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    (Original post by jneill)
    It's also extremely insulting specifically in South Africa, and it's usage there can land you in a lot of trouble.

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    Aha. I shall take care when I talk to South Africans, then.

    Oh wait, I know someone from South Africa who also drinks kefir for breakfast. Probably makes them cringe.
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    how can you have a life without drinking is what I want to know.....
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    (Original post by 27FT)
    You don't have to apologise I'm sorry if I sounded rude. You're only 17, I'm just telling you that you have freedom of speech it's not nice to insult people. You can just say non-believers instead or English people
    Can I just say thank you for approaching the kuffar manner in a really mature, friendly way! As a fluent Arabic speaker it is true that the word isn't one of the most pleasant to use. I had to reply to you on this because so many times I see people rude to eachother about this sorta stuff, especially in our Islamic communities unfortunately a lot of us can be quite judgmental! But you handled it beautifully, keep being you
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    (Original post by kangsterf)
    I hate dunking alcohol, it makes me feel sick and it's just not something I enjoy at all. But I enjoy making friends and socialising. The problem is that I'm worried that most of the social activities at uni are going to revolve around alcohol- clubbing, going to bars and pubs.

    What can I do to make friends and socialise if I don't want to consume any alcohol? I want to go to UCL but from what I've heard the social life there revolves around drinking a lot
    I think the question is based on a faulty assumption, i.e. that all non-academic activities involve alcohol. They don't.

    My daughter doesn't like to drink to excess and she had no problem making friends, dating, and partying at university. She didn't hang out with the serious drinkers, but plenty of her friends would drink. She just stopped after the first glass or had none at all.
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    (Original post by Reality Check)
    Rounding off a meal in style. Petit fours and brandy: that's the way the CT roll.
    And kedgeree with bucks fizz for breakfast. Obv.

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    (Original post by kangsterf)
    What can I do to make friends and socialise if I don't want to consume any alcohol?
    Plenty of other drugs out there, most much nicer than alcohol, knock yourself out.
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    (Original post by jneill)
    It's also extremely insulting specifically in South Africa, and it's usage there can land you in a lot of trouble.

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    If I had to write down countries where it would be super offensive, South Africa would not be anywhere near the top of my list...
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    (Original post by Aria Enoshima)
    If I had to write down countries where it would be super offensive, South Africa would not be anywhere near the top of my list...
    It is (was) a word used by some white people to insult black people.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kaffir_(racial_term)
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    (Original post by kangsterf)
    I hate dunking alcohol, it makes me feel sick and it's just not something I enjoy at all. But I enjoy making friends and socialising. The problem is that I'm worried that most of the social activities at uni are going to revolve around alcohol- clubbing, going to bars and pubs.

    What can I do to make friends and socialise if I don't want to consume any alcohol? I want to go to UCL but from what I've heard the social life there revolves around drinking a lot
    you can always go out eating lol
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    Yet people are allowed to insult me? Hardly seems fair but ok I'll stop using it.
    It's not so much that people are insulting you. In most of your posts you are insulting someone. And when people are annoyed they will come back at you. You have to accept that. You are entitled to your religion, as am I. As a Christian I find you referring to me as kuffar highly offensive. Would you prefer people to judge you by your actions and words and comment how kind you are? Or do you prefer what is happening now? That you are judgemental and inflammatory and don't portray Islam in a good light
    You have to accept that not everyone believes what you do. Me included I hope that I wouldn't go out of my way to offend people though. By no means should you hide your religion. It defines who you are. Please let us see the kindness from you that you say Islam is
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    what a ridiculous thing to say
    you think people "enjoy drinking"?
    you think people chug beer thinking "mm that tastes lovely"?
    no! people drink because they HAVE to drink.
    because drinking makes them just that little bit less miserable.
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    (Original post by kangsterf)
    I hate dunking alcohol, it makes me feel sick and it's just not something I enjoy at all. But I enjoy making friends and socialising. The problem is that I'm worried that most of the social activities at uni are going to revolve around alcohol- clubbing, going to bars and pubs.

    What can I do to make friends and socialise if I don't want to consume any alcohol? I want to go to UCL but from what I've heard the social life there revolves around drinking a lot
    go out to things but don't drink no one will make you drink.
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    Yet people are allowed to insult me? Hardly seems fair but ok I'll stop using it.
    And this is what screams immature 17 year old. Of course people shouldn't insult you but just because they do does not mean you need to sink to their level.
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    Yet people are allowed to insult me? Hardly seems fair but ok I'll stop using it.
    People aren't ever allowed to insult you or make you feel worthless. You are allowed to believe in whatever you choose, that is in your right, and if someone tries to take that away from you then they are in the wrong. But two wrongs don't make a right, so if you insult others you are just stooping down to their level
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    Kuffar means non believers, what are you talking about? It's a perfectly acceptable term and an accurate term to use.
    A 'non believer', don't you mean a non believer of Islam, I believe in many things.
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    (Original post by kangsterf)
    I hate dunking alcohol, it makes me feel sick and it's just not something I enjoy at all. But I enjoy making friends and socialising. The problem is that I'm worried that most of the social activities at uni are going to revolve around alcohol- clubbing, going to bars and pubs.

    What can I do to make friends and socialise if I don't want to consume any alcohol? I want to go to UCL but from what I've heard the social life there revolves around drinking a lot
    You could take theanine

    or phenibut
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    You can still go out without drinking. I don't get why not drinking automatically means you cannot go out with your friends. ???
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    (Original post by Sabby888)
    Can I just say thank you for approaching the kuffar manner in a really matiure, friendly way! As a fluent Arabic speaker it is true that the word isn't one of the most pleasant to use. I had to reply to you on this because so many times I see people rude to eachother about this sorta stuff, especially in our Islamic communities unfortunately a lot of us can be quite judgmental! But you handled it beautifully, keep being you
    Thank you and I'll try (to keep being me)
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    (Original post by Reality Check)
    Drinking is an important part of our culture. However, who said anything about being drunk? Certainly not the OP.
    I can't help but notice you purposely picking a fight.
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    (Original post by Cherub012)
    Join a sport soc.
    Not sure if srs
 
 
 
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