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    I'm Indian and this is seen as something that is frowned upon even if there is no relation there. I do know of people (mostly guys) that have gone against this and married people with their mother's maiden name - I remember at the time thinking that it was wrong but, actually, it's not so bad since the girl changes her surname anyway. It would probably be a lot harder for a girl to marry someone with their mum's maiden name, as they'd then end up with that surname.

    Anyway, I've met someone who, annoyingly, has my mother's maiden name but I am certain there's no relation there. Going forward I am interested in dating him, but not if it can't potentially lead to marriage.

    What should I do?
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    Sounds pretty silly to me that this would be any issue whatsoever
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    Is he at least a doctor or a lawyer? If so, you may be able to get away with it.
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    Is he at least a doctor or a lawyer? If so, you may be able to get away with it.
    Hahaha! He is actually a doctor.
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    Sounds pretty silly to me that this would be any issue whatsoever
    I know - it is silly! But then so is a lot of things in my culture
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    I know - it is silly! But then so is a lot of things in my culture
    Why would it be a problem to some people? Because they believe you two must be related way back or something?
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    Hahaha! He is actually a doctor.
    Then it will be fine. Threaten to date a white aspiring musician instead and see if they don't suddenly support your decision
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    (Original post by AndrewSCO)
    Why would it be a problem to some people? Because they believe you two must be related way back or something?
    Something like that.. I think because it shows that his family is from the same village as my mums and that yeh there is possibly some relation there. Even though it's such a common surname anyway
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    Something like that.. I think because it shows that his family is from the same village as my mums and that yeh there is possibly some relation there. Even though it's such a common surname anyway
    I thought Indians didn't care about that sort of stuff and frequently married their 1st cousins

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    I thought Indians didn't care about that sort of stuff and frequently married their 1st cousins

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    Patel, Khan, or Choudary ...I bet he's one of them

    In my religion we don't. If he was Khan/Choudary that'd be even worse
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    If it's Kaur then I wouldn't worry too much about it..
 
 
 
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