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    I don't know where to begin so I'll tell you about myself I'm 17 male been diagnosed with aspergers and have no friends. When i mean no friends I really mean it. When I started sixth form back in September I dreamed of making friends with strange people like myself. However since day one I made no friends and spend my free time roaming around town looking at people with friends. I'm not upset at my lack of friends because I don't like people. I've never had a girlfriend and will never have one as I just can't talk to people let alone females. I've also never been to a party in my life as I don't like alcohol so I don't drink. I spend my free time outside of college in my bedroom listening to music trying to find something fun to do but I can't because I have lost all interest in my hobbies as they have been replaced with depression. Any suggestions on something I could do with my life instead of wishing it was over ???
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    Dear AutisticBiscuit,

    Im going to share a secret at times we all feel this way. Watching other people seem to have the perfect relationships. People are hard to understand, real friends are hard to make. Those people you see around town do at times have the same worries as you. Happiness is something we feel when we are true to ourselves. What are you interested in? Music is so good for the heart. Really that is how friendships start. There are things you can learn to ease your anxiety when being with people and the Autistic society often offers support have you tried to look them up in your area? I just want to let you know 17 is a really difficult age and lots of us as struggled with the same feelings.it does get easier.
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    Is it possible for you to get a dog? If you don't like people, you might find some joy and company in an animal.

    And regards the not being able to enjoy anything, anhedonia is a common symptom in depression. It makes life difficult to enjoy. Time stands still and you wonder what's the point.

    The best way to get through this is a combination of therapy, medication and forcing yourself into activities. This is much easier said done of course. Take care.
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    I have been there. Believe me, I understand how you feel, although I do admit that, since I do not have Asperger's, I may not be able to fully appreciate your situation.

    Take it from me, there's a light beaming at the end of the tunnel. However long your tunnel is, the light is always there and it's always waiting for you to reach it; just keep moving forward one day at a time.

    Try joining clubs or societies at your school or in your local community - perhaps you would find attending a support group for people in your situation beneficial?

    All the best,
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    (Original post by AutisticBiscuit)
    I don't know where to begin so I'll tell you about myself I'm 17 male been diagnosed with aspergers and have no friends. When i mean no friends I really mean it. When I started sixth form back in September I dreamed of making friends with strange people like myself. However since day one I made no friends and spend my free time roaming around town looking at people with friends. I'm not upset at my lack of friends because I don't like people. I've never had a girlfriend and will never have one as I just can't talk to people let alone females. I've also never been to a party in my life as I don't like alcohol so I don't drink. I spend my free time outside of college in my bedroom listening to music trying to find something fun to do but I can't because I have lost all interest in my hobbies as they have been replaced with depression. Any suggestions on something I could do with my life instead of wishing it was over ???
    you sound just like me actaully no we are kind of different I am satisfied with didnt read it fully... Aspergers isn't a big deal. I didn't like sixth form either but university looks much better. Maybe your so upset is because you dont socialise. Even I don't like people that much but I am there for people are they are there for me. Things get better don't worry.
 
 
 
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