Im So Confused...

To cut a long story short, I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years now and I think the spark may have gone, but I'm not sure....It all started with this other guy who told me he liked me about 5 months ago and I knew I liked him ages ago but obviously because of my boyfriend nothing happened. However, at a a party a month ago we ended up kissing (yes Im a bitch I know) and my boyfriend found out and I told him about my feelings for the other guy. He's devastated and I feel so guilty because I still love him, but I don't think I'm in love with him....it's weird though because I still find him really attractive and when we're together we have such a good time. Every time we speak he breaks down again and I don't know what to do...I'm not even sure what my feelings are because even though I love my boyfriend, I still really like this other guy and I really don't want to keep hurting my boyfriend. Truthfully, even though my boyfriend wants to stay with me, I don't think he'll ever trust me (which is understandable) and I know that everything between us will change because of it. I don't really know what I'm asking you guys to say, so any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

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username47781

I think you and your boyfriend need to have a serious talk and ask yourself is it going anywhere, whilst it is hard to throw away a 4 year relationship, if it isn't going anywhere it might be best to end it. It was horrible to kiss another guy behind his back, you were lucky not to lose your boyfriend then.

Is that what you really want? I mean if you want to kiss other guys least finish it with your boyfriend first, especially as it seems the trust has been damaged.

But before anything like that, I would talk to him, see if you can save the relationship. It seems though you are not really sure what you do want and you are not sure if you do love him.