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    I dunno it's hard to explain, like I'm always lonely and just want someone to talk to and spend time with. I have friends who I see at college and close to my family, but I don't want to piss them off, I'm sure they have much better things to do than spend time with me.
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    bake croissants together?


    just be like hey papiii 🍆💦👅
    let's bake some croissants together
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    I dunno it's hard to explain, like I'm always lonely and just want someone to talk to and spend time with. I have friends who I see at college and close to my family, but I don't want to piss them off, I'm sure they have much better things to do than spend time with me.
    Honestly it sounds like you have some bigger issues than being lonely. Things like not wanting to burden people by making them socialise with you or thinking that you friends would rather be doing other stuff and you'd be annoying them is actually pretty classic depressive thinking. Is there any chance you might be feeling a bit depressed? Or maybe that you have low self esteem?
    You can check out mind.org and sane.org for info on mh conditions like depression. They're really common actually and can vary a lot in severity so it's worth checking out even if you only feel a bit off. You don't have to be alone and you are not a burden.

    You could also look into clubs at college or activities outside of college. Maybe you'd feel less awkward about it if you were all part of a club and they were there for reasons other than just seeing you. Honestly though i'm sure your friends want to spend time with you and would love to do something with you outside of college. I think you're issues are more in your head than with you and people not wanting to spend time with you.

    Hope that helps.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I dunno it's hard to explain, like I'm always lonely and just want someone to talk to and spend time with. I have friends who I see at college and close to my family, but I don't want to piss them off, I'm sure they have much better things to do than spend time with me.
    if you're close to these people i'm sure they'd love to spend time with you!! thinking you'll piss them off is an irrational thought and i agree with what Kindred has said. you should never feel like a burden to the people you love just because you want to spend time with them. you're worth their time and attention!
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    what hobbies or interests do you have. its a no stress way of meeting folks.
 
 
 
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