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    I started working alongside my bachlors degree a year ago, my boss is quite young only like what 4 years older than me, it all started when i was going to be interviewed by him, he didn't even interview me let alone consider looking at my previous qualifications and he gave me the job just by looking at me. I found that extremely odd but accepted as that job was very important to me.

    my role in the organisation was meant to be something else but my boss assigned me as his "personal secretary" . So basically i had to follow him around all day long. We even share a office. Since he has employed me he's leaving me expensive **** all the time, things that are just not worth wasting money on, he never does it for anyone else, if other male collegues ask me to help them with something he will jump in and say i have no time to help them.

    Now a huge rumor is being spread around that me and my boss are in a secret relationship. I confronted him about it and he just smiled away, i then asked one of my collegues who told them this and they said the boss. This upcoming weekend he has invited me to his place to celebrate his 27th, but i really don't wanna go because i have a feeling he may try to get too close to me but if i don't go i know he will be extremely annoyed and probably fire me, like i said i need this job, what am i supposed to do?
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    Make it clear that the attention is unwanted and if you are extremely concerned inform HR ?


    do not go to his party and do not encourage him in any way (e.g. accepting gifts)... you should start looking for another job asap just in case things go south

    if he does anything inappropriate immediately respond with 'this is inappropriate, I'm your employee and nothing more, please don't do this again'

    I'm experiencing something similar, although not a manager but a client, you can't soften the message at all, you need to be very very blunt and clear

    Your should also keep a written record of dates and times of any inappropriate behaviour or anything which makes you feel uncomfortable

    This is very cliche
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