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    So I met this guy a few days ago and it's only been a few days but we clicked instantly, everyone at the party who didn't know us thought we were a couple. He keeps flirting with me and asked me out on a date but he never texts first. I don't know what to do, I kind of feel a bit like a beg every time I message and also because I've only known him for a few days, I don't know if he's acting like this because he has a girlfriend. I feel so paranoid, what should I do??
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    Why does he need to message you first? Why is that a worry? Just enjoy yourself, relax and don't analyse everything he does.
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    I'm just worried in case he's not as interested in me as I am and I don't want to come across desperate, even though I kinda really like him
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    Text him first.
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    lol why are you playing these mind games with him?
    this is why I gave up with dating - too much of this
    I get called "too forward" for just telling girls that I like them
    but I'd rather do that than play this weird turn-based game of masked intentions
    and honestly, am I really going to *want* to be with somebody who plays these petty games?
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    Some people don't like texting first, it's not always up to the guy to text first anyway...
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    (Original post by PurpleNerple)
    lol why are you playing these mind games with him?
    this is why I gave up with dating - too much of this
    I get called "too forward" for just telling girls that I like them
    but I'd rather do that than play this weird turn-based game of masked intentions
    and honestly, am I really going to *want* to be with somebody who plays these petty games?
    I was lucky to have female friends who turned me on to the flirting girls do so you will give them attention but for them to be all like "look at this guy who's flirting with me, I'm so wanted"

    To be fair, I've seen lads do similar things but mainly they get one reply of a girl and they're the perfect example of that "I guess you could say things are getting serious" meme :')
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    if he has a girlfriend I suggest you stay out of his way lol. however if he doesn't just text him first innit. but remember you shouldn't always be the first to start the convo. you should give him a chance do so. otherwise you might come across as desperate. I know it's hard especially if you really like the person.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't know if he's acting like this because he has a girlfriend. ??
    This is why he doesn't text first.
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    (Original post by LeCroissant)
    This is why he doesn't text first.


    no, not necessarily. i know guys who don't text first because they feel a bit insecure or simply like when girls are actively "pursuing" them. it doesn't even matter if it's a guy or a girl... some people just are like that, doesn't mean they're in a relationship
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    It's okay lol he explained himself, also he doesn't have a girlfriend so it's all good
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    It's okay lol he explained himself, also he doesn't have a girlfriend so it's all good
    Oooh Goodluck!
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    It is ok to text a guy first, you know. I'm a woman and I have never been afraid to approach a guy first or message them first. It's refreshing, trust me. Also, men don't really pick up on our subtle hints and think that we're not interested. You need to be more plain.
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    God please text him first... There is this girl at school that I like and I think she might like me but she never messages me first and its making me feel like I should back off a bit...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's okay lol he explained himself, also he doesn't have a girlfriend so it's all good
    What was it? Did he run out of texts or something 😀
 
 
 
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