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    I believe I might be depressed after a close and significant friend at university (and I don't have too many friends) started distancing herself. I'm a third year university student.

    Since then I have been feeling incredibly lonely, I've also suspended my studies for the year (due to other reasons) which had made the loneliness worse. To combat the loneliness I have tried to seek the company of other people and work on other friendships.

    However, I find that in those situations I can't really laugh or be funny or interesting... I just can't make good conversation at all. I was talking to my flatmate and conversation quickly dried up and we sat in silence. My head was so full of worries I couldn't think of anything interesting to say. When I left, another flatmate (who she hasn't known for nearly as long) came to talk to her and I could hear them laughing on and on all the way from upstairs.

    I end up feeling worse sometimes after talking to people, but I'm so afraid of being left all alone that I seek out people's company.

    I also kept hoping that talking to/socialising with other people would restore my sense of humour and liveliness but it all seems futile.

    Does it sound like I'm depressed, and that medication might help?
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    Yes, definitely go and see your GP, describe the feelings and they'll probably suggest something to help. If you're already feeling quite numb, the initial medication can flatten you out even more, so maybe hint you need something to pick you up, rather than that.
    Medication isn't a fix all, you will need to go to some kind of talking therapy as well I imagine, but it does really help when you manage to verbalise it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes, definitely go and see your GP, describe the feelings and they'll probably suggest something to help. If you're already feeling quite numb, the initial medication can flatten you out even more, so maybe hint you need something to pick you up, rather than that.
    Medication isn't a fix all, you will need to go to some kind of talking therapy as well I imagine, but it does really help when you manage to verbalise it.
    Thanks for your response. I already go to counselling at my university. I have no problem verbalising things, it just hasn't helped that much. It might be helpful at the time when I'm talking about things and the counsellor says things that are positive and hopeful, but I feel it hasn't made a difference long term.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for your response. I already go to counselling at my university. I have no problem verbalising things, it just hasn't helped that much. It might be helpful at the time when I'm talking about things and the counsellor says things that are positive and hopeful, but I feel it hasn't made a difference long term.
    Sounds like medication may be the next step. Having been through similar feelings, the medication definitely helps, but it's about finding the right meds, and sticking with them. It can feel like a long process but it's worth it in the end. Could just be a bit of a rubbish period, and you'll come out of it feeling better.
 
 
 
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