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    (Original post by Tootles)
    Mission ****ing accomplished.

    Also, grow up.
    What is your problem?

    It is perfectly reasonable to expect that students in their late teens and early twenties would wish to form relationships with each other, as long as the time required for study didn't preclude so doing. That is a reasonable concern.
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    (Original post by paulkonchesky)
    everything you believe is true mate, i once studied geography at Gonville and Caius college and i faced the same problem. All the females in my class were too focused on their studies to even start a conversation at the dinner table, it really affected me emotionally, but i wish you all the best, it was very hard to go through...

    Maybe you should just go to Manchester Met instead, I'm sure you'll find love there (single mums)
    When were you there?
    I know a Geographer at Caius, but her experience is not like yours.......

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    Actually I know another one. Just remembered a younger brother of my daughter's friend was also a caius geographer. And I've heard he was very happy there.
    Caius is not particularly big college for geography anyway, so probably what you happened to have as your fellow students in your year we're just happened to be like that. Chemistry of students and atmosphere of college can change every year......
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    (Original post by Tootles)
    :lolwut:

    I'm sorry, did they change the reason why you go to university while I wasn't looking?

    If you want to socialize and fall in love, work at Morrison's and just go out every night. Cause, y'know, getting a degree might get in the way of that.
    I doubt working at Morrison's would provide any opportunity to meet intelligent young people. Also 'going out every night' is not the way I would want to form a serious relationship with anyone.

    Do you think it impractical to study for a degree and have a relationship with a fellow student? Why?
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    (Original post by vincrows)
    When were you there?
    I know a Geographer at Caius, but her experience is not like yours.......
    Glad to hear that.
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    (Original post by Bunratty)
    Do you think it impractical to study for a degree and have a relationship with a fellow student? Why?
    No. Because I have one.
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    (Original post by alow)
    No. Because I have one.
    Thank you for posting. I am hoping that Cambridge is a normal place for young people to meet people they are attracted to, and form loving relationships, despite the silly, shallow, puerile responses initially posted.
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    (Original post by Peterhouse Admissions)
    I met my wife while we were both undergraduates at Cambridge. Plenty of our friends did the same.
    Thank you for your post. Yes that is what I have heard from the older generations. I am hoping it still holds true.
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    (Original post by Bunratty)
    Glad to hear that.
    Good.

    And just add some more, all the recent (in relative term. I mean last 10/15 yrs) Cambridge students I've known who are/were in relationship during at Cambridge met their BF/GF at Cambridge, except for a few who'd already in relationship when they started and continued it throughout their course there.
    Some of them are still in the same relationship after they graduated.
    Also all of them, except for one medic, were members of at least one club/society which they really enjoyed. So you can have a life outside your study even a place like Cambridge.

    But at uni like Cambridge (or any other top unis), you're expected to put your academic commitment as your priority, so is your prospective partner. So that's not what you want, I'm sure there other universities you can spend more time and attention on your love life.
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    My daughter had one relationship at Cam, but he dropped out and their relationship didn't survive the separation. Otherwise, she studied about 60 hours per week, devoted at least ten to chorus and various theatre activities, and the rest of the time hung out with friends. It is an intense place, she was constantly exhausted, but into everything.
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    (Original post by vincrows)
    When were you there?
    I know a Geographer at Caius, but her experience is not like yours.......
    started in 2010 dude
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    (Original post by vincrows)
    Good.

    And just add some more, all the recent (in relative term. I mean last 10/15 yrs) Cambridge students I've known who are/were in relationship during at Cambridge met their BF/GF at Cambridge, except for a few who'd already in relationship when they started and continued it throughout their course there.
    Some of them are still in the same relationship after they graduated.
    Also all of them, except for one medic, were members of at least one club/society which they really enjoyed. So you can have a life outside your study even a place like Cambridge.

    But at uni like Cambridge (or any other top unis), you're expected to put your academic commitment as your priority, so is your prospective partner. So that's not what you want, I'm sure there other universities you can spend more time and attention on your love life.
    Obviously the reason to go to a top university is to get a good degree and work hard. However, I don't see that that should require little or no normal interaction with members of the opposite sex. Part of being happy is having a close relationship while succeeding at study and career. I simply wanted to know that that will be possible. One should not stop the other.
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    (Original post by vincrows)
    When were you there?
    I know a Geographer at Caius, but her experience is not like yours.......

    Edit:
    Actually I know another one. Just remembered a younger brother of my daughter's friend was also a caius geographer. And I've heard he was very happy there.
    Caius is not particularly big college for geography anyway, so probably what you happened to have as your fellow students in your year we're just happened to be like that. Chemistry of students and atmosphere of college can change every year......
    There were a lot of really bad experiences there and unfortunately I was on the receiving end of it all.
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    (Original post by paulkonchesky)
    started in 2010 dude
    Seen my edit above?

    Yep, she was there when you were there. A couple of years below you.








    And I'm not dude.......
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    (Original post by alcibiade)
    My daughter had one relationship at Cam, but he dropped out and their relationship didn't survive the separation. Otherwise, she studied about 60 hours per week, devoted at least ten to chorus and various theatre activities, and the rest of the time hung out with friends. It is an intense place, she was constantly exhausted, but into everything.
    That is great! Just what I want, well apart from the dropping out and separation obviously.

    I hope she is happy now and doing well in career and life.
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    (Original post by paulkonchesky)
    There were a lot of really bad experiences there and unfortunately I was on the receiving end of it all.
    Very sorry to hear that.
    Was it mainly with those fellow students, or left at Caius/Cambridge in general?
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    (Original post by vincrows)
    Seen my edit above?

    Yep, she was there when you were there. A couple of years below you.








    And I'm not dude.......
    she was a lucky one then, tbh I don't really wanna talk about what I went through because it makes me too sad so yeah.
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    (Original post by paulkonchesky)
    There were a lot of really bad experiences there and unfortunately I was on the receiving end of it all.
    I'm sorry to hear that. But that could happen at any university, and isn't necessarily the fault of Cambridge culture.
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    (Original post by Bunratty)
    Obviously the reason to go to a top university is to get a good degree and work hard. However, I don't see that that should require little or no normal interaction with members of the opposite sex. Part of being happy is having a close relationship while succeeding at study and career. I simply wanted to know that that will be possible. One should not stop the other.
    Nobody is suggesting or even implying you can only choose one.
    Just saying you may not be able to spend so much of,your time/attention (esp. time) on relationship as much as if you were at less demanding environment.
    It's not black OR white.
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    (Original post by paulkonchesky)
    she was a lucky one then, tbh I don't really wanna talk about what I went through because it makes me too sad so yeah.
    I apologize for awakening painful memories, and hope that your life has turned out fine despite the bad experience.
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    (Original post by vincrows)
    Nobody is suggesting or even implying you can only choose one.
    Just saying you may not be able to spend so much of,your time/attention (esp. time) on relationship as much as if you were at less demanding environment.
    It's not black OR white.
    So, your answer to my thread question is - yes, but perhaps not significantly so.
 
 
 
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