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    I was a solid introverted person for most of my life. Id shy away from everything where possible and hated social interactions especially one on one situations.

    That was all until late yr 12. It was then when I realised exactly how much of a loner I was ( no one has ever texted/called me, never been invited to a single bday party and 3 acquaintances wished me happy birthday on my fb wall last year, no one in school did) and as a survival reaction, I developed confidence.

    Although most of this was for show (fake confidence), it was the most spectacular show and gradually I developed true confidence. Everyone now thinks Im super confident, perhaps even have an inflated ego and feel somewhat intimidated by me. (confirmed by overhearing ppl talking about me) Which was far from my initial intent, I over compensated considerably.

    Regardless,it allowed me to comfortably be alone=walk alone/eat alone/study alone with my chin held high and feel genuinely confident. (along with a dangerously high amount of music, 6hrs+/day)

    Ofc the problem is I still am stupidly alone and it doesnt help Im secretly a massive romantic too. But my image doesnt reflect that at all, its like having 2 identities , one on the out and one on the in which are polar opposites.

    I want to socialise in the worst way and I know I can. Id also love to talk to girls with similar or heck even non similar interests and make ppl smile after conversing, I know I can do that....

    But its a different excuse every year

    yr7-9 was a blur, I rly wasted these yrs it seems!
    yr 10 - its been 3 years since everyone joined, ppl are in their friend groups now, its too late
    yr 11 - now its actually too late, 4 years of in-jokes, references and group chats, you have no chance of joining
    yr 12 - half a decade or more has been put into current friendship groups, jumping in now just seems awkward and super intrusive, almost suspicious
    yr 13 - last year now anyway, not worth starting anything as it wont amount to anything

    Which leads me to now, 4 months left, exams, study leave, uni applications and my last chance to make friends. Thing is, Id love to talk to ppl but I know ppl will think 'why finally now do you start talking to me?' or maybe Im paranoid.

    Regardless, Im going to talk to ppl tmr, ppl Ive never talked to before, hell it doesnt matter if I have 4 months left, sometimes you make choices and sometimes choices make you!

    Also I challenge any of you who are in a similar position to me (probs not many lol) or introverts in general who want to talk to ppl in general or a particular person, lets start tmr and not regret later in life not trying!

    Also also, any general opinions or advice is welcome here too
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was a solid introverted person for most of my life. Id shy away from everything where possible and hated social interactions especially one on one situations.

    That was all until late yr 12. It was then when I realised exactly how much of a loner I was ( no one has ever texted/called me, never been invited to a single bday party and 3 acquaintances wished me happy birthday on my fb wall last year, no one in school did) and as a survival reaction, I developed confidence.

    Although most of this was for show (fake confidence), it was the most spectacular show and gradually I developed true confidence. Everyone now thinks Im super confident, perhaps even have an inflated ego and feel somewhat intimidated by me. (confirmed by overhearing ppl talking about me) Which was far from my initial intent, I over compensated considerably.

    Regardless,it allowed me to comfortably be alone=walk alone/eat alone/study alone with my chin held high and feel genuinely confident. (along with a dangerously high amount of music, 6hrs+/day)

    Ofc the problem is I still am stupidly alone and it doesnt help Im secretly a massive romantic too. But my image doesnt reflect that at all, its like having 2 identities , one on the out and one on the in which are polar opposites.

    I want to socialise in the worst way and I know I can. Id also love to talk to girls with similar or heck even non similar interests and make ppl smile after conversing, I know I can do that....

    But its a different excuse every year

    yr7-9 was a blur, I rly wasted these yrs it seems!
    yr 10 - its been 3 years since everyone joined, ppl are in their friend groups now, its too late
    yr 11 - now its actually too late, 4 years of in-jokes, references and group chats, you have no chance of joining
    yr 12 - half a decade or more has been put into current friendship groups, jumping in now just seems awkward and super intrusive, almost suspicious
    yr 13 - last year now anyway, not worth starting anything as it wont amount to anything

    Which leads me to now, 4 months left, exams, study leave, uni applications and my last chance to make friends. Thing is, Id love to talk to ppl but I know ppl will think 'why finally now do you start talking to me?' or maybe Im paranoid.

