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Virgin at 24

What's girls opinion on this? Is it normal? Also I've never had a girlfriend and haven't been kissed! :frown:

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Real women who are worth it won't care for your status as a virgin. Some may prefer experience, some may not, but if they're the one for you then it'll be insignificant. It could also be seen as a good thing because you won't be bringing old tricks to the table and will be able to explore your partner's body and learn what makes them tick easier.

What's more notable here is the lack of experience with women, which again isn't a bad thing, but it begs the question if there's anything we here can do to help that situation?
Not normal. You have a problem with women. Get a friend to teach you
Why are real women/worthy women/good women the only ones who won't hold you to any sorts of standards? ''Real women don't care if you're an unemployable ex-convict with a meth habit''
Original post by TheExtrovertGod
Not normal. You have a problem with women. Get a friend to teach you


With the exception of religious men, guys who lose their V tend late, tend to be really messed up. If you've gone through high school, sixth form, university, had jobs, general friends and still no nookie. It's weird.
Original post by l'etranger
Why are real women/worthy women/good women the only ones who won't hold you to any sorts of standards? ''Real women don't care if you're an unemployable ex-convict with a meth habit''


That's just to make him feel better. He doesn't need to be made to feel better, he needs to be made to feel whatever works in the long term.

Hence, it's obvious the guy has a problem.
Original post by l'etranger
Why are real women/worthy women/good women the only ones who won't hold you to any sorts of standards? ''Real women don't care if you're an unemployable ex-convict with a meth habit''


Because in the grand scheme of things one's experience sexually pales in comparison to the multitude of other character traits, attributes etc that one should be looking for. Preferences/standards are fine, but if upheld with no flexibility than ultimately it's restrictive and serves no purpose other than to reduce opportunities.

Though perhaps the use of the term "real women" was inappropriate in this scenario.
I am 77 and a virgin, very happy too :smile:
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Well i don't know really what you can do to help. I feel so lonely as all of my friends are in relationships. I struggle to get a girlfriend because they just reject me. :frown:
For a friend maybe, for a lover it's quite significant.
Original post by l'etranger
With the exception of religious men, guys who lose their V tend late, tend to be really messed up. If you've gone through high school, sixth form, university, had jobs, general friends and still no nookie. It's weird.


It's more to do with poor sociability. Look at all the pregnant chavs. They get it because they are social people (in their own groups). Poor sociability may reflect very badly on someone causing habits such as dirtiness, selfishness, etc, but the opposite may be true as well, depends on the person.
Reply 11
Original post by Matty2993
What's girls opinion on this? Is it normal? Also I've never had a girlfriend and haven't been kissed! :frown:


Lol why would it matter. Its better to be a virgin/ stay pure until you're married anyway. I know I'm staying a virgin until I am married. There's nothing weird. And I'd rather not get an STI from someone who has sex.

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Reply 12
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, so what if you haven't had sex, its not like it's the only thing to do in the world!
I didn't want sex allll the way through college and only until uni because I now have a serious long term relationship. But without any relationship I can say I probably wouldn't have had sex either.
It doesn't make you strange so don't worry - anyone who really likes you can see past the fact you haven't had sex and will be more than willing to teach you ^^
Original post by mo_myc
Lol why would it matter. Its better to be a virgin/ stay pure until you're married anyway. I know I'm staying a virgin until I am married. There's nothing weird. And I'd rather not get an STI from someone who has sex.

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Why is it?

STI rates between trusted partners are very low, use your brain and you should be fine. Heck even if you do contract one many can be treated fairly easily these days.
Neither does he. Or most of the population who are having sex.
Original post by TheExtrovertGod
It's more to do with poor sociability. Look at all the pregnant chavs. They get it because they are social people (in their own groups). Poor sociability may reflect very badly on someone causing habits such as dirtiness, selfishness, etc, but the opposite may be true as well, depends on the person.


I'm not saying peole should aspire to be chavs, but actually a normal working class guy who has friends and girlfriends is a lot less messed up than a middle class guy who is completely socially withdrawn.
At least I'm not one more rejection away from going Elliot Rodger mode :smug:
Original post by l'etranger
I'm not saying peole should aspire to be chavs, but actually a normal working class guy who has friends and girlfriends is a lot less messed up than a middle class guy who is completely socially withdrawn.


Nah I agree with you, social withdrawal isn't a great thing for a person's health. It's also how you learn about values, if you're not a member of society you'll never learn the norms.
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Original post by Matty2993
What's girls opinion on this? Is it normal? Also I've never had a girlfriend and haven't been kissed! :frown:


Not an issue!! I am a girl, and I don't think its strange at all. You just haven't found the right person! IF someone is mean or dicky about that, they're not worth it.
This is literally the exact reason I say older male virgins are badly socialised, dealing with rejection is a normal part of adulthood.

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