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    I have a pretty wide friendship group. One thing I've noticed, is that all my relatively average looking friends get boyfriends easily, like genuine good long-term guys. Finding relationships for them is not a hassle.

    However I have one good friend that I've been mates with for several years now, she is so sweet. And she is absolutely drop dead gorgeous, like head turning beautiful. She's tall, got a slim but curvy body and a stunning face. Everywhere we go people always stare at her. I used to feel a bit small next to her but she's so nice that you can't hold it against her.

    The several years I've known her she has struggled to find a boyfriend/relationship and I don't understand. It doesn't make sense to me how all of us that are nothing special to look at and quite boring personality wise get boyfriends at the click of a finger but yet our super pretty friend who actually used to model can't ever find a relationship. Someone please explain?
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    It probably is her personality. She might be horrible on the inside. Perhaps you haven't seen that side of her?

    Or maybe she's asexual.
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    Had a friend just like this. Turned out she was casually dating many guys on the sly and using them for money, gifts etc. but not actually committing to any of them.

    Could also be a personal choice. Some people are more independent like that.
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    might be a gold digger or she might not be interested at all
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    It probably is her personality. She might be horrible on the inside. Perhaps you haven't seen that side of her?

    Or maybe she's asexual.
    Nah we've been fairly close for quite a few years now she wouldn't even hurt a fly. She is too nice, and quite a sensitive person. She's quite bubbly aswell. It's just weird.
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    in my opinion the better looking women usually neglect the development of their social skills/personalities because they don't need to rely upon it in the same way other people do. this might be why she's not had so much luck. she might also just have very high standards

    you say she's tall - how tall? if it's really tall, I can see this being another potential issue
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    Oh actually to be fair one thing I forgot to mention is that she doesn't have a problem getting male attention, it's just they only want to sleep with her never relationships. F boys I think they're called. She cries about it often to me. Thankfully I haven't come across an 'f boy' yet *touch wood*
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    When you are pretty all the **** boys want you
    You don't know how to filter out the good boys so you just dont look.
    She probably reached that stage of "all boys are good for nothing pigs"
    hopefully she can grow out of it and find a legitimate guy who isn't after sex
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    in my opinion the better looking women usually neglect the development of their social skills/personalities because they don't need to rely upon it in the same way other people do. this might be why she's not had so much luck. she might also just have very high standards

    you say she's tall - how tall? if it's really tall, I can see this being another potential issue
    tbh never asked her her height but from top of my head....i'm like 5'4 im up to her chest or shoulders. id say maybe 5'10 or 11 random guess
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    she's probably just being too picky.

    yes, a very attractive girl will get some f boys after her, but due to her beauty they'll be a fair amount of guys willing to commit as well....
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a pretty wide friendship group. One thing I've noticed, is that all my relatively average looking friends get boyfriends easily, like genuine good long-term guys. Finding relationships for them is not a hassle.

    However I have one good friend that I've been mates with for several years now, she is so sweet. And she is absolutely drop dead gorgeous, like head turning beautiful. She's tall, got a slim but curvy body and a stunning face. Everywhere we go people always stare at her. I used to feel a bit small next to her but she's so nice that you can't hold it against her.

    The several years I've known her she has struggled to find a boyfriend/relationship and I don't understand. It doesn't make sense to me how all of us that are nothing special to look at and quite boring personality wise get boyfriends at the click of a finger but yet our super pretty friend who actually used to model can't ever find a relationship. Someone please explain?

    She may seem less approachable.
    People may deselect themselves i.e not in her league.
    She may be too picky.
    She might not have he right personaliyu that helps her.
    She might not make enough effort to meet people.
    People might think she is taken.

    Have you asked her?
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    tbh never asked her her height but from top of my head....i'm like 5'4 im up to her chest or shoulders. id say maybe 5'10 or 11 random guess
    yeah that'll do it
    that's probably tall to the point that she has very self-limiting height preferences
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    (Original post by JimboJones_)
    yeah that'll do it
    that's probably tall to the point that she has very self-limiting height preferences
    Its not that bad and you dont even know if she is concerned about height.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Its not that bad and you dont even know if she is concerned about height.
    1) she said 5'10-11 as if that isn't implying that she *will* have more restrictive preferences than otherwise
    2) I said "probably"
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    Send her my way lmao.

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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Its not that bad and you dont even know if she is concerned about height.
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    yeah that'll do it
    that's probably tall to the point that she has very self-limiting height preferences
    ye both my ex gfs were around 5'10" and I'm 5'11"

    5'10 is in the normal range of height for a girl.
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    ye both my ex gfs were around 5'10" and I'm 5'11"

    5'10 is in the normal range of height for a girl.
    um, no it's not, that's taller than the average guy
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    (Original post by JimboJones_)
    um, no it's not, that's taller than the average guy
    there are many girls that height lol.
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    there are many girls that height lol.
    so what? it's not normal just because there is a multiplicity of girls of that height. that's not how you define "normal"
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    (Original post by JimboJones_)
    so what? it's not normal just because there is a multiplicity of girls of that height. that's not how you define "normal"
    it's normal lol.
 
 
 
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