Finally have an offer from Wolfson. I'm relieved to have the college offer, but Wolfson is exactly the opposite of the kind of college I had in mind. I had given Merton as a preference because I wanted to be in a college which was old, with grand, historic buildings. I wanted a college which was very traditional, so I could wear my gown and attend formal hall. For me, all this was part of the Oxford experience. Now Wolfson has some of the most modern buildings in Oxford. And formal hall only twice a term! Plus accommodation and food seems rather expensive.
That said and done, I think the Wolfson community is much more suited for married graduates, and they are probably more able to provide accommodation to married graduates in the main building itself. Also, maybe studying in an all-graduate college will be nice, I guess.