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    I've found that simply waiting for my problems to disappear while I'm listening to music never really works. So yeah, I'm trying to overcome this stuff by enjoying what life gives me every day and actually trying to change sth.
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    For the most part, hard times are temporary. Just weather the storm and it'll pass.
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    (Original post by Laeliakiwi)
    Listening to heroin by Velvet Underground always makes me emotional :cry2:
    So how did you get through a really difficult time and do you have any advice for someone going through tough times?


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    - surround myself with supportive friends

    - go to the gym (esp. if i'm feeling really down)

    - go home & hang with family

    - cry (if I need to)

    - make time to think about possible solutions, or just invest in some me-time if no solution.
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    It really does depend on the situation but in general I would:

    Listening to sad music to make me feel even more emo
    Crying (if I felt like it)
    Sleeping
    Literally just ignore the problem
    Talking to my friends!!! This is the most useful one to me.
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    I'm 17yrs old. And I went through extreme depression after an event. It left me traumatised. The way I dealt with it was by talking to a family friend. He is very intelligent and he was literally my psychiatrist at that point. Talking to him helped me sooooo much. I realised at that point that people need people. We r nothing without each other and we r lost. We always need that one wise person in our life who doesn't demotivate and doesn't taunt us.
    I think it really helped me. So find someone worthy of talking to, someone who is intelligent and cAn advise u. Seriously I think my uncle is amazing 👊🏼
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    (Original post by Rhythmical)
    Listened to music and surrounded myself around people who I care about and who care for me.
    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    I focused on what gave me most joy and also what needed help more than I did which was my pets. They reminded me that I had a reason to go on, not only because they needed me to feed them and look after them but because there were still great joy in my life and that I wasn't alone , despite the negative things I was going through and that still more joy in life was yet to be discovered

    Helping others such as on here with MH and personal problem and worries and doing voluntary work helped too
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    I think the most difficult times in my life I just had to keep telling myself there were people I still had to live for and that as we only get so many years to live that there was no point dwelling on the past all the time.
    (Original post by Popsiclez)
    Well my Year 7-10 days and currently sometimes 11 have been hell both at school and home, its really just a thing of you're gonna have to face it theres no turning back time, all you can do is prepare yourself to soften the blow, and don't be afraid to cry, when things get too hard and just do something to make you feel better, watch a funny tv show or movie, listen to YT videos or music or read. It also helps to not think about the present but the future, cause remember the saying "One day you'll look back at this and laugh", the bad times eventually pass but so does the good, time is continuous. Just think about all the times in the past you faced a crappy situation you survived them and this will just be another one of those moments in like 10 years time.
    (Original post by TheExtrovertGod)
    Apart from that one time I almost threw myself off a 1000ft bridge or w/e i've been ok
    (Original post by Leviathan1741)
    Music has always helped me get through tough times, and talking about any issues I'm having with people close to me (not necessarily family though). Also mentally preparing myself for the worst (if you've read my blog you may know what I'm referring to), so that if it did happen, it wouldn't be quite such a shock.

    One thing I always try to remind myself is that even if you feel totally alone in life, you've always got one person - you. So you need to look after yourself and try not to get overwhelmed by negativity
    (Original post by AppleB)
    Music tbh plus talking to people about my issue.
    (Original post by saraxh)
    I think I was 11/12. I lost someone. This song helped at the time although I still cried for years(still do). Idk if i'd say I've fully overcome it though.
    (Original post by jay2013)
    You will never get over whatever it is that's happening in your life. It will haunt you until the last of your days. Trust me I speak from experience :cry2:
    (Original post by Popsiclez)
    Holy crap you must piss out dust.
    (Original post by NI30241834)
    I worked every hour i could get at mcdonalds dont know why but working hard made me feel better.
    (Original post by Mistletoe)
    Nearly died from sepsis a few years ago because of chronic eczema, took years to recover and covered my whole body. Docs gave me steroids which made things worse because they made my itch-scratch cycle worse. At some times it was so bad behind my legs that I couldn't walk. Only way to recover was through continuous thought on how I can improve my situation and dedicating myself to fully to recovery, also my family helped a lot. Has completely gone now.
    (Original post by LeCroissant)
    Listening to emo music and spending most of my time studying.
    (Original post by Allie4)
    always try to think positively... even though its bloody hard sometimes!
    (Original post by the bear)
    just think of your favorite things...















