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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just did the test and found out I'm ISFP-T
    Mine is INFP or INTJ. Having a rarer personality type makes it harder for you to truly connect with people in terms of the amount of people with a similar thought pattern. However, apparently it can benefit your career by increasing the diversity of opinion/work ethic or something along those lines.
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    (Original post by Amina190)
    Flat mates often end up bein people you just see and aren't always friends with. I have lots of friends who live in accommodations but don't like their flat mates due to different interests. They aren't your only friends. Make friends around uni, in society groups with similar interest and maybe on your course. Your pretty much half way through the year and a lot of people are changing accommodation for next year. So rather than moving out now why don't you find a different accommodation for next year. Hope this helps x
    Thank you for your advice i have already sorted out my accommodation for next year!
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    Be aware that you might end up with nightmare flatmates if you move (noisy, messy etc) or you may just not get on any better than with these people.

    I would wait it out for the year - perhaps make more of an effort with the flatmates you do have OR try and get move involved with people outside your flat (societies etc). Whoever you live with next year - you have to learn to put yourself out there even if it makes you uncomfortable. That means going clubbing sometimes (at least at the start of the year) or at least hanging out for pre drinks, that means meeting their friends, inviting people to do stuff etc. you can't expect to hang out in your room all the time and barely speak to people and have them like you... I know it's hard to do those things but honestly the more you do them the easier it will get and it's good experience for life as you will often have to deal with strangers, groups etc
    Hey thanks for your advice! Going out of my comfort zone is hard but I'm gonna try next year It's a part of experience for like I agree
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you for your advice i have already sorted out my accommodation for next year!
    Your welcome! Aw that's nice hope you have nicer flat mates there!
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    (Original post by Moura)
    tbh I think it's rude of him to tell you that... sounds pretty mean of him. Everyone talks about others it's human nature but you don't tell the person that...
    The words might not be spoken by him but it still makes me feel sad when I know that
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    (Original post by James385)
    Mine is INFP or INTJ. Having a rarer personality type makes it harder for you to truly connect with people in terms of the amount of people with a similar thought pattern. However, apparently it can benefit your career by increasing the diversity of opinion/work ethic or something along those lines.
    I agree, I hope my personality won't get me into any troubles when I'm work though lol
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    (Original post by Amina190)
    Your welcome! Aw that's nice hope you have nicer flat mates there!
    Definitely! I'm gonna live with 2 friends next year
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello thanks for your advice! We are in the exact situation! Glad to hear that you made friends on your course and being very sociable Your words did make me feel happier Yeah at the beginning I thought to myself maybe I can fit in the group one day, but it's so difficult especially they have already formed a strong and close relationship and I'm an introvert persn. However I won't be living with them next year so I don't have to worrying about this again. I'm gonna focus on making friends in my course
    I used to get upset about not fitting in with certain groups of people, but eventually you realise everyone's different and there's no right way to be. As I said you'll be a lot happier once you accept it, instead of feeling guilty for not fitting in. I usually know if I'm going to get on well with people or not quite quickly, and it was just never going to work with my flatmates, invest your energy in people that make you feel good! I totally understand the whole introverted thing too, I was in a flat full of extroverts and they would just want to spend 24/7 with each other, which is how they got so close so quickly. But yes, please don't worry about it And unlike me you've made the wise decision to live with other people next year!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello I'm a first year student. Staying anonymously because I don't want any of my flatmates to see this. Really need some advice on this issue

    So there are 9 people in my flat. At the beginning I tried to socialise with some of them and it was okay. However I'm an introvert person so I didn't join activities like clubbing. Then they spend quite a lot of time together and became very close. Because I wasn't in the flat and that much as they always have friends coming over and have party in the kitchen which makes me feel very awkward to go inside. They probably think that I'm weird and I can feel that they don't like me:/ I also realised that they have a separate group chat without me and often talk behind my back(they said I don't belong in the flat).

