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    Ok so for about a year now I've HATED my eyebrows. For months I would fill them in every morning, even if I was just staying in the house all day with my family. Nobody knew I was filling them in - I got up early every morning to do it secretly. I couldn't even bear to be seen by my parents or sister without doing them. After ages of doing that I eventually told my mum what I'd been doing, and she took me to get them threaded (I'd never had them done before at all) to make me feel better. I did feel a little better for a while, but then it just got worse again. I don't fill them in if I'm staying at home anymore, but I do spend AGES every morning combing through them until I feel like they're somewhat acceptable (I'm still never completely happy with them). This morning I spent 2 hours combing them in front of the bathroom mirror and I was crying for a lot of that time. I CONSTANTLY think about them and it makes me feel terrible. I also sometimes miss social events because I feel so ugly. This is such a long post and I could probably say a lot more, but yeah do you guys think I might have BDD??
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    Sounds like it. But it does not matter what any of us here think, you need the assistance of somebody qualified to make an informed decision.
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    (Original post by hezzlington)
    Sounds like it. But it does not matter what any of us here think, you need the assistance of somebody qualified to make an informed decision.
    That's true, but I just find it easier to seek professional help if I have the reassurance from other people that I'm not just completely making it up..... I always worry that I'll go to a doctor and they'll be like 'um there's nothing wrong with you you're just a bit insecure go away' y'know??
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    I think you do. Going to the GP would be good.

    If you need someone to talk to i'm here :hugs:
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    I wonder if you have ever thought about semi-permanent up? I have this done and I used to be so self-conscious about my brows. You wouldn't have to spend ages filling in your brows. Microblading is a technique which looks very natural. I have linked an example on IG: https://instagram.com/p/BPnosI8jnkl/

    But if it's bothering you and interfering with your daily life, ask your GP to refer you on to psychiatric services. Your GP himself won't have the time or expertise to solve your issues. You will need a specialist to talk this issue through with. You could benefit from a therapist perhaps. The waiting list is likely to be long so you might want to go private if possible.
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    (Original post by saraxh)
    I think you do. Going to the GP would be good.

    If you need someone to talk to i'm here :hugs:
    Thanks so much!! I think you're probably right, I'm just very nervous about it because I am TERRIBLE at talking about my feelings especially when it's something embarrassing like this. I feel so silly talking about it!
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    (Original post by habeas.corpus)
    I wonder if you have ever thought about semi-permanent up? I have this done and I used to be so self-conscious about my brows. You wouldn't have to spend ages filling in your brows. Microblading is a technique which looks very natural. I have linked an example on IG: https://instagram.com/p/BPnosI8jnkl/

    But if it's bothering you and interfering with your daily life, ask your GP to refer you on to psychiatric services. Your GP himself won't have the time or expertise to solve your issues. You will need a specialist to talk this issue through with. You could benefit from a therapist perhaps. The waiting list is likely to be long so you might want to go private if possible.
    I have thought about it a bit but really I think the problem is the way I think rather than my actual eyebrows. (I mean to me it definitely feels like the problem is that my eyebrows are awful, but my mum has said that she thinks it's a problem in my head not a problem with my eyebrows and as she's thinking a lot more clearly than I am I think she's probably right!). I feel like whatever I did to them I'd still be unsatisfied, or I'd just find another part of my body to pick apart and feel terrible about.

    And yeah it's definitely interfering with my life! I keep not going out with friends, missing family events and taking days off school because I feel so bad. Strange how the little hairs above my eyes can cause me such grief........
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks so much!! I think you're probably right, I'm just very nervous about it because I am TERRIBLE at talking about my feelings especially when it's something embarrassing like this. I feel so silly talking about it!
    It's not silly & you're welcome. Btw If you aren't happy with how your eyebrows look you could get eyebrow extensions.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have thought about it a bit but really I think the problem is the way I think rather than my actual eyebrows. (I mean to me it definitely feels like the problem is that my eyebrows are awful, but my mum has said that she thinks it's a problem in my head not a problem with my eyebrows and as she's thinking a lot more clearly than I am I think she's probably right!). I feel like whatever I did to them I'd still be unsatisfied, or I'd just find another part of my body to pick apart and feel terrible about.

    And yeah it's definitely interfering with my life! I keep not going out with friends, missing family events and taking days off school because I feel so bad. Strange how the little hairs above my eyes can cause me such grief........
    Can I ask you what it is you don't like about your eyebrows specifically? Too sparse, too bushy etc? Mine were always too short and sparse and microblading them on has been so useful. They look perfect 24/7, and no one can tell they have been "tattooed on".

    I totally understand your explanation. Many people with BDD pursue cosmetic interventions and are left dissatisfied. The problem is a psychological one and no altering of the physical self can help. I've spent thousands on cosmetic work last year and I'm not much happier.

    There was one occasion where I pretty much avoided friends for three months because I didn't want them to see how ugly I was. I think there are one or two anti-depressants which can be prescribed for BDD, to calm down the thoughts. Although, I am not sure about the efficacy and the medication obviously will not solve the root cause of the issue.

