reading too much into things

I am aware that I do this but somehow I cannot seem to stop. Its quite destructive too and I want to change but don't know where to begin really. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost a year now, we met at University and he has been my only relationship. I love him so much, and I know he loves me too. But I have this horrible habit of overanalysing msn conversations or text messages, wondering why he's put only 1 kiss, when he normally puts 3. Or why he doesn't seem as chirpy as usual when we talk online. I take it to heart and instantly assume that he loves me less, or that I've done something wrong. Surely a year down the line, these little things shouldn't matter anymore? And somehow they do, and they make me angry with him when I shouldn't be angry with him, because they make me assume that something is wrong. Is anyone the same as me? How do I stop this destructive behaviour? :frown:

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Yeah i can b like that alot to, i find its a confidence thing with me! just got to try an think its a silly lil thing why am i gettin worked up bout it!

Reply 2

prettygreeneyes99

Aww, I guess when you start thinking like this, just try your best to keep busy and keep your mind distracted! I know when Ive just felt down or something I can start to overanalyse things, but whenever Ive started thinking like that I just get up and do something, then you forget about it... and after a couple of hours of doing something else then you'll probably look back on it and not think anything over why he might have left one kiss instead of three etc... or, just try and remember the last thing he said/did that was nice :smile:

Reply 3

Tailz

yeah its just a lack of confidence, i get it sometimes, you just have to remember he loves you.

Reply 4

username47781

I think you just need to trust him a bit more, there is always going to be days when your boyfriend won't be so chirpy, everyone has a day like that at some point.

Reply 5

JaneThePain

I know what you mean. I get a bit pissed off if he doesn't put a kiss at the end of his emails :p:

It's really just a confidence thing though. I just have to put it in perspective though- does it really matter if he didn't put a kiss at the end when we're out together?