Friends won't see me.

Ok i have been home for the summer holiday and before i left i had quite a few friends in my home town and i do make the effort to talk to them while i'm at uni over msn and texts and stuff. The thing is all this summer i have been trying to meet up with them and whenever i say 'do you wanna meet up' or 'do you wanna go for a drink' they stop talking to me. I dunno why this is? Do they think i've outgrown them at uni or do they think cos i'm at uni and they are still stuck here that we have nothing in common any more? I can't work out why my friends don't wanna see me.

Reply 1

username47781

Ask them maybe? or maybe they are just busy?

Reply 2

fairycakes

what happens when u ask them to meet up? like what do they say?

Reply 3

hippieglitter

Nothing, they stop talking completely, its usually over msn. If i ask them over the phone they say later and they'll text me when they are ready and then they don't. It was the same at christmas i asked them if they wanted to go out for a christmas eve drink and they said no then i found out from the one freind who does see me (who just happens to be my ex) that they were all having a drink round at one of their houses.

Reply 4

moham

errrrrrm maybe they dont like you......

Reply 5

Anon80008

From what you've said it just sounds as if they don't like you that much. Maybe it's something to do with your ex?

Reply 6

DodgyTrousers

It might be that they've sort of moved on, because you aren't around all the time. If they have new friends, they are probably going to want to keep them in the loop all the time, at the expense of others they don't see as much. This is especially true if they are juggling work, or a boyf/gf.

Don't take it to heart. You could try asking them, but it is putting them in a bit of a position. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, it just happens. I don't speak to anyone I used to go to school with now , all different friends.

Reply 7

suicidal_dream

if you havent been home much during the year or if you havent made the effort then it makes sense that they're a bit óff'wth you.

if you did make an effort when you were at uni, maybe they're just jealous?

ask them to their faces.

Reply 8

ATPB

Based on how you've described their behaviour, I wouldn't pursue it if you want to keep on speaking terms with them to be honest... even if you eventually do get them to go out with you, the tension which would be inevitable always ruins the night, for me at least.

I would agree that it sounds like they're either jealous, or have moved on. They don't want to be involved with you, but they don't want to tell you to get bent either?

Reply 9

sallymc9000

unfortunatly people change :s-smilie:

, it sucks when its your friends who you've known for ages, similar has happened to me.
ask them a few more times but dont be forceful as though you are desperate to see them. if it becomes really obvious that they dont, then ******* em! they dont deseve you!