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    i've been having driving lessons since april 2016 (not 9 months worth of lessons tho since i took some breaks) and i'm still not that great at driving and i get nervous before my lessons...i feel a bit better in the lesson but i make mistakes here and there...i stalled twice last week and it just put me in a really bad mood for that day. What can i do about this nervousness?
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    When you're in that car, forget all this nonsense of 'I only get one life. It's not a game anymore' (That's what I'm scared of :eek:)

    Instead, use the instructor effectively. Perhaps you could ask them to show you a test run at first and try to replicate, all the while paying extremely close attention to help improve?

    Get help from an experienced driver friend/family member?

    Gd luck. You'll be a great driver :driver::auto:
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    I would always get nervous before and during my driving lessons too, even when I was at test standard! Does your driving instructor let you go at your own pace, or are they trying to do things in a time frame that they think is suitable? The best thing I did when learning to drive was tell my instructor that I wasn't confident enough to do the things she wanted me to do, and we took things more slowly until I built my confidence up. As you get more confident your nervousness will hopefully lessen. Also, try not to let stalling get you down, everyone does it, even drivers who have passed their test! Learning to drive isn't easy, don't beat yourself up about the mistakes you make
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    Practise will make you better/less nervous.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i've been having driving lessons since april 2016 (not 9 months worth of lessons tho since i took some breaks) and i'm still not that great at driving and i get nervous before my lessons...i feel a bit better in the lesson but i make mistakes here and there...i stalled twice last week and it just put me in a really bad mood for that day. What can i do about this nervousness?
    Stalling is not bad at all, it happens all the time to everyone, don't worry about that because to stall doesn't make one a bad driver.
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    (Original post by BrainyBengali)
    When you're in that car, forget all this nonsense of 'I only get one life. It's not a game anymore' (That's what I'm scared of :eek:)

    Instead, use the instructor effectively. Perhaps you could ask them to show you a test run at first and try to replicate, all the while paying extremely close attention to help improve?

    Get help from an experienced driver friend/family member?

    Gd luck. You'll be a great driver :driver::auto:
    oh getting my instructor to do a test run sounds like a good idea, i'll try that tomorrow thanks
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    I would always get nervous before and during my driving lessons too, even when I was at test standard! Does your driving instructor let you go at your own pace, or are they trying to do things in a time frame that they think is suitable? The best thing I did when learning to drive was tell my instructor that I wasn't confident enough to do the things she wanted me to do, and we took things more slowly until I built my confidence up. As you get more confident your nervousness will hopefully lessen. Also, try not to let stalling get you down, everyone does it, even drivers who have passed their test! Learning to drive isn't easy, don't beat yourself up about the mistakes you make
    this made be feel slightly better haha honestly i don't feel like i'm going at the pace i want to, when i'm driving my instructor tries to get me to answer so many questions about how to do this or that and i get distracted i'm not so comfortable driving on main roads and roundabouts it still stresses me out even though i've been doing it for a while however i don't think my instructor would want me to slow down :/
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    Practise will make you better/less nervous.
    that's true, i'll try get some practice outside of lessons, thanks
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    (Original post by Rexar)
    Stalling is not bad at all, it happens all the time to everyone, don't worry about that because to stall doesn't make one a bad driver.
    hmm i see, but i've been driving for a while now so i feel like i shouldn't stalling but yet i still am :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    this made be feel slightly better haha honestly i don't feel like i'm going at the pace i want to, when i'm driving my instructor tries to get me to answer so many questions about how to do this or that and i get distracted i'm not so comfortable driving on main roads and roundabouts it still stresses me out even though i've been doing it for a while however i don't think my instructor would want me to slow down :/
    I had this problem too, my instructor wanted me doing main roads and roundabouts etc before I felt ready. After I explained to her that I wanted to continue with the basics and gain some more confidence, we took things more slowly and I progressed much quicker. I definitely think it's something worth mentioning, your instructor should be understanding. You're the one learning to drive, not them, so make your lessons about what you want to do
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    (Original post by Leviathan1741)
    I would always get nervous before and during my driving lessons too, even when I was at test standard! Does your driving instructor let you go at your own pace, or are they trying to do things in a time frame that they think is suitable? The best thing I did when learning to drive was tell my instructor that I wasn't confident enough to do the things she wanted me to do, and we took things more slowly until I built my confidence up. As you get more confident your nervousness will hopefully lessen. Also, try not to let stalling get you down, everyone does it, even drivers who have passed their test! Learning to drive isn't easy, don't beat yourself up about the mistakes you make
    This Op! Could not have written it more eloquently. You need to stay calm and relaxed before driving. Free your mind and just concentrate on the driving lesson. Some people take longer to learn how to drive, but that's okay. You do not have to beat yourself over it.
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    (Original post by Leviathan1741)
    I had this problem too, my instructor wanted me doing main roads and roundabouts etc before I felt ready. After I explained to her that I wanted to continue with the basics and gain some more confidence, we took things more slowly and I progressed much quicker. I definitely think it's something worth mentioning, your instructor should be understanding. You're the one learning to drive, not them, so make your lessons about what you want to do
    i see, i'll bring it up with my instructor tomorrow, hopefully he's understanding
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    This Op! Could not have written it more eloquently. You need to stay calm and relaxed before driving. Free your mind and just concentrate on the driving lesson. Some people take longer to learn how to drive, but that's okay. You do not have to beat yourself over it.
    i'm really bad at keeping myself relaxed, but then when i'm on the road i feel a bit more relaxed i guesss...however sometimes i get so nervous that my legs shake and then i feel like i'm about to lose control of the car
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    i see, i'll bring it up with my instructor tomorrow, hopefully he's understanding

