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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In all fairness I am a virgin, never kissed etc, just off 22, so similar sort of position.

    I am heterosexual but don't go out of my way to talk to girls either. I didn't get much experience in school as I'm quiet as a person and although the last few years I feel I've made strides, such as answering questions in college whereas I wouldn't have dreamt in school, I still struggle to talk to girls. I did have something going on with a girl when I was 17 but turns out she was a batshit mentalist bully and so it didn't end well.

    Girls can be so boring as well. I'm in an apprenticeship now and in the office the women talk utter tripe day after day. One is 25 and is a ********ter, typical basic ***** who rabbits on about her boring everyday life, how hard everything is even though she earns £28k per annum and her partner has his own business. I know not every woman is like that but it seems a lot of women care about trival crap. They just go on about their boring day to day lives, boasting what craptastic thing they did on the weekend or how much money they've spent on a holiday. Thinking back to school etc I can see maybe this behaviour was evident in fellow female pupils. I'm just not bothered. I'd rather meet up with my mates drink and have a good laugh, go watch football and keep fit. No problems.
    Woman are vapid and childlike, you're supposed to appreciate them for that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In all fairness I am a virgin, never kissed etc, just off 22, so similar sort of position.

    I am heterosexual but don't go out of my way to talk to girls either. I didn't get much experience in school as I'm quiet as a person and although the last few years I feel I've made strides, such as answering questions in college whereas I wouldn't have dreamt in school, I still struggle to talk to girls. I did have something going on with a girl when I was 17 but turns out she was a batshit mentalist bully and so it didn't end well.

    Girls can be so boring as well. I'm in an apprenticeship now and in the office the women talk utter tripe day after day. One is 25 and is a ********ter, typical basic ***** who rabbits on about her boring everyday life, how hard everything is even though she earns £28k per annum and her partner has his own business. I know not every woman is like that but it seems a lot of women care about trival crap. They just go on about their boring day to day lives, boasting what craptastic thing they did on the weekend or how much money they've spent on a holiday. Thinking back to school etc I can see maybe this behaviour was evident in fellow female pupils. I'm just not bothered. I'd rather meet up with my mates drink and have a good laugh, go watch football and keep fit. No problems.
    Most women are like that, extremely boring and their hobbies include tv soaps and celebrity gossip. It's rare to find a girl who you can discuss things like politics (without her bringing her feelings into it) or other current affairs like I'd do with my buddies. They do exist, jus rare.
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    (Original post by l'etranger)
    I've noticed a trend of genuine anger and misogyny among men who lose their V's late. Usually they're shy, mild, but totally go crazy at the slightest knock to their egos, because most people take rejection as a normal part of daily life.
    I'd say I'm quite misogynistic. I started to realise this a few months ago.

    It's not something I've actively become, but nearly all of my experiences with women have been negative. I don't mean trying to get with them, I just mean general conversation they seem to be dismissive or seem, to be self entitled... not grateful for things. Maybe it's me or just the people I've managed to meet.

    I've never got the whole 'need to be in a relationship' thing or people getting together aged 14/15 etc. I hate it when my mates get a girlfriend and then they cut themself off from the male group and feel the need to include their girl whenever them come out. I refer to girlfriends as whores when talking to my other mates. I'm not saying it to be nasty necessarily it just comes out. You should still have your own life and space... by not merging.

    I'm outgoing in the sense of wanting to go places and do things but I'm reserved in sense of talkativeness. I'm not interested in a girlfriend, I am busy enough as it is now through my interests and work plus I wouldn't want the stress.

    As I said in the other post, most girls/women seem to talk about boring stuff or want to be all about themselves. I find many lack specific interests, whereas I am enthusiastic in a few things.

    Rejection can be tough, but people experience it in different ways. Some people reject others in ways that aren't called for - cold shoulder, teasing, embarrassing them, whereas others will want to remain friends.
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    (Original post by Pikachū)
    Most women are like that, extremely boring and their hobbies include tv soaps and celebrity gossip. It's rare to find a girl who you can discuss things like politics (without her bringing her feelings into it) or other current affairs like I'd do with my buddies. They do exist, jus rare.
    I don't mean politics or current affairs necessarily, but it's good if they know whats going on.

    I just hate the whole going on about rubbish constantly. Boring stuff that nobody really cares about.. stuff thats gone on at home etc everyday especially when its with people you hardly know.
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    if you're a virgin at this age I can make some general assumptions:
    1) you don't practice talking to people and you never step out of your comfort zone
    2) you don't take as good care of your appearance, hygiene etc as you could do
    3) you have let the former 2 destroy your self-worth and confidence.

