and moral right wing person who I dearly love. (I didn't realise that I was a kind of default conservative until I started my degree (SPS)... I didn't have any engagement in politics beforehand). But he is also overconfident, ignorant, and going on years of reading the Financial Times and the Economist :sigh: Obviously a misinformed person could be talked round as long as they genuinely gave a crap. But I don't think whacking a person over the head with the specifics of why everything they think is wrong usually makes for a good first date :p: Unless they liked arguing as much as me :sly: Usually it just gets people defensive though :sadnod: I think right wing views can also indicate that a person has very rigid, black and white ways of thinking about things, which would be a big no.

    E.g. I'm a liberal politically but I can co-exist with socialists and social democrats just fine. That's because there's a range of reasonable political ideologies and social democracy falls within it. Nazism or fascism and Stalinism are not on that spectrum and I'm pretty sure I couldn't co-exist with a Nazi or a Stalinist.
    Do you think all right-wingers fall outside of reasonable politics?
    I guess I already covered this. No I don't think all right wingers fall outside of reasonable politics. What matters to me is that the person in question cares about human happiness and minimising human suffering, generally. If they do value this and come to different conclusions to me about what that means for politics, morality and lifestyle choices, that isn't necessarily the end of things... but it does come down to what those reasons are, and whether we can both see where the other comes from. My husband has become more liberal and centrist in his views and less left wing since we met eachother. Sometimes that is hard and can lead to arguments. But since I have that trust in him that his real concern is with what approaches are the best for humans generally, and that he is open minded and compassionate, it isn't a major problem. More of a positive pressure for me to check my own stances, and to be willing to consider new arguments and factors.
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    I hope it's clear half of my post is trolling as was my original post .

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    (Original post by Boreism)
    Well that's good, but I'm speaking from personal preference here.
    I've had conversations with my friends about guys (as girls do :rolleyes:) and most of them say the same thing about the beard thing; becoming like kissing a cactus...so it's not just me. :lol::tongue:
    Kissing a cactus :rofl:

    Thankfully I don't have that problem
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    (Original post by Corbynista)
    No profile pic unless you mean the anime one.
    :confused: Maybe there's some kind of glitch? What do you see here? I get this:

    I see there's a beard discussion :p: Beards used to be on my 'no' list. Now I think they can look good, but I agree about the kissing thing. I often have to send my OH to shave because he's in hedgehog mode.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Kissing a cactus :rofl:

    Thankfully I don't have that problem
    I can just about manage to kiss a guy who has a little stubble though...:lol:
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    (Original post by Corbynista)
    Just the anime picture.... Perhaps it is your privacy settings or because you are staff or something like that.
    Thanks. I had a break from TSR not too long ago. I guess I still have some catching up to do on updates.
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    Ok I guess I missed that we now have 'privacy settings' on TSR :o::o::o: It's fixed now.
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    Talking about their ex!! 🙄
 
 
 
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