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    I've met a wonderful girl at work and over a period of time I've fallen in love with her, the only problem is we're from different cultural background and this is hindering moving our relationship any further on my part. I really like her but I'm worried to tell my family, I'm from an Asian Muslim family and she is from an English family.

    It all started a few months back when she first joined our department, at first the wasn't much between us apart from physical attraction. Not long after, we began talking quite a lot, she told me she wasn't very happy in her current relationship. After she split with her partner we began seeing each other but it was based on the lines of 'friends with benefit' but by then we had got to have known each other and the relationship sort of developed.

    Any way since we've been hooked up we have been away on several vacation on each of the occasion I've told my parents and family it was with a few of my local friends. The connection between the two of us is very strong and I feel like I can't live with or without her. I haven't told her I love her because she still works with me and I would hate it if it got weird between us.

    I haven't spoken to anyone about how I feel but without the relationship moving forward it feels like I'm holding her back, it's quite obvious to everyone in the workplace we are in some sort of relationship, we book the same leave ever time but there isn't much proof. I feel like I'm in a dilemma between choosing her or sticking to the cultural norms.

    My heart and mind are so full right now I can't put everything into words. I don't know what to do. I'm not necessarily asking for advice even though your thoughts would be appreciated I'm just more interested in getting my feeling of my chest.
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    Yeah, I'm struggling to see the reason here.

    Tell her YOU LOVE HER
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    If I was you, I would tell her that I love her. I understand that it may be hard for you to come out about her to your parents but they will eventually have to accept her. I know what you're going through (My mother is English and my dad is Pakistani.)
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    I know deep down at one point I will have to speak to her about the 'status' of our relationship. I know it will be difficult considering we hardly talk about our relationship in general.

    She is slightly older than me by a few years but we're both in our 20's. I have no issues with our age but I'm coming to an age where my family would like to see me get married, my brother recently got married not through arranged but 'love' but she was from the same cultural background.

    She recently been getting text from her long term ex but from what I've observed she has moved on in fact I was in her car some days ago and she was very upset but what her ex had to say other the phone.

    Her birthday is coming around next month and we're both doing skydiving to celebrate. I wanted to tell her how I feel then but I don't know if I should attempt something sooner.





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    If I was you, I would tell her that I love her. I understand that it may be hard for you to come out about her to your parents but they will eventually have to accept her. I know what you're going through (My mother is English and my dad is Pakistani.)
    Thanks for all the advice, I've managed to tell her about my feeling and it honestly felt great my only regret was not saying anything sooner.

    We both decided to tell another colleague about our relationship, mainly due to the fact he is of similar culture to me an is a married man with kids. It felt a bit awkward telling him at first but at the same time it felt quite liberating telling him, it sort of moved the relationship from secrecy to the open.

    The remaining issue I have is telling my parents and family about our relationship, I really love her and I don't want her to think that I will allow my cultural background come between the two of us. I will always choose her over anything else.

    My only dilemma is how to tell my parents, I know the is no easy way but I'm thinking of telling my siblings first


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