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    To be honest, I just found it funny. Like it's just some random on the internet getting this triggered at me, they're the ones wasting their life attacking strangers.

    However, I've found a lot of the time, people also get really offended when their beliefs/actions are questioned and they can't defend them.
    If you're getting hurt by disagreements/criticism on the internet, real life is gonna hit you like a train.

    I totally agree with Tyler the Creator's stance on cyberbullying tbh.
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    It has happened to me on this website, unfortunately. Some idiots posted up old photographs of me (which has lead to me privatising my Facebook as much as possible) and sent me abusive messages on here and on Facebook. It got dealt with very quickly (thanks CT :hugs:), and I guess it would have not affected me that much. Except that I was only mere days out of hospital and I still felt quite mentally unbalanced. :sad:
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    This used to happen a lot on social media, I used to use ask.fm and people would just troll and be mean. At first I couldn't really deal with it but now I just laugh and find it funny. Luckily it hasn't happened on this website as much, a few times it has happened off site with a friend of mine I made online that I no longer talk to as she just became very nasty and horrible.

    In some situations it's easy to walk away and leave and others, especially if you know them, it can be harder to digest.
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    Outright trolling is easy to ignore, more hurtful are online cliques imo. Sometimes the internet can feel like a primary school playground.
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    Makes me laugh most of the time. Like, especially in regards to TSR (which is where I mostly interact with strangers), you have to remember most people here are either at school or uni.

    Which is amusing when you consider they'll probably act completely fine in real life, then the activity they enjoying doing in their spare time is trolling a forum/being a nuisance.

    When you consider it like that, it just makes me laugh how 'keyboard warrior' so many of them are. So it doesn't be bother me, if anything I somewhat pity them that they don't have something better to do in their free time.
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    Always remember that whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.
    Totally didn't steal this.
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    I think that people need to develop a thick skin to criticism about themselves. Whether that be online or in reality. You must think about how valid the things someone is saying actually are. If they don't know you. You can only be judged by what you write like your opinions and beliefs. But everyone is entitled to their own. It's important to be confident in yourself and your own views! But I can understand why people being unsupportive would effect you, after all you were seeking much needed support. Might I suggest that there are certain subjects more appropriate for discussion such as general topics that can be widely and impartiality answered. But topics that are less advisable such as personal issues and feelings. Those are best answered by your friends in real life that know you well and can be trusted. Because it's these types of topics that are more likely to upset you if you receive unsupportive answers. Just remember that you don't necessarily know the truth about anyone you are talking to online. As people can be whoever they want to be. So their opinion of you shouldn't be of importance and you shouldn't let it effect you in any way
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    I just get over anything that people say to me, just got to grow a thick skin and realise that it doesnt matter, sticks and stones can hurt words cant, unless they come from someone important.

    Me and my friends we all "bully" eachother and it is fun just stop complaining about it and caring and it should go away or not bother you.
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    This sort of stuff is horrible. Most of the time I laugh and get on with it, but occasionally something just hits home. The internet seems to bring out the best and worst in people and whilst a lot of the time trolls can be funny, when it comes at the expense of hurting other people that's not okay. Over a period of time or when something goes too far and turns into bullying it can have a massive impact, same as it can in real life.
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    "How I felt when someone was mean to me online/ "trolled" me' support thread"

    Succession of users join the thread to tell anyone seeking support that they need to ignore it/laugh at it/grow a thick skin/stop being a sissy.

    :nope: TSR users - sometimes you let us all down with your lack of comprehension skills and empathy.
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    The only insults that should hurt are personal insults from people who know you. I don't understand how you can get so hurt when a stranger insults you. They literally don't know you enough for any of their insults to hold any weight.
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    (Original post by PQ)
    "How I felt when someone was mean to me online/ "trolled" me' support thread"

    Succession of users join the thread to tell anyone seeking support that they need to ignore it/laugh at it/grow a thick skin/stop being a sissy.

    :nope: TSR users - sometimes you let us all down with your lack of comprehension skills and empathy.

    I agree, I think all of the contributions have been helpful and with good intention, though some members may have accidentally missed the point.

    I think ultimately, whether each of us have a thick skin or not, what I am trying to address is that it's not ok to anonymously lash out or target people online. And feeling upset from someone responding to you in a derogatory or intentionally hurtful way does not make you weak, or a snowflake, it makes you a human being.

    What I wanted to get across in this thread is that I think I do have a thick skin, I'm not a "sissy", however sometimes words do hurt, or criticism of something I have done with good intention, I'm a complete sucker when it comes to 'disappointing' people or people questioning my integrity. I'm just a human trying to do my best, like the majority of us are.

