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    Hello, I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I live in a small-ish town, and will be moving to a smaller town with my family in the summer. The universities that I've applied to are over an hour away by car and almost two hours away by train (I have to switch trains and take a bus) and I really want to live on campus but my parents won't let me because of cultural reasons. They also think that I will end up getting drunk every night or take drugs or worse, sleep with boys. They also made it very clear with me that if I do somehow end up living at uni then I won't be supported financially.

    Is living at uni that great? Will I miss out on a lot?
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    I started a similar thread:
    https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho....php?t=4480172 (have a look see at what others have advised me)

    I think that (especially 1st year) provides literally a once-in-a-lifetime experience. You get thrown together with people of similar ages, have to learn to survive together and you hope to make life-long friends (hopefully! )

    I am going to move out, regardless if the Uni is 10 mins or 10 hours away from home - I need a kicking up the *ahem*
    I'm too lazy and reckon learning to live and support myself will be a good life-lesson for me. I enjoy meeting new people (from NCS; best two weeks of my life:woo:). With so many people telling me that freshers week is just something else, I want to experience it for what it is. Tbh I know a lot of it's going to involve clubbing, alcohol etc. But let's see if it can surprise me

    Granted, you can still have a great time commuting - stay for the whole day and come back home just for bed and Mum's food But you will likely only go to Uni on days you have lectures/seminars and maybe sometimes on other days to meet friends. Travelling late will be a pain if you plan to go out in the evenings, etc. I don't drink personally so I doubt I will be out late anyways, but even so, I would like to know that my bed's 15 min walk away rather than having to stress over train times.

    Make a pro/ cons list. It'll help clear out your mind. Do whatever's best for you. Personally, I'll move out, make the friends and social circle (since 1st year counts for tiddly-winks anyways) and then get down to work and if need be, stay at home.

    Hope I could be of help
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    (Original post by stressedluxx)
    Hello, I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I live in a small-ish town, and will be moving to a smaller town with my family in the summer. The universities that I've applied to are over an hour away by car and almost two hours away by train (I have to switch trains and take a bus) and I really want to live on campus but my parents won't let me because of cultural reasons. They also think that I will end up getting drunk every night or take drugs or worse, sleep with boys. They also made it very clear with me that if I do somehow end up living at uni then I won't be supported financially.

    Is living at uni that great? Will I miss out on a lot?

    Hi,

    I wouldn’t worry about missing out by not living in halls. I’m a first year at derby and although I do live in halls, most of the opportunities for events etc. have been through the university and not necessarily through people at halls. There’s loads to get involved with at uni, student union events, societies etc. so don’t worry about missing out.

    I’m not sure about other universities, but the university of derby has great bus and train links and lots of people I know commute to uni and none of them find this much of an issue.

    Hope this helps and let me know if you have any other questions,

    Molly
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    (Original post by stressedluxx)
    Hello, I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I live in a small-ish town, and will be moving to a smaller town with my family in the summer. The universities that I've applied to are over an hour away by car and almost two hours away by train (I have to switch trains and take a bus) and I really want to live on campus but my parents won't let me because of cultural reasons. They also think that I will end up getting drunk every night or take drugs or worse, sleep with boys. They also made it very clear with me that if I do somehow end up living at uni then I won't be supported financially.

    Is living at uni that great? Will I miss out on a lot?
    two hours each way is IMO too long a commute- thats 4 hours a day just travelling.
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    (Original post by mollyanne98)
    Hi,

    I wouldn’t worry about missing out by not living in halls. I’m a first year at derby and although I do live in halls, most of the opportunities for events etc. have been through the university and not necessarily through people at halls. There’s loads to get involved with at uni, student union events, societies etc. so don’t worry about missing out.

    I’m not sure about other universities, but the university of derby has great bus and train links and lots of people I know commute to uni and none of them find this much of an issue.

    Hope this helps and let me know if you have any other questions,

    Molly
    Thanks! I totally forgot about societies and all that, I was mainly focused on having the 'uni experience' but this made me feel a lot better ^^
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    two hours each way is IMO too long a commute- thats 4 hours a day just travelling.
    I know...trust me
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    Do your parents realise that uni is not school. If they are so worried about you doing inappropriate things, you are not going to be sitting in a classroom all day and supervised by dinnerladies when you're not. Pressurising you by threatening to not help financially, resulting in you sitting alone on a train with any number of undesirable characters for four hours a day, presumably after dark in the winter, are they going to escort you to and fro? As opposed to you getting a nice safe flat with some respectable girls from a similar cultural background from you? Are there other families in their cultural circle where daughters have gone away to university, that you could work on to show them it is not such a disaster? You could also promise to come home every weekend. Commuting such a long way is probably going to be more expensive than living in halls anyway. Point out to them that you are going to lose 2-4 hours study time every day and will be too tired to do well. I would say anything more than a half hour commute each way seriously affects the quality of the study at uni and it is virtually not worth doing it. I hope this isn't their secret agenda.
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    (Original post by stressedluxx)
    Thanks! I totally forgot about societies and all that, I was mainly focused on having the 'uni experience' but this made me feel a lot better ^^
    Glad this helped! let me know if there's anything else you want to know about uni!
    Molly
 
 
 
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