    I think finding a therapist who specialises in OCD and BDD will help you a lot. If you can do this privately then you should. Private costs per session will be approx £40- 80 pounds for a qualified and registered therapist. Some of these people may offer concession rates for younger clients. Seeing a chartered psychologist will be £100+ per hour. Personally I don't think there is much difference between the two in treating mild to moderate mental health issues if you find an excellent therapist, plus it's slightly cheaper. (And in case you are getting confused, a psychiatrist is a doctor who specialises in mental health and can prescribe medication. A psychotherapist/ therapist and a psychologist are not medically trained and do not issue medications.)

    If not, you can access one on the NHS ofc, but be prepared for a wait. I found it almost shameful and embarrassing to open up about it, but talking to someone qualified is the really the only way through it. BDD isn't as recognised as other mental health issues, yet has one of the highest suicide rates. When you make your GP appointment, ask reception for someone who has an interest in mental health. Hopefully he or she will be sympathetic. Good luck!
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    (Original post by habeas.corpus)
    Can I ask you what it is you don't like about your eyebrows specifically? Too sparse, too bushy etc? Mine were always too short and sparse and microblading them on has been so useful. They look perfect 24/7, and no one can tell they have been "tattooed on".

    I totally understand your explanation. Many people with BDD pursue cosmetic interventions and are left dissatisfied. The problem is a psychological one and no altering of the physical self can help. I've spent thousands on cosmetic work last year and I'm not much happier.

    There was one occasion where I pretty much avoided friends for three months because I didn't want them to see how ugly I was. I think there are one or two anti-depressants which can be prescribed for BDD, to calm down the thoughts. Although, I am not sure about the efficacy and the medication obviously will not solve the root cause of the issue.

    I think finding a therapist who specialises in OCD and BDD will help you a lot. If you can do this privately then you should. Private costs per session will be approx £40- 80 pounds for a qualified and registered therapist. Some of these people may offer concession rates for younger clients. Seeing a chartered psychologist will be £100+ per hour. Personally I don't think there is much difference between the two in treating mild to moderate mental health issues if you find an excellent therapist, plus it's slightly cheaper. (And in case you are getting confused, a psychiatrist is a doctor who specialises in mental health and can prescribe medication. A psychotherapist/ therapist and a psychologist are not medically trained and do not issue medications.)

    If not, you can access one on the NHS ofc, but be prepared for a wait. I found it almost shameful and embarrassing to open up about it, but talking to someone qualified is the really the only way through it. BDD isn't as recognised as other mental health issues, yet has one of the highest suicide rates. When you make your GP appointment, ask reception for someone who has an interest in mental health. Hopefully he or she will be sympathetic. Good luck!
    My eyebrows are fairly thick but the hairs are curly and grow in weird directions and stuff which makes them look really messy and patchy, like I get these random gaps because the hairs don't lay flat and cover them properly. I just wish they were neater basically. I've been pretty obsessive about neatness in terms of my appearance for quite a long time now. Like if I tie my hair up I have to redo it loads and loads of times before I'm satisfied with it - if there's a single hair out of place it will make me feel extremely uncomfortable. (And when you have crazy thick curly hair like mine it isn't easy to get it to look neat!!).

    I've used the NHS for my anxiety before but I had to wait ages and I didn't even use all the sessions I was offered once I finally got off the waiting list because I felt like I was almost an inconvenience and they just wanted to hurry me along to make space for the next person. I'd definitely rather go private, but I don't know if my parents could afford that so we'll see.
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    My eyebrows are fairly thick but the hairs are curly and grow in weird directions and stuff which makes them look really messy and patchy, like I get these random gaps because the hairs don't lay flat and cover them properly. I just wish they were neater basically. I've been pretty obsessive about neatness in terms of my appearance for quite a long time now. Like if I tie my hair up I have to redo it loads and loads of times before I'm satisfied with it - if there's a single hair out of place it will make me feel extremely uncomfortable. (And when you have crazy thick curly hair like mine it isn't easy to get it to look neat!!).

    I've used the NHS for my anxiety before but I had to wait ages and I didn't even use all the sessions I was offered once I finally got off the waiting list because I felt like I was almost an inconvenience and they just wanted to hurry me along to make space for the next person. I'd definitely rather go private, but I don't know if my parents could afford that so we'll see.
    Your lucky in the sense you have thick brows, I'm rather jealous. I sort of understand what you mean about the hairs growing in weird directions and look patchy. I used to try and solve this by combing and lots of different brow mascaras/ gels, but nothing held the brows in place. An old trick which has become popular is using soap. It's the only thing which is able to lay my brows flat and lasts all day (until you wash it off). YT Link here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6tMavELbiI . Also, a good idea to trim them if they get too long to keep them neat. These suggestions are all quick fixes and it's a deeper psychological problem which you need to resolve.

    It definitely sounds like your appearance is giving you a lot of anxiety and you are carrying out a lot of compulsive behaviours. With private therapy, you won't have to wait and there is no "hurrying you off" as with NHS strict rations. It can be very expensive, because therapy can take many months or years. But it's certainly worth it. Of course, most cannot afford this. I would talk to your parents about it though. Weekly or fornightly sessions. But see your GP first and ask for a referral to psyhological services. Ask for approximate waiting times and then decide whether you want and are able to go privately. Take care and all the best xo.
 
 
 
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