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    I've read loads of things with people saying that they pay £10 a week and parent who say we shouldn't get charged to live at home, so me paying £80 /week adds up.
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    Perfectly reasonable.

    If you don't like it, you can leave.
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    How much do you earn? Your parents have probably lost that much in benefits they used to get for you.

    As above - it's reasonable. You won't find anywhere cheaper with bills included.
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    Especially if that covers food/bills it's very reasonable. You can move out if you prefer.
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    (Original post by ByronicHero)
    Perfectly reasonable.

    If you don't like it, you can leave.
    This.

    I'm not being funny but your parents have looked after you and provided for you since you were born. Now you are capable of looking after yourself and paying bills. I don't know your parents situation but maybe your parents need the money to pay bills. Alternatively you could look into moving out.
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    (Original post by ByronicHero)
    Perfectly reasonable.

    If you don't like it, you can leave.
    Wow, I wouldn't want to be your child.

    "Here son, here is the door"
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    (Original post by Max_Walker)
    Wow, I wouldn't want to be your child.

    "Here son, here is the door"
    Children typically don't enjoy having to grow up, so I'm not surprised.

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    Seems quite reasonable it's less than renting a place especially if your parents have to pay council tax for you
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    (Original post by ByronicHero)
    Children typically don't enjoy having to grow up, so I'm not surprised.

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    Yes, but throwing them out at 18 won't do them any good. I don't mean to be racist (I probably will look like it now) but this is a typical white thing to do, no chinese, indian or arab family would dream of throwing their kids out at 18.

    This is how kids end up on drugs/alcohol and/or the streets, you give them no support.

    I think the government should pay child benefit to 21, call it support allowance after 18. Even throwing someone out at 21 is bad, people only really mature into the late twenties, early thirties.
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    (Original post by ByronicHero)
    Perfectly reasonable.

    If you don't like it, you can leave.
    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    How much do you earn? Your parents have probably lost that much in benefits they used to get for you.

    As above - it's reasonable. You won't find anywhere cheaper with bills included.
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    Especially if that covers food/bills it's very reasonable. You can move out if you prefer.
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    This.

    I'm not being funny but your parents have looked after you and provided for you since you were born. Now you are capable of looking after yourself and paying bills. I don't know your parents situation but maybe your parents need the money to pay bills. Alternatively you could look into moving out.
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    Wow, I wouldn't want to be your child.

    "Here son, here is the door"
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    Seems quite reasonable it's less than renting a place especially if your parents have to pay council tax for you
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    Yes, but throwing them out at 18 won't do them any good. I don't mean to be racist (I probably will look like it now) but this is a typical white thing to do, no chinese, indian or arab family would dream of throwing their kids out at 18.

    This is how kids end up on drugs/alcohol and/or the streets, you give them no support.

    I think the government should pay child benefit to 21, call it support allowance after 18. Even throwing someone out at 21 is bad, people only really mature into the late twenties, early thirties.
    Thanks for your responses. Just to clarify I'm not 18 yet (hence why I'm asking) but I get that it's a good amount to pay with everything else being paid for.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    How much do you earn? Your parents have probably lost that much in benefits they used to get for you.

    As above - it's reasonable. You won't find anywhere cheaper with bills included.
    I earn just under minimum wage so I get that. Thank you
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    (Original post by AnonyMeAMA)
    Thanks for your responses. Just to clarify I'm not 18 yet (hence why I'm asking) but I get that it's a good amount to pay with everything else being paid for.
    If you're working full time i d say being under 18 is a major difference in my mind, i offered my mum my ema at that age. They wont be paying council tax for you yet i think but that amount would be covering a third of household bills i recon and i bet you're good at budgeting now you pay for your keep
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    If you're working full time i d say being under 18 is a major difference in my mind, i offered my mum my ema at that age. They wont be paying council tax for you yet i think but that amount would be covering a third of household bills i recon and i bet you're good at budgeting now you pay for your keep
    Ah right! I don't mind helping with bills and stuff and i like finding ways to save my money
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    (Original post by Max_Walker)
    Yes, but throwing them out at 18 won't do them any good. I don't mean to be racist (I probably will look like it now) but this is a typical white thing to do, no chinese, indian or arab family would dream of throwing their kids out at 18.

    This is how kids end up on drugs/alcohol and/or the streets, you give them no support.

    I think the government should pay child benefit to 21, call it support allowance after 18. Even throwing someone out at 21 is bad, people only really mature into the late twenties, early thirties.
    I know various people from minority ethnic backgrounds who were thrown out by their parents. You are right that it is certainly far less common though. There is a big difference between asking them to leave, and creating very reasonable conditions of residence that they can choose to opt out of.

    Asking for your child to make a contribution to their upkeep is entirely reasonable, even if you don't need the money. It teaches them something about responsibility. My child will be doing so as soon as they leave school. If I don't need the money, it will all go into an account they won't know about to be used as a mortgage deposit or whatever. The lesson is valuable.

    If you have the money, you should help your parents. I moved out at 16 and have routinely helped my mum out with considerable amounts of money. It seems ridiculous to me that an adult would expect to be in a position to help and not offer to. Let alone waiting to be asked. I agree with you that people mature throughout their 20s, but delaying your child's adulthood for no good reason does them no favours.

    I recognise that there are cultural differences, and respect a parents right to support their child for as long as they want. I also commend parents who don't want to let their progeny become overgrown toddlers.

    Do you not find this reasonable?
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    (Original post by AnonyMeAMA)
    Thanks for your responses. Just to clarify I'm not 18 yet (hence why I'm asking) but I get that it's a good amount to pay with everything else being paid for.
    but you work full time? if you've left education then your parents have lost the child support they used to get for you

    £25 at least will be going on your food every week, possible more like £30 given they won't be shopping on a student budget

    that leaves £50 which goes pretty quickly on bills, there'll be maybe £10-20 left for them to have just for rent
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    but you work full time? if you've left education then your parents have lost the child support they used to get for you

    £25 at least will be going on your food every week, possible more like £30 given they won't be shopping on a student budget

    that leaves £50 which goes pretty quickly on bills, there'll be maybe £10-20 left for them to have just for rent
    Yeah I do and yeah I get that my parent has lost it for me but not the other kid.

    They don't pay rent though, but I understand it's not a lot to contribute the £80
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    Doesn't really matter if it is reasonable or not. It is their house. They can name their price. If you don't like it, live elsewhere.
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    Doesn't really matter if it is reasonable or not. It is their house. They can name their price. If you don't like it, live elsewhere.
    Fair enough. I was just curious to see how it compares to others'.
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    (Original post by AnonyMeAMA)
    I earn just under minimum wage so I get that. Thank you
    Unless the parents are in a difficult situation, I think that is quite heartless to make their child pay, especially if they're under 18.
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    (Original post by Josb)
    Unless the parents are in a difficult situation, I think that is quite heartless to make their child pay, especially if they're under 18.
    That's a reasonable way of looking at it, and I think I feel the same way but at the same time i think it's not as bad as if I fended for myself
 
 
 
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