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    I don't know how to write this without making this post really long so you go TL;DR right from the off, I deleted loads and rewrote it a few times before posting, but oh well...

    Basically my family is broken. My brother has a wedding coming up and he's invited all the family obviously. But some of my brothers don't get on - I have a big family and lots of brothers/half brothers.

    About ten years ago one of my half brothers ripped off of my other half brother by about a couple of thousand pounds. He was understandably pissed and now won't have anything to do with him, or even come to any family event that he will be attending. It's ruined Christmas every year as my half-brother uses it as an excuse not to attend.

    Anyway, the wedding is coming up and my brother that is getting married sent out his RSVPs to get a headcount for the meals and my half brother ticked the 'I won't be coming' box and in the 'because' area wrote 'because the t*** will be there' (my half brother no longer refers to him by name, just the expletive now).

    My bro was understandably annoyed to receive this and confronted my half bro about how not coming was going to be ruining his wedding and if he didn't come, he'd never speak to him again - my half brother replied that it's really a twisted world where not attending a wedding causes a person to be shunned forever, but thieving t***s are treated as water under the bridge after less than a year.

    Anyway, it ended by my half-brother telling my brother that it was up to him which of his half-brothers attended the wedding, but it wouldn't be both of them.

    I don't know what I'm expecting by posting this, perhaps some advice on how I can get my family back together - I'd like to be married someday and I'd like all my family to be there.
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    This is on the 2 brothers who can't look past their issues to attend their brothers wedding for his sake.
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    (Original post by 0xFFFFail)
    This is on the 2 brothers who can't look past their issues to attend their brothers wedding for his sake.
    Well, I have spoken to my brother about it a long time ago and he's said his red line is all his money back and an apology and apart from that he says there's nothing else to discuss...
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    Tell them to keep their quables to themselevs. At times like weddings, you consider both and all family and want them to get on for that day, for you.
    Then, they can go backbeing how they are as it's between them to sort out.
    If this sort of thing works in your family, all of you gather together and sort it out properly once and for all.
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    (Original post by februaryschild)
    I don't know how to write this without making this post really long so you go TL;DR right from the off, I deleted loads and rewrote it a few times before posting, but oh well...

    Basically my family is broken. My brother has a wedding coming up and he's invited all the family obviously. But some of my brothers don't get on - I have a big family and lots of brothers/half brothers.

    About ten years ago one of my half brothers ripped off of my other half brother by about a couple of thousand pounds. He was understandably pissed and now won't have anything to do with him, or even come to any family event that he will be attending. It's ruined Christmas every year as my half-brother uses it as an excuse not to attend.

    Anyway, the wedding is coming up and my brother that is getting married sent out his RSVPs to get a headcount for the meals and my half brother ticked the 'I won't be coming' box and in the 'because' area wrote 'because the t*** will be there' (my half brother no longer refers to him by name, just the expletive now).

    My bro was understandably annoyed to receive this and confronted my half bro about how not coming was going to be ruining his wedding and if he didn't come, he'd never speak to him again - my half brother replied that it's really a twisted world where not attending a wedding causes a person to be shunned forever, but thieving t***s are treated as water under the bridge after less than a year.

    Anyway, it ended by my half-brother telling my brother that it was up to him which of his half-brothers attended the wedding, but it wouldn't be both of them.

    I don't know what I'm expecting by posting this, perhaps some advice on how I can get my family back together - I'd like to be married someday and I'd like all my family to be there.
    You can't force your family to act out a happy ending just to make you happy. They have to want to do this for themselves.

    Your bro should just ignore the dispute and don't choose between the 2 half-bros (that just makes it worse). He should just invite both of them anyways. If either of the half-bros want to come or not, its up to them.
 
 
 
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