    I lost my virginity quite late on at 20 (23 now)
    I had a lot of "almost" moments before that, usually it stemmed from my utter lack of comfort and confidence
    the most important "almost" moment was what drove me over the edge - a stunningly cute girl came back with me after a night out and I was so down on myself about my chances with her that I didn't even make a move. and later on, several months later, she told me that that night she *wanted* me to make a move on her, and she was left disappointed that all we did at my house was chat. I learned more than ever that night that girls are actually quite predictable: they want *you* to make the move, and even if they really like you, they won't budge. and if you don't make that move, you're never going to get them. after about a year of working on myself, I eventually *did* bag that girl as well.
    you simply haven't had a life-changing moment like this^ yet, perhaps. you haven't been driven to get rid of at least number 1 on that list above. you have to realise that even *if* you're ugly, even *if* you're not great at talking *or* if you're not funny, there are girls out there who don't care and will care about other qualities that you may happen to have. but at the same time, you can work on those problems as well. and even if you fail, your confidence will be more attractive in that failure than failure *and* no confidence.

    tl;dr = stop being an anxious little **** and develop into a confident person.
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    (Original post by TheExtrovertGod)
    Why is it?

    STI rates between trusted partners are very low, use your brain and you should be fine. Heck even if you do contract one many can be treated fairly easily these days.
    Keep on telling yourself that. You do know there are incurable diseases like HIV and Hepatitis right? :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Keep on telling yourself that. You do know there are incurable diseases like HIV and Hepatitis right? :rolleyes:
    Lots of incurable diseases floating around. I don't stop living my life because I might die. What kind of logic is that? Talk about dying before your time.
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    (Original post by sleepysnooze)
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    tl;dr = stop being an anxious little **** and develop into a confident person.
    But if you're very physically unattractive, then "being confident" simply doesn't help.

    I'm perfectly confident. I'm a junior doctor (trained at Oxford University), and have plenty of platonic friends.

    I'm perfectly friendly with both men and women. I've always had a reasonable social life. Unfortunately, I'm also very ugly, and despite having no issue being platonic friends with women, none are ever interested romantically.

    (I'm not the OP by the way.)
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    (Original post by TheExtrovertGod)
    Lots of incurable diseases floating around. I don't stop living my life because I might die. What kind of logic is that? Talk about dying before your time.
    Well, Ii don't call having sex with people as living life, but I guess that's your prerogative. Those incurable diseases, won't are not fun, and can cut someone's life short.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But if you're very physically unattractive, then "being confident" simply doesn't help.

    I'm perfectly confident. I'm a junior doctor (trained at Oxford University), and have plenty of platonic friends.

    I'm perfectly friendly with both men and women. I've always had a reasonable social life. Unfortunately, I'm also very ugly, and despite having no issue being platonic friends with women, none are ever interested romantically.

    (I'm not the OP by the way.)
    well, you have to be somewhat attractive, in her perspective, via a number of factors
    if you're "ugly", having a good personality can make her look past it somewhat
    but something tells me that you aren't very stylish and you don't work out, right?
    that can make you more attractive. so if you really have the worst opinion of your looks, try your best to fix that with the latter things^
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    (Original post by Matty2993)
    What's girls opinion on this? Is it normal? Also I've never had a girlfriend and haven't been kissed!
    I am ngl it is pretty unusual. Most people have lost it by 20. But if a girl really likes you it will make it more special
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    (Original post by Corbynista)
    Why do you want to lose it anyway?
    it's an unspoken social rite of passage
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    As a kissless,hugless 24 year old virgin that will never be loved by anyone this thread has finally driven me to the brink.

    Good bye cruel world!
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    (Original post by Matty2993)
    Well i don't know really what you can do to help. I feel so lonely as all of my friends are in relationships. I struggle to get a girlfriend because they just reject me.
    Bro stop being so thirsty

    (Original post by Corbynista)
    I have never been rejected.... I have never put myself in a position where I would be rejected #ProudVirgin
    LMAO that is one sad lyfe!!! Grow a pair!!!
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    I am female, but I was a virgin until I was 23. I lost my virginity to someone I was in love with, who was a virgin also, and now we're just incredibly grateful to have something special shared that we've shared with no one else. It's not a big deal.
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    (Original post by l'etranger)
    I've noticed a trend of genuine anger and misogyny among men who lose their V's late. Usually they're shy, mild, but totally go crazy at the slightest knock to their egos, because most people take rejection as a normal part of daily life. The other side of men who lose it late is the classic guy who is constantly trying to prove something, he lost it in Thailand/Amsterdam aged 23, but he's 32 years old, in the club missing his son's fourth birthday because he's trying to creep on those 19 year old students.
    I'd say that's quite true, after reading some of the threads of sexually frustrated male virgins here...

    https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverUnwanted/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'd say that's quite true, after reading some of the threads of sexually frustrated male virgins here...

    https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverUnwanted/
    Let's not pretend that reddit is a credible source.
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    (Original post by Matty2993)
    What's girls opinion on this? Is it normal? Also I've never had a girlfriend and haven't been kissed!
    I am 27 and virgin haha so you are three years better
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    (Original post by Corbynista)
    Let's not pretend that reddit is a credible source.
    I would regard the frustrations of male virgins upon the subreddit linked, to be genuinely sexually frustrated and hateful towards women.
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    Go on Tinder and see what happens
 
 
 
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