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    So I've just started the second term of year 2 and my attendance is sitting at a terrible 18%.
    Before I came to uni I suffered with undiagnosed depression and anxiety, with the anxiety meaning I could barely leave the house and put on an extreme amount of weight. I managed to lose the weight and, I thought, deal with my personal problems, but recently they've come back with a vengeance.
    I've tried going in more but my low attendance means I've struggled to make friends on my course so I worry about going in. I go out a lot with friends, but that's starting to become forced and I end up drinking to a scary level everytime I go out.
    Deadlines have started piling up and where last year I could blag my way through, this year I'm finding the work to be overwhelming, especially considering my lack of attendance means my knowledge of the course isn't where it should be. I'm worried I'm going to be kicked out of uni, which would be awful and I dont know what to do. I'm going to arrange a meeting with my tutor but I just wanted to see if anyone had any advice about what I should do. Also saying "uni isn't for me" etc isn't what I need to hear because untill now I've been fine. Thanks
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    So I've just started the second term of year 2 and my attendance is sitting at a terrible 18%.
    Before I came to uni I suffered with undiagnosed depression and anxiety, with the anxiety meaning I could barely leave the house and put on an extreme amount of weight. I managed to lose the weight and, I thought, deal with my personal problems, but recently they've come back with a vengeance.
    I've tried going in more but my low attendance means I've struggled to make friends on my course so I worry about going in. I go out a lot with friends, but that's starting to become forced and I end up drinking to a scary level everytime I go out.
    Deadlines have started piling up and where last year I could blag my way through, this year I'm finding the work to be overwhelming, especially considering my lack of attendance means my knowledge of the course isn't where it should be. I'm worried I'm going to be kicked out of uni, which would be awful and I dont know what to do. I'm going to arrange a meeting with my tutor but I just wanted to see if anyone had any advice about what I should do. Also saying "uni isn't for me" etc isn't what I need to hear because untill now I've been fine. Thanks
    Sounds a bit like me tbh.

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    Start attending. It will only get worse otherwise. Discuss how you can start improving and what steps you need to take to get back on track with your tutor.
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    Are you able to take time out? Are you seeing a doctor and therapist regularly? Also, you should make an appointment with the disbility service at you for university, since your mental health issues have lasted for a while and severely impacting on your life. They can put in adjustments so that participation should be slightly easier.
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    Most of the time, these things can be dealt with.

    Be honest and open with your tutor and tell him/her you need professional help. There is no sense in "toughing it out" if you are as dysfunctional as you say. Then, make sure you follow through with whatever treatment regimen you choose.
 
 
 
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