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    Hi everybody.
    So I met this cute girl online.
    Met her twice, but because I am very shy with girls, nothing happened, I wanted to kiss her but couldn't bring myself to that.
    I think as a result she only sees me as a friend right now.
    Anyway I am going to send her this message ( made up names ) :

    Hi Megan.
    Listen, I am going to be honest with you.
    I don't want you as a friend, and I don't want other girls, I want you.
    I think you are really cute and beautiful.
    I wanted to kiss you, and hold your hands, and tell you I think you are cute and beautiful many times during the two times we met but because of my paralyzing shyness I couldn't bring myself to do that.
    So if you only see me as a friend because I am too shy, or quiet or awkward or boring , or because you just don't want me, I totally understand that and we'll end things between us now forever.

    David.

    I would like some feedback please.
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    Lol why are you giving her an ultimatum after 2 dates? She is going to ignore you if you send that. Ask her on a third date and kiss her.
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    Cut these lines out:
    "I wanted to kiss you many times during the two times we met but because of my shyness I didn't have the courage to do that. So if you only want me as a friend because I am too shy, or quiet or awkward or boring , or you just don't want me, I totally understand that and we'll end things now forever.

    Girls want a guy who takes control. If you say that she may feel under pressure to make something happen. Don't be shy. If you risk nothing you gain nothing.
    Don't give her that option in the last sentence.
    Yes you may get rejected, but I think removing those lines is the best way to go.
    And don't be scared of being rejected from a kiss. Happens to people all the time. If it happens just make a joke out the situation and laugh it off and its 100% not awkward at all.
    Another thing is you're admitting you have no courage and confidence. Why would a girl want to be with a guy like that? She may feel that in the future you may not do certain things she wants and the relationship would be awkward!
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    (Original post by Mathsmad123)
    Cut these lines out:
    "I wanted to kiss you many times during the two times we met but because of my shyness I didn't have the courage to do that. So if you only want me as a friend because I am too shy, or quiet or awkward or boring , or you just don't want me, I totally understand that and we'll end things now forever.

    Girls want a guy who takes control. If you say that she may feel under pressure to make something happen. Don't be shy. If you risk nothing you gain nothing.
    Don't give her that option in the last sentence.
    Yes you may get rejected, but I think removing those lines is the best way to go.
    And don't be scared of being rejected from a kiss. Happens to people all the time. If it happens just make a joke out the situation and laugh it off and its 100% not awkward at all.
    Another thing is you're admitting you have no courage and confidence. Why would a girl want to be with a guy like that? She may feel that in the future you may not do certain things she wants and the relationship would be awkward!
    The problem is I AM shy and have low - self confidence.
    I might as well admit my weaknesses.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Lol why are you giving her an ultimatum after 2 dates? She is going to ignore you if you send that. Ask her on a third date and kiss her.
    Listen the thing is this :
    If she still wants or wanted me from the beginning she will understand that I didn't " act romanitcally " because of my shyness.
    And I still have a chance with her.

    If she doesn't want me or didn't want me from the beginning it's not going to matter anyway.
    That's what I am trying to find out here.
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    "Declaration of intentions"

    The only intention that you're declaring is that you want to fondle her.


    Jesus Dave, sort it out.
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    Also, do you think the use of the word "forever" is too dramatic?.
 
 
 
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