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    I mean ultimately things that happen are just things that happen.
    Then why should feel bad about anything?.
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    Evolutionarily speaking, feeling bad about "bad" things is key to a successful large society
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    because maybe the thing that happened could have been prevented from happening

    or you weren't expecting that thing to happen that happened

    sometimes you shouldn't feel bad cos u no its going to happen but it doesn't stop you from feeling bad

    we should feel bad about things that we caused to happen, could have prevented from happening etc but we shouldn't always feel bad about thins that we could not have changed cos it would happen anyway so in feeling bad about it you're not going to undo the situation.
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    (Original post by h3rmit)
    Evolutionarily speaking, feeling bad about "bad" things is key to a successful large society
    Can you elaborate on that?.

    What I mean is that feeling bad about something is judging it to be "bad", but ultimately it's just something that happened, like all other things that happen, or in other words all things are ultimately neutral.
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    (Original post by VinciVe.)
    Can you elaborate on that?.

    What I mean is that feeling bad about something is judging it to be "bad", but ultimately it's just something that happened, like all other things that happen, or in other words all things are ultimately neutral.
    Feeling bad about things is tied to feelings of empathy, which prevents people killing, stealing etc,. Even things you haven't done that were "bad" e.g 9/11 may reinforce your sense of empathy both directly and indirectly through strengthening the sense of belonging to the pack.
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    (Original post by h3rmit)
    Feeling bad about things is tied to feelings of empathy, which prevents people killing, stealing etc,. Even things you haven't done that were "bad" e.g 9/11 may reinforce your sense of empathy both directly and indirectly through strengthening the sense of belonging to the pack.
    Yeah, I guess you are right.

    If we didn't feel bad about anything we'd all be psycopaths.
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    (Original post by VinciVe.)
    Yeah, I guess you are right.

    If we didn't feel bad about anything we'd all be psycopaths.
    And that wouldn't be a nice world to live in, even with flawed solutions like laws and religions
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    (Original post by h3rmit)
    And that wouldn't be a nice world to live in, even with flawed solutions like laws and religions
    Yeah but sometimes I do want to feel like a "psycopath" in a sense and not feel bad about anything.
    I am not talking about murder/theft or all those horrible things which I will never do.

    I mean "feeling bad" or "awkward" which in this case are the same about the little things like approaching attractive girls or talking in public.
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    (Original post by VinciVe.)
    Yeah but sometimes I do want to feel like a "psycopath" in a sense and not feel bad about anything.
    I am not talking about murder/theft or all those horrible things which I will never do.

    I mean "feeling bad" or "awkward" which in this case are the same about the little things like approaching attractive girls or talking in public.
    Well, that's more about fear of rejection from the pack, you just need to try those things more and maybe adopt a semi-nihilistic attitude, because nothing you say to those attractive girls or people in public really matters in the long term, and your mistakes will generally be forgotten. You think about how people interpret you a lot more than other people think about you.
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    (Original post by h3rmit)
    Well, that's more about fear of rejection from the pack, you just need to try those things more and maybe adopt a semi-nihilistic attitude, because nothing you say to those attractive girls or people in public really matters in the long term, and your mistakes will generally be forgotten. You think about how people interpret you a lot more than other people think about you.
    Yeah.
    And the reason these rejections / failures/ mistakes will not matter is that because we are all going to die eventually?.
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    (Original post by VinciVe.)
    Yeah.
    And the reason these rejections / failures/ mistakes will not matter is that because we are all going to die eventually?.
    Mostly, but you'll also learn from them, as well as get a better emotional intelligence and become a better person because of them
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    (Original post by VinciVe.)
    I mean ultimately things that happen are just things that happen.
    Then why should feel bad about anything?.
    It depends what kind of 'bad' you're talking about really. Are you talking about guilt over hurting people, feeling upset over thing that have happened, or just any bad feeling in general?
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    (Original post by shadowdweller)
    It depends what kind of 'bad' you're talking about really. Are you talking about guilt over hurting people, feeling upset over thing that have happened, or just any bad feeling in general?
    All of the above.
    Any bad feeling whatsoever
 
 
 
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