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    I slept with a guy about 5 months ago a couple of times. I found out last night from one of his friends I've known for ages that he secretly filmed us having sex. Without my consent! I have no reason not to believe the guy that told me, but he said he hasn't seen the vid himself. I obviously don't want him to disclose a vid of us, like some sort of revenge porn. People have got up to 2 years in prison and it's illegal to film wIthout consent. Do I talk to the guy I slept with about it? Should I do it in person or text?
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    yes, talk to him and do it in person
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    Report it. Even if this tape is just alleged at this point, you are well within your rights to take this to the police or, if you're at university of college, a counseller. This is serious stuff, and if you're feeling threatened or unsure it's always best to go through the proper channels to get it dealt with. Speaking to him in person about it might do more damage than good, but you know these people in person. My advice would definetely be to report it though, it's always good to be thorough
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    Confront him in person. You should definitely report this to the police if you later find it what is alleged is true. You have little reason to doubt your friend. Be wary and tell someone.
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    I'd tell the police. They can make sure the video is completely deleted so you don't have to worry about him retaliating with revenge porn
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    Do it, he's scum
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    If you talk to him about it then he will most lijkely deny it. Only if he confirms it should you go to the police. the evidence you have so far is someone else said it happened but they havent provided any evidence either.
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    Thank you for all your advice, it was one of those situations in life where you panic and regret doing something you had previously seen as special. I really wanted to take people's advice and speak to him in person. But I just couldn't do it, I haven't had anything to do with him in so long. A guy I'm with was also threatening to come with me and I didn't want that. So I just messaged him telling him what I had heard and that it was illegal. He replyed saying what are you on... Then said that I was so stupid believing things that my little friends tell me. He said he had purposely fed false information to his friends. Because he knew they were talking about him behind his back and were two faced. He said he was more than happy to settle it in court though. Then said he was happy in a relationship and that I should sort myself out and settle down!
    I didn't have a choice about contacting him. Just the thought of that creep allegedly claiming to have a video of me made me feel sick. I still don't know whether to believe him or not but he blocked my messages after telling me to settle down. Why did he have to include me in his lies, why something as ****ed as filming me, it's like he wanted me to find out what he was saying. To get attention. It really effected me emotionally thinking he had secretly filmed me. I will always hate him, I wish I'd never met him he's a twisted creep.
 
 
 
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