    (Original post by RainbowMan)
    Don't know why? you're focusing on your work and you don't think about your problems. Classic. It's horrible for people whose problems just won't go away on their own though.
    (Original post by Airmed)
    I'm gyming and listening to the music, because otherwise I'd be a crying wreck
    (Original post by UWS)
    Talking to my closest friends for support really helped.
    (Original post by IKEAPanda37)
    Basically just cried for hours

    And then told my parents everything to get it all of my chest

    Music helps too

    (Original post by Rhaenys10)
    I've found that simply waiting for my problems to disappear while I'm listening to music never really works. So yeah, I'm trying to overcome this stuff by enjoying what life gives me every day and actually trying to change sth.
    (Original post by ThePricklyOne)
    - surround myself with supportive friends

    - go to the gym (esp. if i'm feeling really down)

    - go home & hang with family

    - cry (if I need to)

    - make time to think about possible solutions, or just invest in some me-time if no solution.
    (Original post by 1secondsofvamps)
    It really does depend on the situation but in general I would:

    Listening to sad music to make me feel even more emo
    Crying (if I felt like it)
    Sleeping
    Literally just ignore the problem
    Talking to my friends!!! This is the most useful one to me.
    (Original post by subhastar)
    I'm 17yrs old. And I went through extreme depression after an event. It left me traumatised. The way I dealt with it was by talking to a family friend. He is very intelligent and he was literally my psychiatrist at that point. Talking to him helped me sooooo much. I realised at that point that people need people. We r nothing without each other and we r lost. We always need that one wise person in our life who doesn't demotivate and doesn't taunt us.
    I think it really helped me. So find someone worthy of talking to, someone who is intelligent and cAn advise u. Seriously I think my uncle is amazing 👊🏼


    Didn't expect many people to post! Thanks for sharing guys! Lots of love for you all :hugs:
    I guess these things will pass in time
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    I'm not exactly 'over' all of it yet but I cried for hours on end, listened to music, isolated myself and contemporary dancing really.
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    Distractions. It is always immediately painful during this difficult time, but as time goes on your adjust and normalize to the situation. Your body cannot keep anxiety up forever.

    So things like reading and maybe happy video games (this didn't work for me, because I can think while play so I end up thinking about it), and keeping busy with homework.

    Also, having a network of friends, maybe not even talking about the issue but feeling part of a group that likes you is good, and YouTube has helped me a lot (shoutout to Game Grumps).
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    Often if you're really upset distractions don't work for too long, and you get stuck in something called a ' happiness trap'. That's the title of a really good self help book by Russ Harris. There is another one called the reality slap which I think is even better. It has many mindfulness excercises, the sort of thing you'd do with a therapist, which really do help. Of course family support can also be amazing, but mindfulness can let you declutter your mind and calm your body, as well as allieviate your body from the painful physical feelings that come with low mood.
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    Express your feelings to someone you trust and remember that so far you have a 100% success rate of getting through bad days. Sounds cheesy but it helps. Don't wallow in your feelings. I tend to do that a lot and it doesn't help.
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    I like to put it into perspective.

    I remember that other people always have it worse and I'm lucky to have food, clean water, a house, education, safety, parents, good health and prospects. I am so much more fortunate than so many people to have all of those. Also, I'm such a tiny speck on a tiny planet in a tiny solar system in an hugeeee universe, what does it matter in the scheme of things really?!
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    In my personal experience I was having trouble viewing myself as a strong person on the outside. What I felt internally didn't translate well into the way I was/acted/dealt with things. So to convince myself that I could do difficult things I designed a tattoo and got it done, as a signal to myself that if I could sit for two hours in pain to have something brilliant come out of the end, I could stand something for longer to have something even better. I think the most important thing is taking time for yourself and understanding that some things are just out of your control.
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    Everytime I have gone through something difficult, I remind myself that just like the previous time, this too shall pass. What doesn't kill you does make you stronger.

    I surround myself with friends who truly care about me, love me and will always be there for me.

    I retreat to my hiding place and speak to God.

    I listen to soothing music. Particularly I love listening to "Blessings" by Laura Story.

    I immerse myself in the things that I love doing such as hiking, working out, reading a book, sight seeing.
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    I've tried soooo many methods. I think that the best thing to do is to do a sport/physical activity (to get all the feelings you can't express verbally off your chest), and vent to friends.

    I enjoy swimming, running, and yoga. Particularly because they're activities where you really have to focus on yourself. You have to learn to regulate your breathing while swimming, and when I'm stressed I forget to take deep breaths which really makes it hard to sleep. When I run, there's this build up where your muscles are burning and your lungs hurt and you feel like you have to stop, but if you keep running juuust past that point- you suddenly feel really free and light. And ya, yoga is yoga.
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    lots of way use medicine listening to music etc
 
 
 
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