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    OK so this is a bit of a weird question. I'm 21 and have always been gay, as of 5 years ago everyone knows I'm gay, i have lots of close friendships with girls that have nothing sexual in them.

    However for reasons I'm not going to go into, I have decided I don't want to have sex with men or relationships with them & if I'm going to be sexually active i would like to be straight. Over the past few months i've been getting more attracted to women, I never saw them sexually before but now I do.

    only problem is i can't tell anyone this cause they see me as gay. the girls especially would see me as a liar and my guy friends would think i'm a creep predator just pretending to be gay to get close to girls.

    what do u think?
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    I'd support them
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    Maybe you're heterosexual-homoromantic?
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    (Original post by Eternalflames)
    Maybe you're heterosexual-homoromantic?
    bugger off with those dumb labels lol
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    Is it bad that I find the irony quote amusing?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    bugger off with those dumb labels lol
    lmao oh ****
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    bugger off with those dumb labels lol
    How rude
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    It wouldn't make a difference to how i feel about them now so.. the same?
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    I would do absolutely nothing.

    Not a big deal, we'll still be friends.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    OK so this is a bit of a weird question. I'm 21 and have always been gay, as of 5 years ago everyone knows I'm gay, i have lots of close friendships with girls that have nothing sexual in them.

    However for reasons I'm not going to go into, I have decided I don't want to have sex with men or relationships with them & if I'm going to be sexually active i would like to be straight. Over the past few months i've been getting more attracted to women, I never saw them sexually before but now I do.

    only problem is i can't tell anyone this cause they see me as gay. the girls especially would see me as a liar and my guy friends would think i'm a creep predator just pretending to be gay to get close to girls.

    what do u think?
    Couldn't you just be Bi-sexual?
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    (Original post by proton & neutron)
    Couldn't you just be Bi-sexual?

    I don't really care about labels, its just the fact that I have aways been into men and had boyfriends / male hookups, and pretty sure everyone would think badl of me if I started having sex with girls..
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    Okay **** labels, but sexuality can be fluid. You can feel something different now, no one will judge you.
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    (Original post by proton & neutron)
    Couldn't you just be Bi-sexual?
    and to clarify i am still attracted to men but women more now. and i have chosen to not have sex with men. call that whatever you want I dont care.
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    I would be completely indifferent.

    Just as I am indifferent to them being homosexual in the first place.

    What is this thread?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    and to clarify i am still attracted to men but women more now. and i have chosen to not have sex with men. call that whatever you want I dont care.
    To ne fair to her, those aren't like the a million and one labels we see nowadays for gender identity, the ones she listed as valid.

    You say you want to be straight so you may indeed be a homosexual but a heteroromantic in that sexually you're attracted to men, but long term want a wife and a traditional family. I've had gay friends in the past who were like this, the thought of being in a romantic relationship with someone of the same sex was a complete turn off for them even though they were sexually attracted to them.
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    tell this to your closest girl bestie and solemnly ask how the other friends would react and how to proceed
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't really care about labels, its just the fact that I have aways been into men and had boyfriends / male hookups, and pretty sure everyone would think badl of me if I started having sex with girls..
    Just say you realised recently that you're bi and there'd be no real questions.

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    and to clarify i am still attracted to men but women more now. and i have chosen to not have sex with men. call that whatever you want I dont care.
    That is definitely bisexual even to the not-crazy labellers and would definitely get you less trouble then suddenly saying you're straight (which would technically not be true given the fact that you're attracted to guys)
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    One of my friends said he was gay, then ****ed a girl...said he was still gay...then kissed a guy at a party....then said he was straight.....now he's gay again apparently. Maybe bisexual but who knows.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    To ne fair to her, those aren't like the a million and one labels we see nowadays for gender identity, the ones she listed as valid.

    You say you want to be straight so you may indeed be a homosexual but a heteroromantic in that sexually you're attracted to men, but long term want a wife and a traditional family. I've had gay friends in the past who were like this, the thought of being in a romantic relationship with someone of the same sex was a complete turn off for them even though they were sexually attracted to them.
    Well I don't want to have sex with guys either, or relationships...
 
 
 
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