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    I'll keep this short - I can speak to all girls except the one I was attracted to throughout my last years in high school (and still am when I see her in college). I can't even get into positions where I can speak to her without psyching myself out, to the point I get stomachache. It's stupid. I've just turned 18 and I shouldn't be doing this. She's just a girl. We used to speak in high school a little and would flirt a little and were in the same lessons but since then we haven't spoken. It's the nerves of saying hi after all this time, I won't have a problem with a conversation. Any help to get things rolling?
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    Well, I'd say you're best bet is to approach her with the topic of something familiar you both shared in high school. That way it would make it feel more comfortable for both of you and less confronting as a whole. Like I'm sure you had some interests or hobbies or whatnot that you shared hmm? :P I mean if you start with the casual 'Hey, haven't seen you in a while. How have you been doing?" or something like that xD and then just follow it up with conversation about the old days. Just think of it like this o.o If you don't try to approach her someone else might get there first D: ! :P I believe in you! ^^ You can do it dude :3 Get tha girly :3 You're only stressing because you are overthinking things too much :P You'll be fine :P ^^ its not like she'd turn around and be like O_O "EEP HALP ME!?!?! WHO IS DIS GUY!?" x) No one is that stupid o.o Try overcome that hurdle of the spooks :3 !
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    Well, I'd say you're best bet is to approach her with the topic of something familiar you both shared in high school. That way it would make it feel more comfortable for both of you and less confronting as a whole. Like I'm sure you had some interests or hobbies or whatnot that you shared hmm? :P I mean if you start with the casual 'Hey, haven't seen you in a while. How have you been doing?" or something like that xD and then just follow it up with conversation about the old days. Just think of it like this o.o If you don't try to approach her someone else might get there first D: ! :P I believe in you! ^^ You can do it dude :3 Get tha girly :3 You're only stressing because you are overthinking things too much :P You'll be fine :P ^^ its not like she'd turn around and be like O_O "EEP HALP ME!?!?! WHO IS DIS GUY!?" x) No one is that stupid o.o Try overcome that hurdle of the spooks :3 !
    Thanks for the help! I'm sure I can mention something about school to get conversation going, thanks. I psych myself out before I even see her though which is the frustrating thing, need to somehow control it but no luck so far. I don't know why I get into a state, I shouldn't, she's just a girl not a deadly animal, won't hurt me, just wish my mind could focus in the moment. Thanks for the motivation anyway will be sure to get it done even if it kills me.
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    Thanks for the help! I'm sure I can mention something about school to get conversation going, thanks. I psych myself out before I even see her though which is the frustrating thing, need to somehow control it but no luck so far. I don't know why I get into a state, I shouldn't, she's just a girl not a deadly animal, won't hurt me, just wish my mind could focus in the moment. Thanks for the motivation anyway will be sure to get it done even if it kills me.
    No problem! I'm glad I could help ^^ I have the utmost confidence you can :P Perhaps try keeping yourself busy (mentally) in between to occupy yourself :P If your focused on something else, before you know it, it's time to say hi. That way you've had less time or none at all to stress because you've been thinking about other things :P Best wishes to you and I hope you overcome your hurdle ^^!
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    No problem! I'm glad I could help ^^ I have the utmost confidence you can :P Perhaps try keeping yourself busy (mentally) in between to occupy yourself :P If your focused on something else, before you know it, it's time to say hi. That way you've had less time or none at all to stress because you've been thinking about other things :P Best wishes to you and I hope you overcome your hurdle ^^!
    Cheerssss good idea, I'll play a game on my phone or something. Normally it's on the bus and when we get off for college I'll just walk up to her and say hey.
 
 
 
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