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    not to make my own post about me or anything, but could responses possibly be something productive to with my actual predicament? Aha. If you wanna know more about Islam google is your friend.
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    (Original post by JohnGreek)
    So you're worried that you'll feel stress about breaking a rule whose justification evades you? Why not just... stop following the rule, particularly if you don't know why it came in existence in the first place.
    because, to me, it's a sin... really wishing non muslims didn't respond on this thread sigh
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    not to make my own post about me or anything, but could responses possibly be something productive to with my actual predicament? Aha. If you wanna know more about Islam google is your friend.
    Google is not authentic especially to learn about Islam. Its advisable to go to reputable scholars
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    You will hate me for saying this but if u want to form a relationship with a guy, u will have to form a relationship with ur parents first
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    I'm sorry to hear that you were abused by your parents so much that you had to cut contact (for safety I guess?).

    With the regards to the boyfriend, I think you are making the correct decision by breaking up. If you aren't comfortable with it now, then imagine if you get even more closer to Islam in future, then the problem will be even bigger for you. It's best to let go quicker so it's less painful.

    I really doubt you will be alone for the rest of your life. You state you're moving to London, well London contains over 40% of the UK's Muslims. I'm sure there will be no shortage of Muslim men to marry. There are girl's who don't wear hijab and yes they do get married. Also, I'm sure there will be many compassionate Muslim parents out there who will understand your abusive family circumstances.

    Also, this may seem a bit too much for you as you only recently started connecting with Islam. But I advise that you look for a spouse in the proper Islamic way. So like no dating because it will be haram. You can still get to know the guy in the presence of your wali (could get a Imam to be your wali since you have trouble with your father).
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    the reason I can't marry him is because, in islam, if a muslim girl marries a non muslim guy, the marriage is not valid. I'd literally be sleeping in sin. Yes, I've been with him up until now, but I don't know if I can mentally handle that for the rest of my life. Especially as I'm now finding myself becoming more religious as time has gone on. Don't want to marry him and have kids to just suddenly have a mental breakdown and change my mind about it all one day.

    This is why I stated that Msulims would understand a bit better.
    Sister, sorry about your hard situation. Just so you know that you are doing the right thing Islamically. So yes, if he is unwilling to convert, then it puts you in a tough situation.
    As you stated, if you were to marry it wouldn't count.
    Hence then your only option is to have trust in Allah. You are giving up something for Allah's sake, so Allah himself with reward you. Yu think that noone would consider you marriage material, however don't you think that Allah will not let you down when you are doing the right thing?
    Don't generalise. I know of someone without family ties who recently married.
    InshaAllah, everything will turn out well. May Allah make it easier for you to do whatever is best for you and may he grant you the strength needed to do that.
    Keep strong.

    The more religious you get, you can hope for a more religious man. And religious people go beyond the apparent. They don't look to see if you've family ties, they look at your piety. Looks, wealth, family status may be seen as extras. The main criteria for them is piety.
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    (Original post by JohnGreek)
    I think that this is precisely why non-Muslims are so necessary in discussions like these - in order to challenge all of the nonsense which you cannot justify, yet which is plainly making you miserable and unable to connect with your loved one.
    shut up you're not wanted here. Leave her alone.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    because, to me, it's a sin... really wishing non muslims didn't respond on this thread sigh
    the best thing u can do is post this on ummah.com
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    Sister, sorry about your hard situation. Just so you know that you are doing the right thing Islamically. So yes, if he is unwilling to convert, then it puts you in a tough situation.
    As you stated, if you were to marry it wouldn't count.
    Hence then your only option is to have trust in Allah. You are giving up something for Allah's sake, so Allah himself with reward you. Yu think that noone would consider you marriage material, however don't you think that Allah will not let you down when you are doing the right thing?
    Don't generalise. I know of someone without family ties who recently married.
    InshaAllah, everything will turn out well. May Allah make it easier for you to do whatever is best for you and may he grant you the strength needed to do that.
    Keep strong.

