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    Hey there, I am posting for some urgent advice.

    I am 24 years old, living with severe depression, anxiety and IBS. I currently receive ESA and I am on medication which I have to take everyday. My boyfriend is at uni which he graduates in May this year and has a part time job working at a supermarket 2 days a week.

    I currently live with my parents as I cannot afford to move out, but living with my mum is very difficult as she doesn't understand my depression and causes me a huge amount of stress and upset and doesn't help my condition at all. She constantly invades my privacy, name calls and says things such as ' you are just a lodger', accuses me of being lazy and generally making it clear she doesn't want me living at home anymore but I have no choice. I have tried to make her understand about depression but there is just no way of getting through.

    I understand the first thing to do if you want to move out is to get a job, but with my mental health conditions it is really difficult. I try and push myself into looking for a job but the other problem is I don't really know what I could do that wont affect my conditions. I have had jobs in the past which were retail and admin but have had horrible experiences (they made my depression severe).

    I also have thought about studying but I don't know what I would like to do and whether it would be right for me.

    I desperately want to move out with my boyfriend but I don't know what to do to make it happen. I can't live at home much longer because it is making my conditions worse and I can't take anymore stress than I have to deal with already.

    What can I do? Please help https://www.mentalhealthforum.net/fo...es/saddish.gif
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    (Original post by squishy93_xo)
    Hey there, I am posting for some urgent advice.

    I am 24 years old, living with severe depression, anxiety and IBS. I currently receive ESA and I am on medication which I have to take everyday. My boyfriend is at uni which he graduates in May this year and has a part time job working at a supermarket 2 days a week.

    I currently live with my parents as I cannot afford to move out, but living with my mum is very difficult as she doesn't understand my depression and causes me a huge amount of stress and upset and doesn't help my condition at all. She constantly invades my privacy, name calls and says things such as ' you are just a lodger', accuses me of being lazy and generally making it clear she doesn't want me living at home anymore but I have no choice. I have tried to make her understand about depression but there is just no way of getting through.

    I understand the first thing to do if you want to move out is to get a job, but with my mental health conditions it is really difficult. I try and push myself into looking for a job but the other problem is I don't really know what I could do that wont affect my conditions. I have had jobs in the past which were retail and admin but have had horrible experiences (they made my depression severe).

    I also have thought about studying but I don't know what I would like to do and whether it would be right for me.

    I desperately want to move out with my boyfriend but I don't know what to do to make it happen. I can't live at home much longer because it is making my conditions worse and I can't take anymore stress than I have to deal with already.

    What can I do? Please help
    I'm in a bit of the same boat so i've not got the best advice, but there are some charities to help people in situations like this so you can try to look into that. One is the Richmond Fellowship which has 3 main ways it helps people, including helping them find work.
    Maybe you could look into something a little more freelance in the job area. Things like dog walking or babysitting can actually bring in a reasonable amount of money if you manage it well.
    I'm not sure if you are also having therapy but that could help you too. CBT is a good type of therapy for anxiety.

    Hope that gives you at least a little bit to look into. Good luck
 
 
 
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