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    I am looking for advice about what to do as I am really hating university at the moment, I can barely stop myself crying every 10 minutes. I have just started the second semester of first year, and sat exams before Christmas. It's not really the academic side of things that is the problem but I was very stressed around exam time. It started in freshers week, I don't get on with flat mates as we are all very different, and none of us really socialise in the kitchen. So I struggled to meet people as I am very very shy so find it difficult to go up to anyone and just start a conversation, and I also couldn't go out drinking cause of my age which is when most people made friends so it was difficult. Once lectures started I sort of just muddled through though wasn't enjoying it, I sat by myself in all my lectures and haven't made friends on my course, I only talked to a few people from one tutorial and a lab. But as I find it very difficult to make friends(it took me years in school to make my best friends now) I haven't really got anyone to talk to. Everyone seems to have made friends and are in groups with people, but I haven't found anyone that I've clicked with at all. I don't think this university is for me as there are a lot of international and English students who are all a year older than me so everyone seems so much more mature than me. I'm now thinking maybe university isn't for me, as I'm so shy and anxious and would much rather still just be at home. Or maybe I'm just too young for university and not ready for such a big change. I'm also thinking about changing universities but I have no idea how I would go about doing that, and it would be moving to a uni that is less reputable, which is why I chose the uni I am now rather than that one. Please don't say oh you just have to get over your shyness and talk to people cause I have really tried but as a very anxious person who has a lot of confidence issues that is very difficult. I just wanted some advice maybe from someone in a similar situation who moved university and how they managed that, or who decided to stick with the university they were originally at and it got better. Thank you
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    Hi sweat[ea_98,

    believe it or not I have been in similar situations and felt the exact same way as you have. I am also a quiet person, I would not say I am shy, but I am quiet. This is my first year as well. My second semester is starting next week. Before I started going to UNI, I was doing apprenticeship for a year, it was the worst 12 months of my life, because I used to get bullied at my workplace and because it was my first proper job, I didn't know what my rights were fully and who I can trust to talk about me getting bullied. I believed that because I am working I have to be independent and be able to deal with "silly" situations like bullying all by myself.


    Anyway because of that experience, I said to myself that I will not continue with the apprenticeship anymore and start a new beginning at Uni. So I did. When I started going to Uni I made sure that I sound confident and etc. I said to myself fake it unit you make it. Through that I have made a few good friends. During Fresher's week I went up to people and started talking to them, I never did that in my life before.

    One good thing about Uni is that, there are so many people, you will find 2-3 people you will get along with just fine . You do not need to know or talk to everyone. Uni was for me like a fresh beginning for me, so far a good one, I am proud about the fact that I left my workplace and started from fresh.

    I say you should stay, but if you still do not feel comfortable, in my opinion a fresh start at a different university might be something for you. It's been only the first semester so you still have the 2 and 1/2 years ahead of you to make good friends, so you do not to change, but sometimes a fresh start can change things for better,
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    In my opinion you have 3 options. The first being you continue how you are and make it through uni miserably. The second is to drop out and start fresh or do something else. Or the third being to join societies and push your boundaries by talking to people you see and things will get better,
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    (Original post by sweatpea_98)
    I am looking for advice about what to do as I am really hating university at the moment, I can barely stop myself crying every 10 minutes. I have just started the second semester of first year, and sat exams before Christmas. It's not really the academic side of things that is the problem but I was very stressed around exam time. It started in freshers week, I don't get on with flat mates as we are all very different, and none of us really socialise in the kitchen. So I struggled to meet people as I am very very shy so find it difficult to go up to anyone and just start a conversation, and I also couldn't go out drinking cause of my age which is when most people made friends so it was difficult. Once lectures started I sort of just muddled through though wasn't enjoying it, I sat by myself in all my lectures and haven't made friends on my course, I only talked to a few people from one tutorial and a lab. But as I find it very difficult to make friends(it took me years in school to make my best friends now) I haven't really got anyone to talk to. Everyone seems to have made friends and are in groups with people, but I haven't found anyone that I've clicked with at all. I don't think this university is for me as there are a lot of international and English students who are all a year older than me so everyone seems so much more mature than me. I'm now thinking maybe university isn't for me, as I'm so shy and anxious and would much rather still just be at home. Or maybe I'm just too young for university and not ready for such a big change. I'm also thinking about changing universities but I have no idea how I would go about doing that, and it would be moving to a uni that is less reputable, which is why I chose the uni I am now rather than that one. Please don't say oh you just have to get over your shyness and talk to people cause I have really tried but as a very anxious person who has a lot of confidence issues that is very difficult. I just wanted some advice maybe from someone in a similar situation who moved university and how they managed that, or who decided to stick with the university they were originally at and it got better. Thank you
    Stick with it. I also felt this way. It will get better...
 
 
 
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