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    'Yeah, it's to a friend -- sorry, it's kind of personal'. There. You've just told him to stop asking about it and been polite at the same time. Even if he shouldn't have been asking, I personally find it really grating when people just don't answer rather than coming out and saying they don't want to talk right now/ don't want to discuss something in particular. Also, if you actually say expressly that it's not up for discussion, he can't really come back the next day and ask you about it. Or if he does, then you are justified in just telling him to mind his own business.

    Personally if I have an intensely private matter to deal with I don't do it in public where everyone can see my screen. That way no-one asks me about it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    Eventually our convo goes something like this:
    Him: is that an email you're typing?
    Me: yeah...
    Him: that is a long email. Is it to a friend?
    Me: yeah...
    (At this point he probably wanted me to expand but as I said it was a private matter so didn't really know what else to say)
    Him: I'm guessing your friend lives abroad?
    Me: yeah they do.

    Depends on the tone of voice u used!
    Just normal tone. But like each time expecting the convo to stop so there were awkward pauses where he was waiting for me to say more. I didn't. So he had to ask another q. Rinse and repeat.
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    (Original post by TimmonaPortella)
    'Yeah, it's to a friend -- sorry, it's kind of personal'. There. You've just told him to stop asking about it and been polite at the same time. Even if he shouldn't have been asking, I personally find it really grating when people just don't answer rather than coming out and saying they don't want to talk right now/ don't want to discuss something in particular. Also, if you actually say expressly that it's not up for discussion, he can't really come back the next day and ask you about it. Or if he does, then you are justified in just telling him to mind his own business.

    Personally if I have an intensely private matter to deal with I don't do it in public where everyone can see my screen. That way no-one asks me about it.
    I know. I was going to a coffee shop to write it initially but been having *****y weather recently and been bringing my own lunch so was just easier to be at my desk. I'll take ur approach next time. Atleast like u said it doesn't give a chance for the other person to come back. In all honesty I always mind my own business so just assumed it would be the same the other way round. Like I'd only have to expected him to ask if I'd offered something first like "oh this email is taking so long" etc
 
 
 
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