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    I am an 18 year old boy who can never attract good friends (they always make fun of me ,disrespect etc)

    I am 18 year old who cant even become friends with a girl -.-, I mean I have never whatsapped a girl. Basically I have never been friends with a girl

    I have never kissed,hugged or flirted with a girl

    No matter how hard i try noone ever is interested in me. LIKE WTF AM I DOING WRONG.

    I am not ugly at all, I am average height, I have good grades, I am outgoing.
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    Don't go out of your way to look/talk to girls- I personally believe that puts them off.

    Socialise and you'll naturally find yourself talking to a girl and by the sounds of it's your traits will naturally attract them.
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    (Original post by calm down)
    Don't go out of your way to look/talk to girls- I personally believe that puts them off.

    Socialise and you'll naturally find yourself talking to a girl and by the sounds of it's your traits will naturally attract them.
    I socialise in school , I am popular but also lonely. I dont understand
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    Don't go out of your way to look/talk to girls- I personally believe that puts them off.

    Socialise and you'll naturally find yourself talking to a girl and by the sounds of it's your traits will naturally attract them.
    Your username is very appropriate for this thread
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    Hi, I am your female counterpart! :hi:

    (The only difference between you and me is that I have spoken with boys and have hugged three guys before.)

    I would give you advice, but I am in more or less the same situation, so...

    I can only guess that you may not be around your kind of people, that you may always be the third wheel in a group of people who have known each other for X years, that you may not have self-confidence, that you may be seen as having a certain flaw (boring, annoying, unsociable, overly sensitive, etc, whether that is true or not), that you may not seem to be a fun person to be around (which is most likely inaccurate, but people's perceptions matter a lot in this area) or that you may not even try to talk to girls in the first place. Luckily, people's opinions are influenceable and if you find the cause of the problem, you can easily pluck it from the root.

    I need more context to say anything for sure, though. :sadnod:
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    Hi, I am your female counterpart! :hi:

    (The only difference between you and me is that I have spoken with and hugged three guys before.)

    I would give you advice, but I am in more or less the same situation, so...

    I can only guess that you may not be around your kind of people, that you may always be the third wheel in a group of people who have known each other for X years, that you may not have self-confidence, that you may be seen as having a certain flaw (boring, annoying, unsociable, overly sensitive, etc, whether that is true or not), that you may not seem to be a fun person to be around (which is most likely inaccurate, but people's perceptions matter a lot in this area) or that you may not even try to talk to girls in the first place. Luckily, people's opinions are influenceable and if you find the cause of the problem, you can easily pluck it from the root.

    I need more context to say anything for sure, though. :sadnod:
    Hey I have been talking to people who have known each other for lots of years so i can understand that but i still see it as meh.

    Idk if I am boring I can make people laugh easily
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    Pretty much the same as you; popular but lonely, though not as inexperienced.

    It's been suggested time and time again, but putting yourself out there and looking for ways to meet different types of people is probably the best solution.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am an 18 year old boy who can never attract good friends (they always make fun of me ,disrespect etc)

    I am 18 year old who cant even become friends with a girl -.-, I mean I have never whatsapped a girl. Basically I have never been friends with a girl

    I have never kissed,hugged or flirted with a girl

    No matter how hard i try noone ever is interested in me. LIKE WTF AM I DOING WRONG.

    I am not ugly at all, I am average height, I have good grades, I am outgoing.
    Step 1. Become attractive
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey I have been talking to people who have known each other for lots of years so i can understand that but i still see it as meh.

    Idk if I am boring I can make people laugh easily
    Yeah, well, whenever I moved to a new school where EVERYONE I knew had been friends for 3-10 years (which happened twice), I did not have much luck since I was an outsider. They did try to include me and I appreciated it, but it is extremely difficult to find yourself a place among a group who has known each other for so long. (This goes double if they are the type of friends who go out together, sleep over at each other's places, and throw their own small parties while they never invite you to anything.)

    That means you are most likely not boring.

    So, you said you are popular. Have you considered that maybe girls may not talk to you since they do not know how to approach you? Most girls wait to be approached; they hardly ever initiate a friendship or relationship. Try talking to girls first.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I socialise in school , I am popular but also lonely. I dont understand
    thats a lie, if your popular girls will talk to you, its as simple as that
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    (Original post by Michiyo)
    Yeah, well, whenever I moved to a new school where EVERYONE I knew had been friends for 3-10 years (which happened twice), I did not have much luck since I was an outsider. They did try to include me and I appreciated it, but it is extremely difficult to find yourself a place among a group who has known each other for so long. (This goes double if they are the type of friends who go out together, sleep over at each other's places, and throw their own small parties while they never invite you to anything.)

    That means you are most likely not boring.

    So, you said you are popular. Have you considered that maybe girls may not talk to you since they do not know how to approach you? Most girls wait to be approached; they hardly ever initiate a friendship or relationship. Try talking to girls first.
    I guess i did approach a girl, she was horrible and that just lowered my self esteem
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I guess i did approach a girl, she was horrible and that just lowered my self esteem
    She was the exception, not the rule. Try another girl who seems nice.
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    I guess i've failed my teenage years too but oh well idc about relationships.
    Ive got amazing friends though which i am thankful for so I can try to give advice on that. To me, I feel like to make good friends you should hang out more with those that you get on well the most with or those who are similar as you. Then find something you have in common with so it can get you guys talking more.
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    (Original post by Michiyo)
    She was the exception, not the rule. Try another girl who seems nice.
    That guy has got a true point ya know lol
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I guess i did approach a girl, she was horrible and that just lowered my self esteem
    Not all girls are like that- I'm sure you'll find somebody nice!
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    My 12 year old self aspired to lose his virginity before he got to the age of consent rather than after. Poor guy. Generally though the you of 5 years ago tends to be a massive ****** when current you is 18. Don't worry about him.

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    No matter how hard i try noone ever is interested in me. LIKE WTF AM I DOING WRONG.
    My friend used to try really hard too. He's now ended up dating with a girl he became friends with p much by accident. Point is getting extremely invested in the process of trying is kind of unneeded, you probably need to be more natural as calm down said. For most people girls just sort of show up at points eventually, providing you generally be sociable and not some kinda manically depressed hermit.
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    I've never tried to be with girls- I've always found myself naturally having conversations with them/ them making a move on me.

    Think it'll just happen naturally.
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