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    (Original post by ShannyMorrison)
    The way you reacted was terrible. I think you genuinely need counselling, you're emotionally immature and are prone to irritability, irrational behaviour and violent/aggressive behaviour. If I'm ignored I don't flip my lid like a four year old not getting their own way. I ignore their behaviour, talk to them about it or ask someone who is good with relationship advice.

    I swear, you created this thread for attention and to play the victim card. Sorry dear, but it isn't going to go your way. This website has far too many rational people on it for that. Grow up, go to therapy and sort your damn life out.
    Oh can you just stop trying to diagnose people over the internet, it never works. And nope, you are wrong, I genuinely wanted to know what people think. I suspected that a lot of people will take his side but, admittedly, did not really expect that most of them will. Who knows, maybe I'm really crazy? But I honestly think that repeatedly ignoring a person you supposedly 'love' is much worse than some property damage (bearing in mind that he doesn't consider his mobile phone as something expensive, it's like an inexpensive keychain to him, or something).
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    I'm judging you based on the information you gave me. I never once mentioned a condition, I said you had an abnormal temper which you certainly do. You're blinded if you honestly thought most people would take your side over his. Still, this doesn't speak volumes to you.

    The phone being expensive or not isn't the point. If I smash a tacky ASDA mug at the wall behind him, am I not still being violent? Nah, it's just something cheap I threw therefore it doesn't matter. Damage is damage, violence is violence. Paint it with whatever brush but it is what it is.
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    (Original post by ShannyMorrison)
    I'm judging you based on the information you gave me. I never once mentioned a condition, I said you had an abnormal temper which you certainly do. You're blinded if you honestly thought most people would take your side over his. Still, this doesn't speak volumes to you.

    The phone being expensive or not isn't the point. If I smash a tacky ASDA mug at the wall behind him, am I not still being violent? Nah, it's just something cheap I threw therefore it doesn't matter. Damage is damage, violence is violence. Paint it with whatever brush but it is what it is.
    All of your posts have hit the nail on the head. OP doesn't seem to understand how juvenile and problematic his/ her reactions are. And refuses to seek any help or admit wrongdoing on their part, and instead attempts to pin the blame on someone else.
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    Oh can you just stop trying to diagnose people over the internet, it never works. And nope, you are wrong, I genuinely wanted to know what people think. I suspected that a lot of people will take his side but, admittedly, did not really expect that most of them will. Who knows, maybe I'm really crazy? But I honestly think that repeatedly ignoring a person you supposedly 'love' is much worse than some property damage (bearing in mind that he doesn't consider his mobile phone as something expensive, it's like an inexpensive keychain to him, or something).
    Tbh it sounds like your bf tolerates you extremely well. You live in his house and entirely off of his income. He deals with your outbursts and is still with you, despite you refusing to acknowledge your problematic behaviours issues and refusing to seek help. He certainly is not ignoring you.
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    (Original post by Bubblyminty)
    All of your posts have hit the nail on the head. OP doesn't seem to understand how juvenile and problematic his/ her reactions are. And refuses to seek any help or admit wrongdoing on their part, and instead attempts to pin the on someone else.
    ^Precisely. I can tell that OP will never change and will one day find themselves either on charge for violence wondering where it went wrong, or will be sitting alone in an armchair wondering where everyone went. Some people can't see themselves for who they truly are.
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    (Original post by ShannyMorrison)
    I'm judging you based on the information you gave me. I never once mentioned a condition, I said you had an abnormal temper which you certainly do. You're blinded if you honestly thought most people would take your side over his. Still, this doesn't speak volumes to you.

    The phone being expensive or not isn't the point. If I smash a tacky ASDA mug at the wall behind him, am I not still being violent? Nah, it's just something cheap I threw therefore it doesn't matter. Damage is damage, violence is violence. Paint it with whatever brush but it is what it is.
    Violent?
    Nope, I'm not. Are you people robots? Seriously? Your loved one keeps ignoring you, for like 2 weeks, browsing *****y Facebook, instead of at least pretending to act like he cares, even for 10 stupid minutes, or openly telling you to **** off, and you do nothing? You calmly talk to him, AGAIN, knowing that it's not going to help because you've already tried it 10 times? Really? And you're saying that something's wrong with me?
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    If my 'loved one' ignored me for two weeks straight I would do the normal thing and leave. You live off his income, you damage his stuff and act like a child and still feel like it's justified because he has 'ignored' you. This relationship doesn't sound healthy regardless of whose fault it is.

    Have you taken a moment to consider perhaps he's sick and tired of your childish behaviour, irrational outbursts and temper? That's probably why he has no time for you. Not because he doesn't love you but because he's sick and tired of you being that way.
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    Violent?
    Nope, I'm not. Are you people robots? Seriously? Your loved one keeps ignoring you, for like 2 weeks, browsing *****y Facebook, instead of at least pretending to act like he cares, even for 10 stupid minutes, or openly telling you to **** off, and you do nothing? You calmly talk to him, AGAIN, knowing that it's not going to help because you've already tried it 10 times? Really? And you're saying that something's wrong with me?
    Everything ShannyMorrison has said is pretty reasonable.

