Is anyone else disappointed with uni life?

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Reply 20

loveleest

Original post by Sae.HH

So... with other students? Or at home? :p:

If you're unhappy with your social situation find halls or a large house to live in next year.

Away, with other students. But it's hard to meet people living far ish from everyone else.

Reply 21

sunshine774

Original post by meteoreos

If i'm being honest, it's certainly geared towards extroverts as drinking and clubbing is 90% of what people do, especially during the first year.

I didn't find any societies appealing and they just seemed ..lame to me. I got unlucky with my flatmates as we were complete opposites, and it was all a bit fake.

I just wish I made more of an effort to talk to people during the first week or so when friendship groups were made.

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Surely you can still have a good social life without JUST clubbing and drinking? :s-smilie:

I am definitely an extrovert but I am worried this is ALL people will do...

Reply 22

Richard0328

there will always be people around who share your hobbies/interests. fb is a good source of online socialising if that meets your needs. there seems to be group pages on just about anything plus websites etc. opportunities all of kinds can present themselves at any time and they can lead to positive things sometimes. even something as random as overhearing a conversation on a subject that you have an interest in.
i know it can be boring but there is nothing wrong with going against the grain. its more fun sometimes

Reply 23

Sae.HH

Original post by loveleest

Away, with other students. But it's hard to meet people living far ish from everyone else.

Well, typically the best way to make lasting relationships are through the people you live with, course mates, and societies, typically joining societies you're passionate about so you'll be a core member (and sports teams but I'll assume you're not sporty).

How are you finding living with the people around you?

Reply 24

ThePricklyOne

Not yet. I'm in 1st year.

Don't think making friends have anything to do with extroversion. It's more to do with whether someone is willing to make an effort to talk and socialise with people.

Reply 25

Therec00

Original post by loveleest

I love my freedom but my social life is so dead. I think the uni life hype is only good for extraverts. I have been clubbing twice and hated it both times and my societies are mainly rubbish.

I feel so disappointed. Anyone else?

This thread annoys me

People live a boring life, then expect they will go to uni and it will be a 24/7 party where you "discover yourself"

It doesn't happen . That's not how life works.

It's like people who move country and expect it will solve all their problems, actually they usually bring the same problems with them

Reply 26

meteoreos

Original post by sunshine774

Surely you can still have a good social life without JUST clubbing and drinking? :s-smilie:

I am definitely an extrovert but I am worried this is ALL people will do...

I think my problem was the fact that my flatmates and I didn't connect. Completely different personalities. They rarely did anything apart from clubbing on weekends. Maybe the odd movie night. Also, I didn't make an effort to talk to people in my lectures, and therefore I was pretty much on my own. Of course there are other things to do other than drinking and clubbing, but I'd be lying if I said that wasn't THE main thing that students did on a Friday/Saturday night. You could try joining societies if you find any that interest you.

If I could go back in time, I'd most certainly talk to people in my lectures during the first initial weeks, and just be more forthcoming.

Reply 27

loveleest

Original post by Therec00

Reply 28

Therec00

Original post by loveleest

okay ?? okay what ??

Reply 29

Arima

i feel fresher's week and living in halls are one of the most overrated aspects of uni life. everyone told me before fresher's week oh "it's one of the best weeks of your life". All i can remember is being awkward, stressing about whether or not i'll make friends, constantly pushing myself out of my comfort zone and then regretting it, and asking and answering the same three questions on a constant loop: what's your name? what course are you doing? where do you come from?

And halls. Theres so many stories of people meeting their flatmates and then rooming with them for the duration of their entire course. I, however, have lost count of all my sleepless nights from them partying too hard up until sunrise, and my current ambition is being able to slip into the kitchen to cook without strangers who ignore me suddenly flooding into landfill-site/communal area

honestly i know i sound bitter but everything else is great... i love the course, i love campus, i love my friends, and most of all my new lifestyle choices :^_^:

Reply 30

loveleest

Original post by Therec00

okay ?? okay what ??

Lol

Reply 31

Therec00

Everyone will one day discover - they are the problem - not everyone else

Reply 32

Daft Old Fart

Original post by loveleest

Dear LoveLeest,

I was at university before you were born. I never joined any societies and clubbing wasn't quite as it is now anyway but I enjoyed the experience. My advice to you is to concentrate on getting a group of friends with similar interests and who you can enjoy ****ging off everything to. Big gigs, lousy films and even poor lecturers are more bearable if you share the experience with friends. I know that this is not always easy but I think that enjoying your university experience does hinge on friendships. My son did too degrees and had a steady group of friends to have a laugh with. He was fine. My 20 year old daughter is struggling in her course because although she lives with some friends, she has failed to get to know anyone on her course and is feeling cut off.
Maybe your expectations were a little too high. Fun still has to be worked for
sometimes.