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    I'm female and probably one of the older ones on here I went to university several years late. I find that because I'm very quiet and am not great at socialising (don't have the gift of the gab) people tend to ignore me a lot like even when I speak up in group work etc no one acknowledges they just keep talking interrupting me it's literally like I'm invisible. On rare occasions I do manage to get a point across lol but I find this to be the same if I go out with people too I just don't have the banter skills to be taken seriously/wanted as a friend. This is my fault too as I'm very introverted/enjoy my own company so I don't get the urge to talk. I never have, apparently as a kid I didn't speak till I was 2 which is apparently very late lol.

    Anyway I guess being like this sort of makes me a target, for example people say things to me/about me that they just wouldn't say to/about others as they don't respect me. I know a man who previously I used to go to the gym with (he used to train me) and if he was in a bad mood he would use a reason to get annoyed at me rather than others in his group. Because I thought he was a good bloke under all this I agreed to date him when he asked me out. Since we broke up though he has turned nasty, tells people all my faults, that I've had a 'sheltered upbringing' that in sports I'm classed an as 'old maid' now etc and uses any reason to criticise when I'm around him. I just ignore it all like I do when anyone tries to get at me.

    I've always adopted the view on life that insults and criticism etc won't stop someone from succeeding, like people can say what they want to about us but as long as we just keep working towards our goals and just focus on the people who are nice to us we will be fine. Would you say this is the best way to go about things though or do you believe in confronting people/having things out with them?

    Sorry if this has bored you ha I was just looking for opinions, is it good to ignore negative people or not?
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    im sorry you had to go through all of this:console:

    tbh i know that some words that are said- stay in your mind, but ignoring them is better.
    Who cares what others think of you? As long as you're happy- that's all that matters:yep:

    in terms of the sociallising part you said about- what you could do, is try to engage more? the more you try and talk to them- the more they'll realise you're quite friendly and therefore will get on?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm female and probably one of the older ones on here I went to university several years late. I find that because I'm very quiet and am not great at socialising (don't have the gift of the gab) people tend to ignore me a lot like even when I speak up in group work etc no one acknowledges they just keep talking interrupting me it's literally like I'm invisible. On rare occasions I do manage to get a point across lol but I find this to be the same if I go out with people too I just don't have the banter skills to be taken seriously/wanted as a friend. This is my fault too as I'm very introverted/enjoy my own company so I don't get the urge to talk. I never have, apparently as a kid I didn't speak till I was 2 which is apparently very late lol.
    I'm the same tbh, mainly in groups I can't talk that much because
    1) my voice isn't very loud so people don't hear me usually.
    2) I'm not that good with small talk.

    I'm fine in one on one convos though.

    Try and make some one on one friends. I don't really have groups of friends I just have certain people I speak to on facebook when im bored.
 
 
 
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