Giving Up

Hi,

All my life I've been a cheery up-beat person. Positive about everything. However, this summer I got my AS grades and they weren't good at all BBC. By weren't good, I mean they wern't good for the course I want to go on which demands AAA/or AAB.

This has hit me real bad. All throughout the holidays I've been really worrying if I can do it now. My parents, who have throughout my life supported me, have given up on me when I've most needed them.

Today, my college started and we started A2 work and it was so hard and detailed I started to doubt myself If I could ever get the grades that I want. I just don't know what to do. I want to just quit college and give up altogether. I have no-one to turn to anymore. I've never been in this position and have always done real well in Academia but I just don't know where I went wrong. :frown:

Reply 1

small&mighty

I know your course wants higher, but BBC is good! That's what I got, albeit just scraping the B's but still. Would retaking one exam in each of your subjects make any difference? Perhaps talk to your tutor or careers advisor at college and see what they think.

Throughout the holidays I've also been worrying whether or not I can continue with my A Levels, but I know that if I don't I'm just gonna end up like my brother has; kicked out of college and in a dead end job, which I do not want.

I'm sure your parents haven't given up on you, what have they said to you? They will know that you've done your best and that is all they can ask of you really.

My A2 work started back in June after exams had finished, and at first it was a bit like 'woahh what's all this about I can't do it', but once you get into it it does become clearer and achieveable. I wanted to quit, but then I thought what am I gonna achieve by doing that? I've got this far (and believe me it's been such a battle getting where I am) and I'm not giving certain teachers at school and other family the satisfaction of saying I couldn't do it, because I believe I can, my parents do and so do my teachers (the ones who teach me now).

Please think carefully about quitting, maybe give it a few weeks, I'm sure it'll become easier for you like it has me. PM me if you wanna talk more.

Reply 2

upagumtree

12

Stick it out a little bit longer and it might get less hard.If you are usually a smart academic person then I'm sure you can do it if you keep working at it.I was always quite an academic hard working person at school but when I started my A-levels,or Highers as we call them,I found it soo difficult and really doubted myself.It was a hard time but I stuck it out and really pulled my socks up in the end.
As for BBC,that's wonderful!!It might not be what you needed for your course but don't doubt yourself because you didn't get perfect grades.If you're still really sure you want to do the course then I'm sure you can resit and get higher marks.Just don't give up :hugs:

Reply 3

Oneupthebumdonttellmum

You're actually very lucky. Why I hear you ask? Because you can actually do something about your problem. Work.

Reply 4

Bear_Grylls

19

True you have a whole year to change your results, i got BCC at AS but managed to get ABC overally, and if i tried harder i reckon i could have got even better, dont give up, it would be so pointless, your not in a bad posistion, keep going and you'll be pleased with yourself.

Reply 5

i_miss_you

6

i have to agree with the other posters..
Push yourself and you can definitely get those grades!!

BBC is really not a bad position to be in for AS levels.

No matter what you think, there will be many many people (parents included)watching in the wings and admiring how hard you are working and how much effort you put in!! Do not give up, you'll spend a long time regetting it, trust me!

Apply for the course you know you want, the one that requires AAA!!! but make a few back up plans.. is there another uni that does the same course but with lower expectations? Apply for that too!
If your Alevel results aren't good enough and you won't settle for another uni or course..re-sit your A-levels in a year, lots of people do it!! People will admire your strength and dedication to not be beaten!
Alternatively if you're prepared to go through clearing you may find your course accepts you anyway. You have lots of options, so please don't panic now, try and concentrate on your studys and not worry too much about the future, if you really are struggling with the workload or a certain subject perhaps talk to your teacher? another classmate? maybe you could get together for study sessions?? their are tons of online forums, maybe join one for a certain subject you're stuggling to understand..

I've always found that people generally go out of their way to help others when they are asked! Same goes for you folks, you may feel that they're disappointed with you but sit them down and tell them exactly how low you feel, they'll do their best to help you!!

Keep your chin up,A-levels really were the hardest thing i ever did academically, but second time round i got the grades i needed and manchester accepted me on my dream couse.. you really can do it if you set your mind to it, i wish you the best of luck x

i don't usually post on here,i'm more of a lurker but i think i felt a pang of 'been there' with your post!! the offer of an ear is definitely there if you want to PM me, PERSEVERE! x

Reply 6

tcm1106

Anonymous

Hi,

All my life I've been a cheery up-beat person. Positive about everything. However, this summer I got my AS grades and they weren't good at all BBC. By weren't good, I mean they wern't good for the course I want to go on which demands AAA/or AAB.

This has hit me real bad. All throughout the holidays I've been really worrying if I can do it now. My parents, who have throughout my life supported me, have given up on me when I've most needed them.

Today, my college started and we started A2 work and it was so hard and detailed I started to doubt myself If I could ever get the grades that I want. I just don't know what to do. I want to just quit college and give up altogether. I have no-one to turn to anymore. I've never been in this position and have always done real well in Academia but I just don't know where I went wrong. :frown:

I know exactly how you feel. I finished my A2's this year and didn't get good grades. I shocked myself by getting into my first choice uni but only by the skin of my teeth because they decided my course was undersubscribed. I understand how you feel though because my three best friends did amazingly well. One got 3 A's to do medicine, one got 4 A's to do Chemistry and one got five A's to do Maths & Physics at Cambridge. Like you, I always did really well in Academia before A-Levels but I guess it's just when it stops coming to you easily and you have to work that bit harder. Talk to your friends about if you can?

Reply 7

k0932741

1

Second year of A Levels always seem really daunting and difficult but like everyone else has said you really do get into the swing of it! Firtunately when applying to university you don't need to state the grades you got at AS so you could still apply for the uni you really want to go to - alternatively if you really don't feel capable of achieving those grades have a look at some other universities. The best thing to do when u feel like giving up (and trust me there are SO many people who feel like you do so you aren't alone :smile:

) is to look into achievable things. Realistically look at what grades you think you can achieve now with maybe a little more work etc and look at some universities offering these grades - it'll make you realise that there are great uni's to go to and you'll still have a blast no matter where you go!!! :smile:

Trust me, parents may be disappointed but they never give up on you, ask for their advice and you will definately get the love and support you were looking for :smile:

good luck!

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