    Anyway, perhaps you and your bf both have issues. Or maybe he is tired of your behaviour and you not seeking help. Speaking from personal experience, living with someone who has mental health issues is exhausting. It makes one feel frustrated and helpless. Perhaps your bf just wants an escape rn, that is possibly why he is ignoring you and on FB.

    The reality of living with someone with enduring mental health issues is not easy. Not seeking help is actually unfair on your bf, because he has to deal with your ****. You should be dealing with your **** by getting the right help. But all you seem to say is "it's pointless it's pointless". That must be mighty frustrating for your bf. It's almost self-fulfilling.
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    (Original post by ShannyMorrison)
    If my 'loved one' ignored me for two weeks straight I would do the normal thing and leave. You live off his income, you damage his stuff and act like a child and still feel like it's justified because he has 'ignored' you. This relationship doesn't sound healthy regardless of whose fault it is.

    Have you taken a moment to consider perhaps he's sick and tired of your childish behaviour, irrational outbursts and temper? That's probably why he has no time for you. Not because he doesn't love you but because he's sick and tired of you being that way.
    Of course I have. Why do you think I even bothered trying to make today special for him? Because I wanted to show him that I'm still trying, and because I wanted to enjoy the rest of the weekend with him. I spent a lot of time looking up food porn pics, recipes and ****, then I spent ages in the kitchen, all for nothing, not even a thank you.
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    Of course I have. Why do you think I even bothered trying to make today special for him? Because I wanted to show him that I'm still trying, and because I wanted to enjoy the rest of the weekend with him. I spent a lot of time looking up food porn pics, recipes and ****, then I spent ages in the kitchen, all for nothing, not even a thank you.
    One action can't solve everything, especially when the issues are big as they are. I think he might prefer if you both left the house and did something together. Also if you really thought about how your outbursts have impacted the relationship, you would be better if by discussing the issues like reasonable people, rather than cooking up a nice meal. I suspect your bf is annoyed at the lack of open communication between you both.
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    (Original post by Bubblyminty)
    One action can't solve everything, especially when the issues are big as they are. I think he might prefer if you both left the house and did something together. Also if you really thought about how your outbursts have impacted the relationship, you would both be discussing this reasonable people this rather than cooking up a nice meal.
    Of course one action can't solve anything. Still, baby steps are better than nothing, or at least that's what I thought. I guess not. Oh well, I don't care anymore either, he can do whatever he wants now.
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    Of course one action can't solve anything. Still, baby steps are better than OH nothing, or at least that's what I thought. I guess not. Oh well, I don't care anymore either, he can do whatever he wants now.
    I think you should both go on a walk somewhere quiet tomorrow. Apologise to him and tell him that him ignoring you made you feel upset. You both need to talk to eachother.
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    Your life is not pointless, OP. You have so many people around you ready to suppot you, and you are not alone. If you really want to save this relationship, you NEED to take contol of your temper, and you NEED to start by loving yourself and making an improvement. Your feelings were justified, but your actions werent.

    Now, just step away from the situation, dont pester him any longer, give him space and time, make yourself a nice cuppa and try to relax. Dont beat yourself up about what happened. It couldve been a lot worse and in time you both will get over this. But you need to start by getting up, and feeling motivated to find a job and try to improve yourself as a person. You cannot keep having angry bursts like this, it gets draining. It will ruin the relationship. Certainly, you were not trying to be violent at all. You just lost your cool and got over your head and made a mistake. Its happened now. Best thing you can do now is move forward and make sure something like this never happens again.
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    As someone who doesn't use social media, I also get massively pissed off when people go on their phone when I'm with them but I guess its become the norm in society now. So you're seen as crazy if you expect someone to actually not go on their phone.
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    If its not working out then just leave him ?
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    (Original post by Casisalive)
    If its not working out then just leave him ?
    She won't, she's already openly admitted he's rich and is under the assumption that he will never leave her as living together makes this impossible, while at the same time openly declaring that she lives in the real world and most of us do not...
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    (Original post by loooopppyyy)
    She won't, she's already openly admitted he's rich and is under the assumption that he will never leave her as living together makes this impossible, while at the same time openly declaring that she lives in the real world and most of us do not...
    Lol, when did I ever say that? Why don't you stop lying?
    I only said that he can't really avoid seeing me right now because we LIVE TOGETHER, and it's his house so he's not going to just 'leave', as in, move the hell out. Never 'declared' anything about 'living in the real world'.
    So what if he's wealthy? Why point that out? It's got nothing to do with the rest of your post.
    And it's HE. Not SHE.
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    Lol he doesn't really have much choice, considering we live together.
    (Original post by Ciel.)
    It's natural to get angry sometimes. Unless you are a robot... If this is 'violent' for you... God, you're not going to survive in the real word.
    You kinda insinuated it though...
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    (Original post by loooopppyyy)
    You kinda insinuated it though...
    Nope, you misunderstood me.
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    Not going to continue arguing, the fact of the matter is;

    You broke your other halfs phone in a fit of rage over something extremely trivial.
    Didn't perceive this as wrong.
    Then qq on these forums thinking the majority will take your side and sympathise with you.
    We don't.
    You then consider us ALL wrong and won't take anyones advice.

    // Close thread probably a good idea right about now to avoid more embarrassment.
 
 
 
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