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Attractive female with learning disabilities

I think I'm attractive anyway and hard working, intelligent. I would describe my self as independent young women with a bubbly, quirky personality. Who hasn't really looked for realionship,love. Not many men approach me.

Recently though been a little worried that I will never get married or fall in love, have a family. My family say they're worry about this and think what's going to happen to me blah blah lol. I'm in my late twenties.

When men/people do get to know me I'm certain they pick up they is something different about me because of my disability even though I look like the attractive, approachable lady. This puts them off.

Starting to believe this is my destiny and I'm ok with it
Disability? Are you diagnosed with it? Also, if you haven't been out there yourself even trying to socialise with others, who will even notice you have it?
What exactly is your disability?

What you've wrote is extremely vague.
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Original post by Anonymous
I think I'm attractive anyway and hard working, intelligent. I would describe my self as independent young women with a bubbly, quirky personality. Who hasn't really looked for realionship,love. Not many men approach me.

Recently though been a little worried that I will never get married or fall in love, have a family. My family say they're worry about this and think what's going to happen to me blah blah lol. I'm in my late twenties.

When men/people do get to know me I'm certain they pick up they is something different about me because of my disability even though I look like the attractive, approachable lady. This puts them off.

Starting to believe this is my destiny and I'm ok with it



try online dating, you'll be more than fine..
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Original post by shawn_o1
Disability? Are you diagnosed with it? Also, if you haven't been out there yourself even trying to socialise with others, who will even notice you have it?



I got diagnosed with a learning disability(no name given). Also have mild autism and ADHD.

I'm optimistic but I've had so many bad experiences. People's attitude changes towards me when spending time with me. Because I look normal. I do enjoy socialising a lot though. It's hard to find a guy and keep friends because of this.
Original post by Anonymous
I got diagnosed with a learning disability(no name given). Also have mild autism and ADHD.

I'm optimistic but I've had so many bad experiences. People's attitude changes towards me when spending time with me. Because I look normal. I do enjoy socialising a lot though. It's hard to find a guy and keep friends because of this.


Hi, fellow autistic person! :smile:
Do people give you any hints as to why you put them off? Or are you firm with specific behaviours and won't change for other people? I have what some people might call an "irrational" fear of dogs - but all the evidence related to dog bites appear to agree with me more than the person who says their dog "won't hurt me".
Original post by Davalla
OP has been diagnosed with vanity


Unbelievable. If OP had come here saying she was ugly, unapproachable, a bad person etc she would have been labelled as having low self-esteem. She hasn't actually come here broadcasting herself as the most amazing person ever; she's just identified a few positive characteristics about herself which, in the grand scheme of things, should at least give her an edge in the dating world. In fact I applaud her for having convince in herself.


OP; I know people with severe mental health problems with partners. I know people with learning disabilities, autism, ADHD, bipolar, schizophrenia and quite often a combination of the aforementioned conditions whom have partners. For some people you would get ruled out, but others would not look down upon them, would accept those characteristics of yours and love you for who you are.

Join clubs, maybe even a group that share the same conditions are yourself, and just generally put yourself out there. If you're telling the truth about approachable, attractive, intelligent, independent etc then it is only a matter of time. I think sometimes the "really good ones" often find it the most difficult to find love, so hang in there!
Original post by Davalla
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You're weird.
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Thanks for the advice and spot on about that dav/what's the names odd post.

Stay positive I guess:smile:
Original post by shawn_o1
Hi, fellow autistic person! :smile:
Do people give you any hints as to why you put them off? Or are you firm with specific behaviours and won't change for other people? I have what some people might call an "irrational" fear of dogs - but all the evidence related to dog bites appear to agree with me more than the person who says their dog "won't hurt me".



No I honestly don't believe so. People I know say your perfectly fine, confident, friendly. I'm always myself, never fake, no hidden agenda. I'm weird in a good way so I've been told. My traits aren't always noticeble at times. I guess a lot of the time it's other people's problems not mine.
Original post by Anonymous
I think I'm attractive anyway and hard working, intelligent. I would describe my self as independent young women with a bubbly, quirky personality. Who hasn't really looked for realionship,love. Not many men approach me.

Recently though been a little worried that I will never get married or fall in love, have a family. My family say they're worry about this and think what's going to happen to me blah blah lol. I'm in my late twenties.

When men/people do get to know me I'm certain they pick up they is something different about me because of my disability even though I look like the attractive, approachable lady. This puts them off.

Starting to believe this is my destiny and I'm ok with it


I wouldnt rule yourself out and its a big plus being attractive. Just like everyone else you will meet some not so nice/ unsuitable people. You need to be able to look after yourself. Imo try and be confident within yourself and then someone will recognise that or they wont. Its a numbers game, so out there there will be people who you would gel with, but who are broadminded enough not to be put off, but just accept you for being you. There will be people out there like this.

There are lots of people who dont have a mental disability who will struggle as well. Make the most of yourself, make sure you know what are absolutes in a partner and what things are less important. make the most of yourself and be confident in who you are. If you are attractive, then ofc be on he lookout for chances that are just interested in sex (assuming that is not all you are looking for).

Ps i didnt think you were being vain and it was a relevant piece of information.
Original post by 999tigger
I wouldnt rule yourself out and its a big plus being attractive. Just like everyone else you will meet some not so nice/ unsuitable people. You need to be able to look after yourself. Imo try and be confident within yourself and then someone will recognise that or they wont. Its a numbers game, so out there there will be people who you would gel with, but who are broadminded enough not to be put off, but just accept you for being you. There will be people out there like this.

There are lots of people who dont have a mental disability who will struggle as well. Make the most of yourself, make sure you know what are absolutes in a partner and what things are less important. make the most of yourself and be confident in who you are. If you are attractive, then ofc be on he lookout for chances that are just interested in sex (assuming that is not all you are looking for).

Ps i didnt think you were being vain and it was a relevant piece of information.




I will do hun

Thanks for helpful advice:smile:
nah, it's not hopeless

you may have some bigger hurdles to overcome - but other people might struggle because they're unattractive, so you win some you lose some

perhaps make sure your social skills are as good as you can them, ask some friends etc if they have any tips

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