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    I grew up thinking that this was normal, because suggesting otherwise was taboo. My parents are always fighting and being cruel to each other. The very thought of them being affectionate is weird and makes me cringe.

    They are still married. My dad works abroad though, so I imagine that they are not divorced yet for the sake of convenience. He is coming to visit us soon and my mum has prepared the sofa for him to sleep on. He doesn't know that he will be sleeping on the sofa yet though, so it's going to be one hell of an ugly fight.

    I'm stuck here until I finish paying off a debt, but I hate it. The environment is so toxic that I just wish that they would get the divorce that Mum keeps banging on about already. Has anyone here lived through a dysfunctional family situation? How do you cope with it without going insane?
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    I grew up thinking that this was normal, because suggesting otherwise was taboo. My parents are always fighting and being cruel to each other. The very thought of them being affectionate is weird and makes me cringe.

    They are still married. My dad works abroad though, so I imagine that they are not divorced yet for the sake of convenience. He is coming to visit us soon and my mum has prepared the sofa for him to sleep on. He doesn't know that he will be sleeping on the sofa yet though, so it's going to be one hell of an ugly fight.

    I'm stuck here until I finish paying off a debt, but I hate it. The environment is so toxic that I just wish that they would get the divorce that Mum keeps banging on about already. Has anyone here lived through a dysfunctional family situation? How do you cope with it without going insane?
    I have lived through a dysfunctional family situation. The ironic paradox is that they will never admit that the whole situation is messed up because "every family has its issues". I don't think my parents should've got married initially but they won't leave eachother out of convience but I think they also need eachother in some weird way even though they both say they'd be better off without eachother. sigh.

    I've learnt you just have to learn to live with it and continue to know what is wrong about the situation but work on your own self progress and try not to repeat the mistakes you've seen. Everyone gets ****ed up to some extent by their childhood and for the most part you just have to do damage control and get a good distance away from the toxicity asap.

    Good Luck X
 
 
 
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