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    Hey

    There's this girl I've seen around a lot recently at the gym (she works there) and I'm really wanting to go and have a proper chat with her.
    I just really don't know how.
    I'm rubbish with girls and will almost certainly mess it up.
    So any NORMAL advice will be greatly appreciated!

    We've spoken a little so far but nothing major really.
    She's really nice and friendly and has helped me out so much so far (way more than the other staff there)

    Does anyone have any advice?
    She's way out of my league but heck, no harm in trying, right?

    I'm really shy and quiet and just don't know how to go about this after my 9 previous rejections :/
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    go home first and beat your meat then when at the gym just smile and approach her. Ask her how hers days been etc just be nice and get to know more about her and dont talk about yourself then ask for the number
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    What have you spoken about so far? Rejections are normal, if you go speaking to a girl thinking you're gonna get rejected then that's exactly how it's going to play out. Just relax, you'll talk to her normally, find out her interests and ask questions about what she likes to do. Then perhaps ask for her number eventually.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    What have you spoken about so far? Rejections are normal, if you go speaking to a girl thinking you're gonna get rejected then that's exactly how it's going to play out. Just relax, you'll talk to her normally, find out her interests and ask questions about what she likes to do. Then perhaps ask for her number eventually.
    Not a lot really. Just gym stuff and what she likes to do there tbh.
    I know, I just don't know how to not think like that anymore
    I'll try to.
    I'll think of some questions for when I see her next.
    Thanks
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    Hey

    There's this girl I've seen around a lot recently at the gym (she works there) and I'm really wanting to go and have a proper chat with her.
    I just really don't know how.
    I'm rubbish with girls and will almost certainly mess it up.
    So any NORMAL advice will be greatly appreciated!

    We've spoken a little so far but nothing major really.
    She's really nice and friendly and has helped me out so much so far (way more than the other staff there)

    Does anyone have any advice?
    She's way out of my league but heck, no harm in trying, right?

    I'm really shy and quiet and just don't know how to go about this after my 9 previous rejections :/

    Tbh all this snapchat and instagram crap have ruined romance and confused people as a women i would much rather a guy came over to me and said hey i think your really beautiful would you like to get a drink with me than liking my pictures and then stressing over whether 3 kisses means he likes me or is he just being friendly tell her something nice something genuine maybe she turns you down maybe she won't either way telling her something nice about herself will make her smile and warm to you much more than if you just go straight in with "wanna get a drink sometime"
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    Thanks for the advice everyone.
    Truely grateful for the 1 useful reply here!
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    I'll pm you later. Battery's low af right now.
 
 
 
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