    i'm really bad at keeping myself relaxed, but then when i'm on the road i feel a bit more relaxed i guesss...however sometimes i get so nervous that my legs shake and then i feel like i'm about to lose control of the car
    Then I would recommend you maybe watch youtube videos on driving lessons to help with the nerves, before going for your lessons. Before your legs start to shake, psych yourself up and focus on your driving. I feel that it's fear that makes you scared. What are you scared about when driving?
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    Then I would recommend you maybe watch youtube videos on driving lessons to help with the nerves, before going for your lessons. Before your legs start to shake, psych yourself up and focus on your driving. I feel that it's fear that makes you scared. What are you scared about when driving?
    i'm afraid of things like damaging the car, doing something wrong in the middle of a road which then holds up the traffic ...this has unfortunately happened however
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i'm afraid of things like damaging the car, doing something wrong in the middle of a road which then holds up the traffic ...this has unfortunately happened however
    No one is a perfect driver to be honest. You just need to stay calm and be conscious of what's happening around you by using your side mirrors and developing spacial awareness when passing between parked cars for example.
    Doing something wrong? Do explain more. Do you mean like practicing your manoeuvres with other people behind you?

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    No one is a perfect driver to be honest. You just need to stay calm and be conscious of what's happening around you by using your side mirrors and developing spacial awareness when passing between parked cars for example.
    Doing something wrong? Do explain more. Do you mean like practicing your manoeuvres with other people behind you?

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    not exactly that, i'm ok with manoeuvres but wrong things for example like last week i was driving and the car in front of me had to stop because an accident ahead, i tried to stop as well but when i was gonna drive off again i stalled and so many drivers in the cars behind got annoyed Another time i stalled at a traffic light when it went green and before i could drive off again it went red
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    Learn in an automatic?
    They're the future of cars anyway.
    I'm learning with an automatic car but that's because I get pains in my left foot so it's easier only to worry about my right otherwise I'd probs be manual.
    But if the anxiety is really getting to you then I'd recommend trying out an automatic instead.
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    (Original post by Shadow Hunters)
    Learn in an automatic?
    They're the future of cars anyway.
    I'm learning with an automatic car but that's because I get pains in my left foot so it's easier only to worry about my right otherwise I'd probs be manual.
    But if the anxiety is really getting to you then I'd recommend trying out an automatic instead.
    i've thought about it but i really want to pass my test in a manual car, i've spent so long driving in manual now i feel like i would have just wasted my money on these lessons if i switch to automatic
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i've thought about it but i really want to pass my test in a manual car, i've spent so long driving in manual now i feel like i would have just wasted my money on these lessons if i switch to automatic
    You wouldn't have wasted your money, probably means you'll find automatic driving easier if you've been learning in manual for a long time. It just means you would be less anxious of stalling and may pass your test earlier. Just means if you pass an automatic driving test you can't drive a manual car but just learning in automatic doesn't mean once you're more comfortable driving you couldn't do a few lesssons and then do another test in manual. Just an idea.
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    maybe you shouldn't drive XD
 
 
 
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