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    We've been friends for over as year. As we've got closer I've started to notice romantic feelings for him. But we are good friends and I'm too scared to tell him. Don't want to make it awkward and I'm not convinced he would feel the same.

    We slept together one night about six months ago. It was just a drunken fling. Both of us are very liberal sexually. It didn't change the friendship and we didn't dwell on it.

    Since then we've spent time together as friends. We have both dated other people, also. But now I've recognised the feelings, they're not going away. Should I tell him and risk damaging the friendship? Or just leave it and never know what could be?

    I feel like we connect at a deep level. We are able to talk openly about lots of things, from sex to relationships to our own personal insecurities. I feel like we could have an open conversation about our feelings. Perhaps it wouldn't be so awkward. But what if he rejects me? What if it means we can't be close any more? What should I do?

    I believe the best relationships that often end up in a good marriage are those that two people firstly become friends, then closer than friends and then best friends. I'd say you have a chance there but don't ask him for a proper relationship (Don't give it a title), Just do things with him that two people in a normal relationship do (e.g. go alone to restaurant with him and hold his hands). This is my advice to you!

    Best wishes

    I always had a feeling that if you are best friends with a person opposite your gender, then 9/10 times they are the one for you.

    Talk to him, approach the matter slowly. Patience is key.
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    My boyfriend now I was really good friends with for years prior. I first told him about my feelings around 4 years ago but he said he wasn't interested at all. I sorta knew that before so just be prepared to be knocked back and to work hard haha !
    Sort of difficult too, as you don't want to ruin your friendship if it doesn't work out; this was one of our main issues.
    He'll probably already know imo, but I'd defiantly tell him 100%
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