    Regardless, Im going to talk to ppl tmr, ppl Ive never talked to before, hell it doesnt matter if I have 4 months left, sometimes you make choices and sometimes choices make you!

    Also I challenge any of you who are in a similar position to me (probs not many lol) or introverts in general who want to talk to ppl in general or a particular person, lets start tmr and not regret later in life not trying!

    Also also, any general opinions or advice is welcome here too
    Good luck, I could say the same till Yr 12 but then in Yr 13 I tried and got the hang of it
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was a solid introverted person for most of my life. Id shy away from everything where possible and hated social interactions especially one on one situations.

    That was all until late yr 12. It was then when I realised exactly how much of a loner I was ( no one has ever texted/called me, never been invited to a single bday party and 3 acquaintances wished me happy birthday on my fb wall last year, no one in school did) and as a survival reaction, I developed confidence.

    Although most of this was for show (fake confidence), it was the most spectacular show and gradually I developed true confidence. Everyone now thinks Im super confident, perhaps even have an inflated ego and feel somewhat intimidated by me. (confirmed by overhearing ppl talking about me) Which was far from my initial intent, I over compensated considerably.

    Regardless,it allowed me to comfortably be alone=walk alone/eat alone/study alone with my chin held high and feel genuinely confident. (along with a dangerously high amount of music, 6hrs+/day)

    Ofc the problem is I still am stupidly alone and it doesnt help Im secretly a massive romantic too. But my image doesnt reflect that at all, its like having 2 identities , one on the out and one on the in which are polar opposites.

    I want to socialise in the worst way and I know I can. Id also love to talk to girls with similar or heck even non similar interests and make ppl smile after conversing, I know I can do that....

    But its a different excuse every year

    yr7-9 was a blur, I rly wasted these yrs it seems!
    yr 10 - its been 3 years since everyone joined, ppl are in their friend groups now, its too late
    yr 11 - now its actually too late, 4 years of in-jokes, references and group chats, you have no chance of joining
    yr 12 - half a decade or more has been put into current friendship groups, jumping in now just seems awkward and super intrusive, almost suspicious
    yr 13 - last year now anyway, not worth starting anything as it wont amount to anything

    Which leads me to now, 4 months left, exams, study leave, uni applications and my last chance to make friends. Thing is, Id love to talk to ppl but I know ppl will think 'why finally now do you start talking to me?' or maybe Im paranoid.

    Regardless, Im going to talk to ppl tmr, ppl Ive never talked to before, hell it doesnt matter if I have 4 months left, sometimes you make choices and sometimes choices make you!

    Also I challenge any of you who are in a similar position to me (probs not many lol) or introverts in general who want to talk to ppl in general or a particular person, lets start tmr and not regret later in life not trying!

    Also also, any general opinions or advice is welcome here too
    you missed an opportunity in year 12. A few of my friends came with me and one best friend. But i needed new friends because my best friend is ****ing obsessed with his gf and so spends most of his time with her. But as it was a new year everyone is searching for friends so it was pretty easy.

    your next best opportunity is uni so i would screw that up and talk to people from the get go.

    for now just try and make a few friends here and there. start with people in your class or just introduce yourself to a new group of friends
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      i don't think i'll ever become an extrovert.i can't fake anything except for lying
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      (Original post by SeanFM)
      Good luck, I could say the same till Yr 12 but then in Yr 13 I tried and got the hang of it
      ah Im happy that it worked out for you

      (Original post by Dafock)
      you missed an opportunity in year 12. A few of my friends came with me and one best friend. But i needed new friends because my best friend is ****ing obsessed with his gf and so spends most of his time with her. But as it was a new year everyone is searching for friends so it was pretty easy.

      your next best opportunity is uni so i would screw that up and talk to people from the get go.

      for now just try and make a few friends here and there. start with people in your class or just introduce yourself to a new group of friends
      think you meant something else in the bold but yeah Ill give uni my best shot

      (Original post by tamil fever)
      i don't think i'll ever become an extrovert.i can't fake anything except for lying
      Nah if I can do it, you easily can
     
     
     
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