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    (Original post by PeetaRJ)
    I plan to do Biological Sciences or Biochemistry at Imperial. My friend also wants to do Biochemistry at Imperial (if he feels his grades aren't good enough for Medicine).
    I am predicted better grades than him and have better GCSEs and better potential. I am also far ahead of him extra curricular wise. He wants me to bring him into my extra curricular activities relating to my desired courses. I do not what to do because he is my good friend of 6 years but I see him as competition to the already limited places for the courses that are available worldwide so would it be right to not help his chances? What should I do?

    Edit: We're both in Year 12. I study Biology, Chemistry, Physics and Maths, and him the same but WITHOUT Maths.
    This blows my mind. What kind of friendship is this?


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    Personally, If you feel that you are the better candidate then he won't threaten your chances of an offer. He could also boost your chances because you could help each other prepare for interviews or similar.

    It would also be great for you to have someone that you know in year 1 of university, going through the same struggles as you. Also, how can you call him a "good friend" but you aren't willing to work with him to improve both of your applications.
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    um... let him?
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    Love the response. Great energy. People on here acting as if they wouldn't be feeling the same way.
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    Haven't come across this situation before tbh, I saw it as success vs failure but I see where I was wrong.
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    Don't act as if you wouldn't feel the same, if you felt like you've been putting others first and suffering for it.
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    (Original post by PeetaRJ)
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    Don't act as if you wouldn't feel the same, if you felt like you've been putting others first and suffering for it.
    I've been in this situation and I helped my friends. Why is that so incomprehensible to you?


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    (Original post by PeetaRJ)
    I plan to do Biological Sciences or Biochemistry at Imperial. My friend also wants to do Biochemistry at Imperial (if he feels his grades aren't good enough for Medicine).
    I am predicted better grades than him and have better GCSEs and better potential. I am also far ahead of him extra curricular wise. He wants me to bring him into my extra curricular activities relating to my desired courses. I do not what to do because he is my good friend of 6 years but I see him as competition to the already limited places for the courses that are available worldwide so would it be right to not help his chances? What should I do?

    Edit: We're both in Year 12. I study Biology, Chemistry, Physics and Maths, and him the same but WITHOUT Maths.
    The word 'friend' - it doesn't mean what you think it means.
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    Honestly I don't think biochemistry or biological sciences is particularly oversubscribed at Inperial- it's not like Cambridge Natural Sciences. So you should be fine.
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    Lie to me and say you didn't feel the same at some point. I just found it today.
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    Lmao, some "friend" you are..
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    Yeah f*** it. Everyone on the team should help to each other to ASAP : Always Strive And Prosper
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    (Original post by PeetaRJ)
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    Love the response. Great energy. People on here acting as if they wouldn't be feeling the same way.
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    Don't act as if you wouldn't feel the same, if you felt like you've been putting others first and suffering for it.
    I then don't call them my friend....
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    Smh haha
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    (Original post by PeetaRJ)
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    Don't act as if you wouldn't feel the same, if you felt like you've been putting others first and suffering for it.
    What a load of BS. This is not one of the cases. You're not fighting for a job or an internship. Everyone knows that personal statements are a load of rubbish anyone and that everyone lies. Your grades are all that matter and if you meet the grades to get in you'll be fine. If he get's the grades he'll be fine.



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    **** move if you don't support him

    A real friend would be happy for him
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    It's a bad mindset to see others as competition, because if you just focus on others you lose focus on yourself. That's the biggest lesson in life you can have.

    Helping others helps yourself: if you teach them, you prove you know it and recuperate your mind on the subject. Same goes for anything to be honest, and studying in pairs is always good, as is having a friend who shows the willingness to do what you described. Either way, I can see how you might see them as being competition (I used to be like that, and It just led to me losing my friends), but in the end it'd be a **** move to do it, and I should know.

    End reasoning: If you don't help them achieve what they can and support them, you're not truly a good friend to them. If he gets to go there and you don't, then he simply deserves it more. Likewise, if you go there and he doesn't, regardless of your support, he didn't deserve to go there.
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    So true...
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    Fair enough
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    Honestly, do whatever you fee like doing. If you do not want to bring him along to your subject-related extracurriculars, do not do it. If you want to, do it. In fact, you can choose not to even mention any subject-related extracurriculars you know about. I know it is tempting to mention all the amazing extracurriculars you do (I did so many extracurriculars that I understand the feeling perfectly), but not speaking about them is very effective in keeping your competitors away, in case that is what you are after.

    I was in a kind of similar situation last year. This person whom I met in my politics class and whom I was kind of friends with wanted to study politics or something related to politics, like me. I did tell her about almost everything I knew that might help her application (Model United Nations, books, etc), but I did not mention the most important thing available, which was work experience with our MP; I did mine in the May of my AS year and by the time she knew about it, it was more or less too late for her to do work experience with our MP in time for her UCAS application. She never asked in the first place. To be sincere, I might even have told her if she just asked.

    So, if your friend does not ask, you do not have to tell them. You can choose to omit several things or not say anything at all if they do.

    You are your own person. Ten years from now, chances are you will not even speak with your friend anymore and that whether you took him along to your extracurriculars or not will not matter at all.

    That classmate and I were not applying to the same course and university, however, nor were we good friends. Were she a real competitor for my dream course, I might not have told her anything, so I can understand why you would not tell your friend anything in this situation, and will not condemn you no matter what you choose to do.

    Then again, if your friend is as inferior to you as you say, I would not worry about him being the competition. Imperial is a very competitive university, so if you do as well as you would like and your friend does not do as well, you will almost definitely get in while your friend may or may not get in.

    TL;DR: Do whatever you want and say as much or as little as you want about relevant extracurriculars; it will not matter a lot in the end.
 
 
 
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