    The more religious you get, you can hope for a more religious man. And religious people go beyond the apparent. They don't look to see if you've family ties, they look at your piety. Looks, wealth, family status may be seen as extras. The main criteria for them is piety.
    Thank you, I appreciate your response. But, I don't think I'm ever going to be that religious. Due to validity of the marriage, I would need a future partner to be Muslim. And some parts of religion are important for me in a partner, such as not drinking, as I don't drink and I feel like, socially, I need someone to match my principles in that way.

    But, apart from those essential things, what would be important for me in a partner is our connection personality wise, and if he's a good human being generally. I wouldn't search for someone based on piety and I'd hope someone would choose me based on my connection with them personality-wise too. This is why I feel like finding a Muslim life partner will be difficult for me.
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    (Original post by JohnGreek)
    I think that this is precisely why non-Muslims are so necessary in discussions like these - in order to challenge all of the nonsense which you cannot justify, yet which is plainly making you miserable and unable to connect with your loved one.
    OP does not need to waste time justifying anything. If you want to learn about islam read a book or use google
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you, I appreciate your response. But, I don't think I'm ever going to be that religious. Due to validity of the marriage, I would need a future partner to be Muslim. And some parts of religion are important for me in a partner, such as not drinking, as I don't drink and I feel like, socially, I need someone to match my principles in that way.

    But, apart from those essential things, what would be important for me in a partner is our connection personality wise, and if he's a good human being generally. I wouldn't search for someone based on piety and I'd hope someone would choose me based on my connection with them personality-wise too. This is why I feel like finding a Muslim life partner will be difficult for me.
    Sis I would advise to get in touch with an Imam or someone that may know someone that is also searching for marriage in the community? This is one way to go about the situation?
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    Marry a Muslim who is more liberal
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    (Original post by Elchapojr)
    Marry a Muslim who is more liberal
    being liberal isn't the case, its really about having a strong connection. Plus, the issue is the likelihood of finding someone like that. Thanks for the response anyway.
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    (Original post by MiszShortee786)
    Sis I would advise to get in touch with an Imam or someone that may know someone that is also searching for marriage in the community? This is one way to go about the situation?
    Thanks. I don't want someone who is looking for marriage, though. I want to date someone before taking that step with them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you, I appreciate your response. But, I don't think I'm ever going to be that religious. Due to validity of the marriage, I would need a future partner to be Muslim. And some parts of religion are important for me in a partner, such as not drinking, as I don't drink and I feel like, socially, I need someone to match my principles in that way.

    But, apart from those essential things, what would be important for me in a partner is our connection personality wise, and if he's a good human being generally. I wouldn't search for someone based on piety and I'd hope someone would choose me based on my connection with them personality-wise too. This is why I feel like finding a Muslim life partner will be difficult for me.
    Agreed with MiszShortee786
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think I've explained why religion is stopping me from having a future with him. Our potential marriage, in my belief, would not be valid, which would most likely lead me to be stressed for the rest of my life about the fact that we're not actually married (again, in my belief).

    And I did not write the quran, I have no clue why that's a rule. But it is and that's what's causing the issue.
    did you have a look, e.g. at this ?

    http://www.asma-lamrabet.com/article...aith-marriage/

    http://www.scholarofthehouse.org/oninma.html

    Best
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    (Original post by JohnGreek)
    Bro, you're not a Muslim, you probably are not going to understand.
    I accidently repped you whilst scrolling. My bad.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    OP please ignore this mariachi person. He's a well known troll who spends his time trying to seek attention. He is deliberately giving you strange links to confuse you :facepalm:

    I hope your situation improves
    I totally agree!
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    (Original post by HAnwar)
    I accidently repped you whilst scrolling. My bad.
    Or it was a Freudian slip... who knows!
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    OP when you get the chance check out this authentic thread its based on interfaith marriages this question however is answered by a reputable sister who is quite well known

    http://www.muftisays.com/forums/55-m...-or-haram.html
 
 
 
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