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    Hi, I was diagnosed with aspergers at the age of 7 and I'm now 17 and in my final year of college. I have applied for five different universities to study teaching and Specialised Inclusion, and I have now been offered a place at all of the universities that I have applied for. The universities are quite far away from home and it would require me to live away from home for the first time to study at university. But, my mum seems to think that she can stop me from going because of my aspergers and because she seems to have the idea in her head that due to my aspergers I shouldn't be living alone. Can she actually stop me from going?
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    Fairly certain legally she cannot stop you.
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    I recommend you to set with your mum and listen to her point of view and discuss your point,convence her and make her happy instead ,you will feel better when you go to study.
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    (Original post by Ysrobinson)
    Hi, I was diagnosed with aspergers at the age of 7 and I'm now 17 and in my final year of college. I have applied for five different universities to study teaching and Specialised Inclusion, and I have now been offered a place at all of the universities that I have applied for. The universities are quite far away from home and it would require me to live away from home for the first time to study at university. But, my mum seems to think that she can stop me from going because of my aspergers and because she seems to have the idea in her head that due to my aspergers I shouldn't be living alone. Can she actually stop me from going?
    Well really you wouldn't be alone so you can base your argument off that.
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    (Original post by Ysrobinson)
    Hi, I was diagnosed with aspergers at the age of 7 and I'm now 17 and in my final year of college. I have applied for five different universities to study teaching and Specialised Inclusion, and I have now been offered a place at all of the universities that I have applied for. The universities are quite far away from home and it would require me to live away from home for the first time to study at university. But, my mum seems to think that she can stop me from going because of my aspergers and because she seems to have the idea in her head that due to my aspergers I shouldn't be living alone. Can she actually stop me from going?
    I can understand your mum is concerned, but everyone has to develop their independence somehow - have you tried talking to your mum about why you are so keen to go. If she realises you are really passionate about your degree course and how much it will help your career, she may be more willing to let you go. You could perhaps agree to come home a couple of times a term and phone several times a week so she can be reassured you are happy and safe? Do you have any friends from school who are planning to go to the same university? If so, you'll have a friend to help you settle in
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    not unless you're judged as lacking the capacity to understand your decision - which you're clearly not

    try and understand from your mum's perspective she probably sees you as quite vulnerable and worries about how you'll cope but in all honesty if you have aspergers but know how to cook/clean/budget you're probably going to cope better than 75% of students! perhaps you could talk to her about what she thinks will go wrong so you can try and plan for it, e.g. learn to cook, practice budgeting
 
 
 
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