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    Me and a close friend of mine were on a night out recently and ending up getting together, the same thing happened a few nights later so we've kinda decided on a friends with benefits situation as neither of us want a relationship, Can this actually work without ruining our friendship??
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    I think it can as long as there are firm rules put down, and you communicate regularly about how things are going.
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    It's hard to say because it depends on the people involved. Some people get jealous and there's usually one person who develops strong feelings for the other person and that's when things can go wrong.
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    If there aren't any feelings involved, yes.
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    No.
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    Doubt it, one of you is bound to fall for the other over time.
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    I am against this whole "friends with benefits" concept.
    I think you should only have sex with who you love and want to be with.
    It's much more special like that.
    Maybe it's because i'm a hopeless romantic.
    I am a guy by the way, straight and an atheist.
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    Maybe for a while but it won't last forever
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    (Original post by EC)
    If there aren't any feelings involved, yes.
    I disagree.

    I had an arrangement like this with one of my close friends. We'd go out to restaurants and bars together, spend time doing coupley things together, but we were still both single. We obviously had feelings for eachother and even to this day, we're still massively flirty and tactile with eachother despite not sleeping together anymore. Neither of us got hurt and it was great
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    Yes it can. But it's unlikely.
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    (Original post by hezzlington)
    I disagree.

    I had an arrangement like this with one of my close friends. We'd go out to restaurants and bars together, spend time doing coupley things together, but we were still both single. We obviously had feelings for eachother and even to this day, we're still massively flirty and tactile with eachother despite not sleeping together anymore. Neither of us got hurt and it was great
    There are exceptions, you were a happy case.

    And I assume she wasn't doing this with multiple people, neither were you.
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    As long as both of you establish some ground rules, and still be friends, then it should be alright.

    Saying that, it's likely one of you will start falling for the other, which will then be an issue. Just keep that in mind.


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    And also, how would you feel if she slept with another guy whilst you are still FWB with her? And vice versa, how'd she feel if you did the same?


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    I was wondering about this. Think I'd worry about stds if the other person was sleeping with others.
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    (Original post by EC)
    There are exceptions, you were a happy case.

    And I assume she wasn't doing this with multiple people, neither were you.
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    I was wondering about this. Think I'd worry about stds if the other person was sleeping with others.
    We weren't, she was worried about stds :rolleyes:

    Which is a legitimate concern ofcourse! I wouldn't have a 'friends with benefits' (that label is kinda cringey) if I was also sleeping with other people. I'd be an exclusive but technically not exclusive friend with benefits.

    I'm naturally quite monogamous.

    I rather invest everything I have into one person at a time.

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    All 9 inches of it :sexface:
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    (Original post by hezzlington)
    We weren't, she was worried about stds :rolleyes:

    Which is a legitimate concern ofcourse! I wouldn't have a 'friends with benefits' (that label is kinda cringey) if I was also sleeping with other people. I'd be an exclusive but technically not exclusive friend with benefits.

    I'm naturally quite monogamous.

    I rather invest everything I have into one person at a time.

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    All 9 inches of it :sexface:

    That isn't the actual relationship ''friends with benefits'' cause this label doesn't come with commitment or exclusivity soz. You were just lucky to find a friend who was cool with that. Lol.
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    (Original post by EC)
    That isn't the actual relationship ''friends with benefits'' cause this label doesn't come with commitment or exclusivity soz. You were just lucky to find a friend who was cool with that. Lol.
    so what was it then?

    I never told her I wasn't sleeping with other people. We at no point had the discussion "what are we" etc. We're just friends. And we sleep together. I don't really see how that's anything other than 'friends with benefits'.
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    Define work.

    The chances are you're not going to be friends with whoever in 10 years time so enjoy the ride until it ends.
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    (Original post by l'etranger)
    Define work.

    The chances are you're not going to be friends with whoever in 10 years time so enjoy the ride until it ends.
    I think by 'work', it means you don't fall out after it ends.
 
 
 
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