    Sometimes I feel sad about this because I didn't do anything to them. And I'm currently considering to move out to start over. Is that a good decision? I really need some advice thank you everyone
    I'm in the exact same position right now. All my flatmates ( well two of them in particular) have decided to gang up on me and have been doing little things to make me feel really uncomfortable about being here. Its sad when people make you feel bad just because you're more introverted and for me personally I find it so difficult to talk in groups with people I'm not comfortable with. I just don't see why that should be a problem for them, it's not like I'm doing anything against them, I'm just keeping to myself. Just keep pushing through and it'll be moving out day before you know it!
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    Hey I am wondering if you live in Ash****t? I experience similar problems with you and would want to speak to you
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello I'm a first year student. Staying anonymously because I don't want any of my flatmates to see this. Really need some advice on this issue

    So there are 9 people in my flat. At the beginning I tried to socialise with some of them and it was okay. However I'm an introvert person so I didn't join activities like clubbing. Then they spend quite a lot of time together and became very close. Because I wasn't in the flat and that much as they always have friends coming over and have party in the kitchen which makes me feel very awkward to go inside. They probably think that I'm weird and I can feel that they don't like me:/ I also realised that they have a separate group chat without me and often talk behind my back(they said I don't belong in the flat).

    Sometimes I feel sad about this because I didn't do anything to them. And I'm currently considering to move out to start over. Is that a good decision? I really need some advice thank you everyone
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    Sometimes I wonder if bullying and threats are used, should the landlord actually mediate and help out ? I feel that this kind of bullying, isolating, passive aggressive manner are kind of like "condoned" because they just don't want to deal with it ? But this is morally wrong.
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in the exact same position right now. All my flatmates ( well two of them in particular) have decided to gang up on me and have been doing little things to make me feel really uncomfortable about being here. Its sad when people make you feel bad just because you're more introverted and for me personally I find it so difficult to talk in groups with people I'm not comfortable with. I just don't see why that should be a problem for them, it's not like I'm doing anything against them, I'm just keeping to myself. Just keep pushing through and it'll be moving out day before you know it!
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    This sounds really cool, some people just can't stop irritating you because you want you to feel you are being hated.
    (Original post by notespad)
    I just kept to myself for the most part. I did not force any friendships (my flatmates were horrible, to be honest, so I knew quite quickly we wouldn't be close/it wasn't due to a misunderstanding).

    So, I only went to the kitchen to make my own food. I hung out in my room most of the time. And then I made friends at uni, so I would happily socialise with them, then come home to my room. It was a nice independent life to be honest. Although the housemates were really horrible with the loud music and partying when I had exams and stuff.

    I believe in God/karma, I was direct with them, but ye, just knew I'd be onto bigger and better things Now I'm in a lovely apartment away from them haha! Don't let anyone get you down - especially people who indirectly pick on you for no reason. Sure, it may look like they have 'friends,' But, truly, when they really need their friends - no-one will be there because their friendship was based on horrible things.

    Now I have a few best friends who would do anything for me (I've been through a lot of family/personal/mental health issues and they were there like my family). I didn't force these relationships, they just happened. be true to you and your people will find you/you'll fine your people
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    (Original post by PalerMadeness)
    Hey I am wondering if you live in Ash****t? I experience similar problems with you and would want to speak to you
    Hello I don't live in Ash****t. But I'm here to chat!
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    Hello I don't live in Ash****t. But I'm here to chat!
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    Hello I don't live in Ash****t. But I'm here to chat!
    (Original post by PalerMadeness) Hi all , I have come across with a super nasty housemate who stole and discard people"s personal belonging as a "retaliation" for people move her stuff on the desk. I don't understand how such people exist on earth and still stay alive. Can anyone share their experience ? And that housemate just keeps creating trouble and complained everyone for every single thing like - walking noise ? Door shutting noise ? Cooking food smell? What they eat? Other people are moody? Like everyone is under her criticism but she wants to be popular among her housemates. What the hell is she doing with her life ? And she even wants to send funeral planner brochure to someone with a terminal disease ? Seriously. Well, the landlord is acting irresponsibly and reacted rudely, say not their business, contact the uni for help.... my gosh
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    Can you PM me ?
    Sent you a PM.
 
 
 
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