    I can laugh things off too, but sometimes like all of us, I lack a little resilience when I'm tired or juggling a lot of stuff. That doesn't make me weak.

    Let's keep this thread as a supportive place for anyone that is having a hard time online, this community has a great deal of expertise and experience in supporting each other - so let's do it

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    It always amazes me how blind people can be to their own irony. As always, Im glad that your life experiences mean that you haven't a clue what we're talking about and can make ultimately useless comments "advice" about laughing about it or developing a thicker skin.

    I dont need a thicker skin, it is normal to respond with fear and disgust when you re trolled with rape threats and subsequently sent horrific rape "porn". When someone on a message board like this set up, sends you a message with your personal details that they've managed to accumulate about you because they have serious hacking skills and talks about breaking in and doing all manner of things. Its not funny when trolls become online and/or offline stalkers.

    It doesnt need to be that extreme. How we relate to other human beings in so-called polite society in much more indicative than anything some psycho perv with csa videos is ever going to be.

    Its also really effing boring to hear the same arguments about how someone lacks humour or is a snowflake because they choose not to ignore the world around them. Ignorance doesnt actually lead to a happier life; ignorance is not bliss. You can see the product of ignorance and inaction happening around you in the world right now.
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    Feel the need to kinda underline this point

    It is normal to respond to hurtful things with hurt

    Not responding that way, that is worrisome and something I would want to be working with if i saw it in a therapy client. Ignorance or lack of response is not a sign of strength in the way people think. It is a defence mechanism. Vulnerability and the ability to be honest in each moment with all our interactions is a higher form of strength and bravery/ Though, admittedly, impossible to do literally all the time.
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    (Original post by She-Ra)
    I agree, I think all of the contributions have been helpful and with good intention, though some members may have accidentally missed the point.
    I haven't accidentally missed the point; I have non-accidentally rejected it, this after drawing the distinction between social media bullying by acquaintances, that is horrible and might sensibly affect a person's state of mind, and trolling on e.g. TSR, that really should be only ignored or laughed off.
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    (Original post by ~Tara~)
    It always amazes me how blind people can be to their own irony. As always, Im glad that your life experiences mean that you haven't a clue what we're talking about and can make ultimately useless comments "advice" about laughing about it or developing a thicker skin.

    I dont need a thicker skin, it is normal to respond with fear and disgust when you re trolled with rape threats and subsequently sent horrific rape "porn". When someone on a message board like this set up, sends you a message with your personal details that they've managed to accumulate about you because they have serious hacking skills and talks about breaking in and doing all manner of things. Its not funny when trolls become online and/or offline stalkers.

    It doesnt need to be that extreme. How we relate to other human beings in so-called polite society in much more indicative than anything some psycho perv with csa videos is ever going to be.

    Its also really effing boring to hear the same arguments about how someone lacks humour or is a snowflake because they choose not to ignore the world around them. Ignorance doesnt actually lead to a happier life; ignorance is not bliss. You can see the product of ignorance and inaction happening around you in the world right now.
    Sounds more like stalking, online bullying and sexual harrassment rather than simple trolling to me. Sorry to hear of your experience if that's what you've been through.
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    (Original post by WoodyMKC)
    Sounds more like stalking, online bullying and sexual harrassment rather than simple trolling to me. Sorry to hear of your experience if that's what you've been through.
    Honestly, didnt view it as anything other than trolling until i was research participant for uni friend looking into online stalking. And it started with banter and usual trolling. Especially in the male-female context of women being less than. Then they got really hurt that i wasnt romantically bowling over by their belittling of me. other times it has been similar stuff being sent because i spoke out against the sexual abuse of boys by women. This offended their masculinity so obviously then I must be reeducated on my own sexuality, appearance and worth as a human. For some men, their masculinity is so fragile it must be protected and guarded at all costs.

    Rape threats are unpleasant and scary regardless of your background but as a survivor of rape, its pretty horrific.
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    (Original post by She-Ra)
    See, that is awesome. And most of the time I react like that.... but sometimes.... it just takes me down... BAM, all my resiliance goes, I feel like a plastic bag filled with water and full of holes. All my energy just drains....

    Anyone else get that feeling? :ninjagirl:



    I try and rationalise too... but I realise I can be a sensitive flower... and sometimes I just have to feel what I'm feeling
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    Today is Safer Internet Day so thought I'd give this thread a little bit of love and a bump

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