Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    Met this guy at work. I considered him a half friend half work colleague as we did get on and had a laugh at work but never met up outside of work. Since leaving work he split from his long term girlfriend four months ago and has met someone else and has started a new relationship. But he messages me a lot asking for advice regarding work. It's all strictly work related. A typical message will be hi how are you? Did you ever do that assessment on (insert subject area here). I just reply saying no and explaining my take on the assessment. But I never reply with a question or asking him how he is. So I don't know if that's coming across as rude. So this time I did say hi I'm great how are you doing? He replied saying good thanks and brought the subject back to work. Now he always had a long term girlfriend when I knew him so it never even entered my head that he liked me romantically. But I don't really believe he needs all this work help. Plus there are several other work colleagues he could ask for help but he never does. So do you think he might fancy me and be trying to initiate contact? Or am I just reading too much into it. Sometimes I wonder if he likes attention so messages me when he's got a new profile pic up in the hope I will go on his profile and like his updates.

    He doesn't message and other colleagues he used to work with.

    I've never shown interest in him or flirted.
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Met this guy at work. I considered him a half friend half work colleague as we did get on and had a laugh at work but never met up outside of work. Since leaving work he split from his long term girlfriend four months ago and has met someone else and has started a new relationship. But he messages me a lot asking for advice regarding work. It's all strictly work related. A typical message will be hi how are you? Did you ever do that assessment on (insert subject area here). I just reply saying no and explaining my take on the assessment. But I never reply with a question or asking him how he is. So I don't know if that's coming across as rude. So this time I did say hi I'm great how are you doing? He replied saying good thanks and brought the subject back to work. Now he always had a long term girlfriend when I knew him so it never even entered my head that he liked me romantically. But I don't really believe he needs all this work help. Plus there are several other work colleagues he could ask for help but he never does. So do you think he might fancy me and be trying to initiate contact? Or am I just reading too much into it. Sometimes I wonder if he likes attention so messages me when he's got a new profile pic up in the hope I will go on his profile and like his updates.

    He doesn't message and other colleagues he used to work with.

    I've never shown interest in him or flirted.


    If a female colleague was acting exactly the same way towards you as this guy I don't think you would have made this topic.

    I think you're clutching at straws here.


    give him the benefit of the doubt until he actually does something towards you that a straight female wouldn't.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    He's actively bringing the topic back to work when you ask him something more personal, so it definitely sounds like he's only interested in work activities. He probably just respects your opinion on this kind of thing and/or thinks you're the best person to go to. I'd leave it at that, really.
    Offline

    18
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Met this guy at work. I considered him a half friend half work colleague as we did get on and had a laugh at work but never met up outside of work. Since leaving work he split from his long term girlfriend four months ago and has met someone else and has started a new relationship. But he messages me a lot asking for advice regarding work. It's all strictly work related. A typical message will be hi how are you? Did you ever do that assessment on (insert subject area here). I just reply saying no and explaining my take on the assessment. But I never reply with a question or asking him how he is. So I don't know if that's coming across as rude. So this time I did say hi I'm great how are you doing? He replied saying good thanks and brought the subject back to work. Now he always had a long term girlfriend when I knew him so it never even entered my head that he liked me romantically. But I don't really believe he needs all this work help. Plus there are several other work colleagues he could ask for help but he never does. So do you think he might fancy me and be trying to initiate contact? Or am I just reading too much into it. Sometimes I wonder if he likes attention so messages me when he's got a new profile pic up in the hope I will go on his profile and like his updates.

    He doesn't message and other colleagues he used to work with.

    I've never shown interest in him or flirted.
    I don't see why you'd think so, to be honest.
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: January 29, 2017
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    What's your favourite Christmas sweets?
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.